Advice for cold approach? im struggling, especially really pretty women

ifIwantedu_Idhaveu · 2022-01-21T05:46:15+00:00

Good for you for giving up OLD and approaching/talking to women IRL! 👏🏻 It really is a numbers game, so don’t get discouraged. The next woman you approach could be your dream girl!

Unless the guy’s a weirdo, I’m always impressed by a man who has the courage to approach, and even if I’m not interested, I’ll be kind and respectful.

If a woman rolls her eyes when you’re just trying to talk to her, walk away. It’s a reflection on her, not you.

My career depends on my looks, so they’re on a level that men find intimidating. I can’t speak for other women, but here are my insights:

Next level beautiful/sexy women are overwhelmed with attention. Everyone stares, even babies. You walk into a noisy room and it goes quiet-all eyes on you, then lots of whispering and glassy-eyed men frozen like 🐇in headlights. You’re an object, a doll. You get used to it, but it’s always there.

So by the time you approach me, I’ve likely been dealing with other men all day. Take heart tho: 99% just stare or act weird. Most are too afraid to approach directly. You’ll stand out!

Don’t worry about being nervous, it’s actually charming and flattering.

A guy trying to ask me out was trembling all over. I wanted to reassure him, but didn’t want him to feel emasculated. I knew he was working up to inviting me to dinner when he asked, “Do you eat?” He realized he’d fumbled his words and backtracked. He missed his opportunity, because he was stuck in his head.

The more you accept being nervous, the calmer you’ll start feeling. Just go with it.

Yes, you’re competing with lots of men. I’m not sharing this info to discourage you, but to give you an edge over the competition.

Men want the most beautiful women, so to be successful with us, you’ll need to be a top shelf man.

First step: stop focusing on tactics to “get her”, beautiful women have heard it all (hence the eye rolling). We see right through the PUA/RP bs-it’s an automatic disqualification. Instead, focus on being and presenting your best self.

Be honest about what you need to improve on and develop an abundance/growth mindset. Hit the gym, eat healthy, respect your body.

Be impeccable with your grooming, hygiene, and manners.

Love women and don’t buy into misogyny. Don’t listen to or associate with male-bashing females either. Lots of women genuinely love men, I do 💋

Women are visual and have physical standards for men, just like men do for women. We have preferences and what we’re attracted to is out of our control. It’s out of yours too.

And no, your personality, wealth, or seduction skills, will NoT make me feel attracted to you if there was no initial attraction.

That’s a myth originating long ago when women had few choices, and it’s been perpetuated to make men feel better.

Trying to impress with wealth will attract users, and will backfire on you. You’re enough. Have faith in your value as a man.

Talking to me for a few minutes longer may make me more interested if I’m already attracted to you.

Or it could make me less interested and weed you out, but it won’t create attraction.

If I don’t feel some attraction at the moment I see you, it’s never gonna happen. Just accept it and approach other women. Attraction is fickle.

glow43 · 2022-01-21T00:42:15+00:00

You do not need to stay in the interaction longer. It doesn’t matter what you say. In the first 3 seconds she will see if you’re attractive to her. And if you are it again doesn’t matter what you say she will be willing to go out with you if you ask. Of course as long as you don’t sperg out completely.

You can literally keep it as short as “hey im meeting a friend but i figured id stop by to say hi to you” “my name is x” “besides strangers stopping you like this what do you do in your free time” “ok cool cool you wanna hang out some time?”

The end. There’s your game go out and do this 100 times

masmiester · 2022-01-21T09:24:56+00:00

Mate, great start ..... please note that if you want get good you will need to hit this harder. 1 approach a day won't give you the practice and feedback needed and you want. You need to be getting to places where there are lots of women - join groups or do activities with lots of women congregate - dancing, vollenteering. Etc.... And regardless if you like them or not bars/clubs have a very high conentration of people out to socialise and approach. Even if day gaming you need to go to busy areas.

programwithhf · 2022-01-21T05:30:49+00:00

If you having issues on running out on things to say. That clearly indicates that you have some sort of formulaic script from start to finish. I tried that and it often ends in disaster. A lot of the best conversations I have had was when I did my basic introductions and try to build chemistry by asking them questions. Once you ask questions and engage in active listening then you are winning.

dark_starling9 · 2022-01-21T01:51:37+00:00

Wish I could help people with this even just virtually, it is just hard to stay dynamic in the moment though

dobbs1997 · 2022-01-21T15:28:04+00:00

you’re probably struggling cause you’re putting these women on a pedestal before you even open your mouth to talk to them….walk up to them but from a different place, don’t go up trying to impress her or get her to like you, go up with a mindset of “i wanna see if I like HER”..be real with her about why you went up, be cordial and pleasant, make a little small talk, flirt if you know how (if not don’t sweat it) and then tell her to give you her number or you give her yours & tell her to text or call you (don’t ask for the number). the whole interaction doesn’t have to be more than 5 mins…if she gives bad vibes right away then just walk away & move onto the next, you don’t need to stick around for that lol ..try to slow down your speech, you stutter and talk fast cause you’re nervous and that nervousness like i said could come from you pedestalizing these women.

fockerjunior · 2022-01-21T05:03:01+00:00

instead of "have a nice day bye" say :"let me get your number"

if a girl rolls her eyes and looks away and acts like you are annoying her cease the interaction right away and don't approach again.

I'd say best desensitizing of this would be to do the opinion pick up where you ask them their opinion on something. I make mine really goofy like "Hey miss can I ask you your opinion? If a guy thinks a girl is beautiful should he tell her directly or no?" Doesn't even matter what she answers its just to have an excuse to say something.

thelambofdeth · 2022-01-21T01:36:20+00:00

Lower your standards.

skaag · 2022-01-21T12:31:27+00:00

They poop out of their buttholes, too! Also: I found a lot of “pretty” women felt they didn’t have to work hard to get things, which was kind of a turn off. I don’t want to generalize, there are also beautiful women who are extremely smart and hard working, but I think it’s pretty rare. At least in the US. Things change when you go to places like Colombia or Japan, where you can find extremely beautiful women who are down to earth and approachable.

No-Department6252 · 2022-01-21T18:58:28+00:00

stop cold approaching women like this is 2009 or something. if a woman is not actively trying to seduce you are not attractive in her eyes. women know who they want to fuck and who is going to fuck after .5 seconds of seeing a guy. no point in cold approaching if she fundamentally doesn't find you attractive. women will literally approach you if she finds you attractive but it's subtle. only focus on the women that want you and if the women you want are not attractive become better looking.

Title	Advice for cold approach? im struggling, especially really pretty women
Author	e3cdspce
Upvotes	44
Comments	48
Date	January 21, 2022 12:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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