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kettlebell_workout · 2020-09-09T23:59:33+00:00

The "What's your name" opener works only for static (non-moving) targets, such as in the shops, parks when sitting.

There will be these scenarios:

She gives her name without asking "why?". Usually this indicates high level of attraction, and 99% you will get the number.
She will say her name, but then ask "why?". This is 50/50. Her level of attraction is not high. You have to put more work.
She will ask "why?" without given her name. She didn't like you. The best thing you can do say "nothing" and walk away.

disclaimer: I opened around 50 sets using this one, is not that much, so results could be skewed.

yarajaaee786 · 2020-09-10T03:49:13+00:00

its so good to see youre not attached to the outcome man. like the fuck can you do lol. goood luck in the future, with this type of confidence i have no doubt youll do fine ✌🏾

DestinyChitChat · 2020-09-10T04:07:42+00:00

That's direct approach. High risk/high reward. You did good. Not all guys can accept the amount of rejection direct approaches have compared to indirect, but the trade off is you skip all the beginning steps when it's successful. Keep going bud!

Jock_Status · 2020-09-10T03:21:45+00:00

Your opener was fine she could have entertained it if she was interested openers dont matter how your vibe and your intentions only happens with experience dont get hung up on openers though

Godisgoodkj142 · 2020-09-10T09:12:50+00:00

her behavior seemed like a 2/10

starfire_xes · 2020-09-10T08:18:05+00:00

This girl into a pub, looked at me and said "don't look at me". I ignored her. Completely getting ignored is worse than a shit test. This girl was about a 2, just above a homely 1. Also never get angry, it makes one look ridiculous.

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-09-10T07:40:42+00:00

Give a purpose and time horizon in your first words and phrase it as a question. I.e. "can we meet for just a second?" "Is it alright if I say something quickly?"

This is your subopener. If you do it properly it reduces the ignores by a good percentage. It softens the impact since it immediately puts out a low pressure frame and gets her brain tracking on your words. Don't wait for a reply for more than a second, just go on to your opener.

The other key to stop instant rejection is approaching as close to the moment you're aware of her presence as possible. It makes your subopener come across as more true. No girl likes a pervy vibe and that's what she'll get if you've been burning a hole in her back.

hissy1 · 2020-09-09T23:03:45+00:00

try just hi, if she responds then ask how she is. If she doesn’t reply then she must have some serious trust issues.

KingRemu · 2020-09-09T23:39:06+00:00

Kudos to you for approaching! You already did what most don't have the balls to do but the opener wasn't the best. If you think about it, she has no reason to tell you her name since you are a complete stranger to her. She might not have any idea why you are even approaching her. She could think that maybe you are selling something, could be anything really. I like direct openers that have intent and which create a man to woman dynamic right from the get go.

Next time try something like "Hey! I saw you from over there and thought you looked cute/badass/liked your style/whatever so I wanted to come say 'hi'. I'm <insert name>."

BaddestofUsernames · 2020-09-10T03:59:38+00:00

Bro, if she was a 9/10, she probably has plenty of guys trying to pick her up at any one time, and prolly has a bf. Dont feel bad! Imagine being in her shoes, and the 12 guy this week come up to hit on her, and she's got something else on her mind. She coulda been polite about it, but you did nothing wrong man. Good work.

djbjgm · 2020-09-10T10:00:12+00:00

You came up from behind a woman walking alone on the street and got in her face and demanded to know her name? If your goal is to prove some sort of point, then you accomplished it. If your goal is to make a stranger feel uncomfortable and probably unsafe, then you accomplished it. But let’s be clear, what you did is NOT approach a girl for a date or something otherwise positive. Your actions are clearly intended to prove your power and diminish hers. That’s not seduction.

OldTimer887 · 2020-09-10T04:18:26+00:00

It’s Th vibe ya put out

How you said et along wit Th thoughts in yah mind

_Gifty_ · 2020-09-10T09:43:32+00:00

You did great man. Just use a better opener next time.

BurdenofPain · 2020-09-10T12:13:10+00:00

Shake it off and on to the next.

onenightstanduhoes · 2020-09-10T13:23:14+00:00

Can you describe how the eye contact went

Metalgear222 · 2020-09-10T16:52:42+00:00

your problem was in the first sentence of your post.

It’s a numbers game. get rejected more often until you’re numb to it or til it only fuels you more.

Practice practice practice. And be bold in your approaches.

kyzen142 · 2020-09-18T23:39:24+00:00

Loll that happened to me once i was with a friend walking by the lake this girl walking towards us so i decide to approach her. I say hi and she completely ignores me I felt goosebumps on the back back my head from imbressement. It was pretty painful.

ip_g_chodder · 2020-09-09T22:09:17+00:00

That one's good. I also like when they roll their eyes and just shrug

GoldSmith64 · 2020-09-09T22:52:29+00:00

It do be like that sometimes

InternationalBorder9 · 2020-09-10T06:11:24+00:00

Perfect attitude. If she wants to be rude that's on her. The fact it didn't bother you is the key

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-09-10T18:01:53+00:00

No. Just no. It’s completely unnatural to walk up to a complete stranger and have the first thing out their mouths as “what’s your name?”. This never happens outside kindergarten.

What you do is use some common sense: you see her and if she’s walking or in the middle of something, politely excuse the intrusion (which shows that you respect her time and don’t see her as a belt notch toward you conquering your social anxiety). Next you introduce yourself and then tell her why you are interrupting her. The why is important. This is where you can show your sexual intent in subtle ways, and say things that can make her laugh, blush and think. This is where verbal game comes in. But learning canned shit is no good. It’s best if you are comfortable with your sexual self and bring her your authenticity. Your self that is showing interest but could care less if she bites or not.

Then without taking up too much time you give her your number and say “have a great day, I look foreword to hearing from you”. Giving is much more of a confident move than asking. Asking is passive and approval seeking.

ManHands22 · 2020-09-10T06:37:13+00:00

You're aiming too high, go for a 6/10 and take it from there. I'm obviously making an assumption here (and even being slightly charitable). Stick to someone as attractive as your are.

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Date	September 9, 2020 9:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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