Be Humble.

godstriker8 · 2017-11-24T06:22:00+00:00

Sit down.

SoundSalad · 2017-11-24T09:16:42+00:00

I disagree about your recommendation to wait until next time you see each other to tell her you also speak French.

After you learn she speaks French, I would personally recommend replying to her in French immediately, asking her some kind of question or saying something cute/cheesy.

After all, you may never get that second chance to see her.

physicalbitcoin · 2017-11-24T09:10:03+00:00

I think the best balance is to reveal the history and then downplay it.

"I studied French for 6 months, but I don't feel I speak enough. I need a refresher course."

This gives them the info, shows humility, and shows them you have goals and a mission.

IMO there's no need to go full on silent about achievements, but I get that people shouldn't boast.

_MysticFox · 2017-11-24T05:14:11+00:00

Then how do people 'find out' that you know French if you never speak it?

MagnusRoundstone · 2017-11-24T05:55:44+00:00

“Humility” implies it could be something someone would find impressive. I know a foreign language was just an example but probably a poor one in the dating context. Not bragging about owning a Lamborghini is a good example of humility. Hiding knowledge of a foreign language seems pretty tiny.

rathyAro · 2017-11-24T07:37:07+00:00

I have a friend who relentlessly brags and still slays decently well. I don't think the bragging helps him but he somehow manages to get past it. Female friend met him and she said he was cool aside from coming off super cocky. Read that as you will.

mancozbi · 2017-11-24T14:40:33+00:00

I often tell myself: "shut the fuck up". It's a wonderful thing. It's just magic in so many situations.

ethical_pa · 2017-11-24T06:48:42+00:00

"Constraint breeds creativity". Love it.

ImJustSo · 2017-11-24T14:07:39+00:00

Everything in moderation, including humbleness.

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-24T18:16:02+00:00

Lol this is so silly. You’re putting way too much weight on this without considering the context

Luis_McLovin · 2017-11-24T18:30:20+00:00

This is ridiculous.

Bad-Wolf- · 2017-11-24T18:31:56+00:00

Yeah. Don't qualify yourself. You can talk about it, but make it a no big deal

Raikkonen716 · 2017-11-24T20:24:27+00:00

Mhh don't know man. More often than not impressing someone (particularly if it's the first time you meet them) is that one thing that keeps the other person interested in interacting with you. There may be no other chance to meet that person again, and by telling your achievements immediatly that person will have a memory of you. Not only that, it can also happen that if you don't put something special about you on the table immediately, the other person may consider you just like all the others, without anything special.

I have a perfect real life example of this: In the gym i once met a girl and discovered she was learning Russian. I immediately stated that i know Russian too, and that was huge because nearly nobody knows Russian in my country. She immediatly categorised me as a non ordinary guy, i leveraged that first impression and as a result she was all over me for a lot of time.

wavefield · 2017-11-24T12:57:41+00:00

This is really not good advice. By all means don't brag but if you find an opportunity for common ground you should take it. Try to have an interesting non obvious conversation subject, but dont avoid common ground so you can save it up to later. You will just end up not talking to her again. Maybe this depends on your personality but Im much more likely to not talk to a cute girl than to say something that sounds like bragging

rational_rai · 2017-11-25T06:18:02+00:00

I kinda get where this is coming from, on the flipside though, this kind of behaviour seems way too intentional.

harleystcool · 2017-11-25T14:54:59+00:00

"my dick is only 4 inches, but i guess some girls like it that thick"

Pooterfg · 2017-12-20T10:14:15+00:00

Don't try to prove yourself, don't try at all that's how you seduce

King_Pyrrhus · 2017-11-25T00:47:58+00:00

But.... I speak five 😪

CrotchFungus · 2017-11-24T04:43:30+00:00

This is shit advice. Just tell her you speak french and stop overthinking.

Title	Be Humble.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	252
Comments	52
Date	November 24, 2017 3:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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