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MeTarzanAaaaahhh · 2022-10-20T13:26:06+00:00

I’ve been in a very similar situation for 5 years with lots of kissing & some sex. She claims I’m her “best friend “, but she can’t find time for a date. Only last minute meet ups

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-10-20T11:21:31+00:00

I’m so annoyed, after all my contributions to this community dudes are still hung up on chicks, this is a mindset issue more than anything. Stop thinking about girls and what they’re like, start wondering about you.

xiosy · 2022-10-20T10:25:04+00:00

You guys make girls look like goddess they are humans aswell and not worth more than you so set your levels high

D3vi1b0y · 2022-10-20T11:51:06+00:00

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luroot · 2022-10-20T14:18:31+00:00

💯!!! 👌

And the real kicker is...when they then suddenly find the time to go hang out with some other dude, who has probably invested wayyyy less time than you!

I'd say that if she shows ANY hesitancy for actually meeting up soon...then she is just stringing you along for validation. Either she's really excited to meet up with you soon...or she's not.

Because, ultimately it boils down to a binary choice - she's either DTF or she's not. And there is no in between. Either your peen is going in her vageen, or it's not. And everything else leads up to that. So being kinndda DTF...is still not DTF. And if she's not actually DTF you, then what's the point of meeting you?

You usually experience this with girls in their 20s inundated with a fuckton of options, or also just women of any age who don't specifically need whatever you have to offer at their point in life.

So at this point, I don't play anymore. I don't cut them slack and just let it slide, hoping they'll come around, figuring, what have I got to lose? That only makes it worse, time and again (which I've actually done for up to ~2 years before...all resulting in NOTHING!). If they don't want to meet up/hang out/date soon (dodge the topic or keep finding excuses)...then I'm not wasting my previous time on them anymore. I just have very low to zero tolerance now. Period. 🤬

If a lady is truly interested, she will bring up a date and find excuses to actually go on one with you soon. Period!

ArtOfDivine · 2022-10-20T14:14:55+00:00

Tldr: don’t put girls on pedestal

Some men needed to hear this so thank you for this post

walterthecat · 2022-10-20T19:48:26+00:00

Yeah every person is different. Some girls just need validation in what ever way they can get it which is a human need but dating shouldn’t feel like a chore.

In this type of situations it’s probably better to kindly say later and focus your energy elsewhere.

Keithlct · 2022-10-20T21:19:12+00:00

Always tells them upfront what you want during the first date. This way you won't waste time.

chamberlain323 · 2022-10-20T22:30:10+00:00

Yeah, I had a run in with one of these women who I met through freelance work a couple of years ago. It was my first exposure to this phenomenon so I had no resistance built up for it and mistook her initiating conversation with me (via text usually) as genuine romantic interest at first. As time wore on I learned that she was in an emotionally unfulfilling relationship with a boyfriend that she was living with and craved attention and since she found me funny and knew I was single she would reach out and flirt almost daily.

The pandemic was raging and since I was in lockdown, I had zero other options I let it continue longer than I should have. To my credit, I turned my back and stopped replying once she found flimsy excuse #2 not to hang out in person after I tried to meet up the second time. She got the drift and stopped reaching out herself, then ultimately moved out of state anyway. Now I know this is a thing. Lesson learned.

UnclaimedFortune · 2022-10-20T12:26:09+00:00

Actually it's a really good post, it shows narcissistic traits and a lot of inexperienced men ( i fell into that trap a few times ) don't know how to handle or recognize.

It's actually one of the best posts i've seen here in a while, if i'd have an award i'd give you one.

UnclaimedFortune · 2022-10-20T11:14:20+00:00

And then they’ll take all your money.

marshall_strud · 2022-10-20T18:02:36+00:00

Yea no shit. Ur game isn’t tight enough if this happens.

Mountain-Surround663 · 2022-10-20T18:50:50+00:00

Don’t ever admit to a girl that you like her in a romantic and erotic sense, you have to show that you like her with qualifications but never too much, gain rapport in order to break it soon after.

This will leave her with the doubt: “He truly likes me?? (in the eros sense). When you have the chance to be with her alone, she not knowing exactly what are your intentions could bring a sexual tension. And the r/seduction starts!

UnclaimedFortune · 2022-10-20T14:47:21+00:00

Literally all the points you list are shit that the man is allowing to happen, probably due to loneliness or from flat out being a loser.

Seducers are supposed to lead, not be strung along accepting whatever scraps on social media you’re given. That’s what losers do. They follow and react to the actions of women and then bitch and complain when they don’t get the outcome they are looking for.

Seducers take no for an answer and move on to the next one, not bitch and sulk about how long she spent with you and how much action you got. Most women have no shortage of friends or dick. They don’t need to hang out with one of several guys that they have little in common with, begging them to hang out. It’s a seducers job to make the woman WANT to spend time with them and WANT to fuck them. Her going out with you is supposed to be her going out for dick if getting action is what you care about. When you hang out with your guy friends do you also complain you didn’t get a kiss? This is exactly how the woman you’re speaking about more than likely views your hanging out.

There’s nothing wrong for falling for someone attractive. Finding a woman sexy and letting her know it is what seducers are supposed to do. You falling for her is not taking the bait. You lying to yourself and her about it with this fake friendship but I really want to fuck you bullshit is.

The observe bullshit is the dumbest part of your post. You’re not learning shit from it or becoming better with women. Go out there, stop being an emotional little boy looking for friends and hoping to get his dick wet and be a man who women want to fuck.

distawest · 2022-10-20T20:16:37+00:00

Some men also do these, dude!

I wonder why, but its true, I' ve heard stories from reliable persons

WinterSoldierFalcon · 2022-10-20T16:09:00+00:00

This summer I got a call from a girl that was always on and off with me. Looked like she was attracted to me, then told me to come to a party. She was the whole time with her mobile phone, got to know her friend (and her boyfriend) and it was utterly ridiculous. Only good thing though was her friend had a fantastic ass and was clapping them cheeks to the techno music DJs were playing. She let it fall that a threesome would be nice, and that they had once had one. When I congratulated the boyfriend he told me: "that's so heterobasic." realizing he was a moron, I just thought of fucking his girlfriend while he was looking, from a couch. Watching that fucking ass filled up with oil, clapping them cheeks to my fucking cock in doggy position while that house techno music was playing and that cuckold was looking at me would be a dream come true

Longjumping-Bug-4383 · 2022-10-20T13:22:28+00:00

What about when a guy does the exact same thing to a woman?

PrimitiveAlienz · 2022-10-20T19:40:50+00:00

*people

mrrooftops · 2022-10-21T02:19:40+00:00

How about "Some people will just take your energy and time" and then talk about how guys can be that too. The biggest lessons most guys in here can learn are when a woman treats you negatively how you have treated others, that's usually a wake-up call to sort yourself out in that regard. Most advice in here is applicable to all genders in the same way, it's just whether you are reaching or settling or just plain incongruent with your actual position in the grand scheme of things. A typical guy going for an attractive woman way out of his league acts pretty similar to a typical woman going for an attractive guy way out of her league. So... Some PEOPLE will just take your energy and time - you do, they do. Know your place and sort yourself out first.

Bay2ThaWorld · 2022-10-21T05:18:43+00:00

You spelled “most” wrong

cormacru999 · 2022-10-21T01:25:35+00:00

Its always so strange how many men think women exist for them, for their pleasure, &if they won't shower you with attention or agree to date or hook up, that must mean that those women are faulty or flawed.

Has it ever occurred to you that you aren't worth their time? What makes you such a catch that you think many women should focus on you instead of any other aspects of their lives?

Waste-Oven-5533 · 2022-10-20T17:50:28+00:00

I think it’s important to take the personal out of statements.

Although you are venting and that is valid, taking out the gender and saying “people” instead of girls is I think more accurate.

Also, “girls” implies adolescence and I think in the event you are an adult, you should consider moving away from dating little girls.

2022-10-20T15:31:16+00:00

There’s a lot you left off this list but if you want to cut to the crash and gauge a woman’s interest quickly, just watch how long it takes her to respond back. That’s assuming you have her number and she even responds to begin with but if you’re waiting several hours or even days, move on.

caffeineratt · 2022-10-20T19:14:17+00:00

this one conflicts me as an aromantic individual. I sell the genuine human friendship first

TheTruth221 · 2022-10-21T06:11:08+00:00

always put self first

revente · 2022-10-21T13:13:04+00:00

Then don’t make yourn energy and time so damn cheap.

1 there’s nor reason to be her chat buddy if you don’t have sex.

2 why aren’t you making moves during the meetup?

3 yup

4 why would you waste time talking with some random thott on the phone?

5 maybe she likes to flirt? I’m flirty af, but i’m interested only in a small % of ppl i flirt with

jenkinsonfire · 2022-10-21T15:26:52+00:00

Early on when you start texting her and you notice that she only responds for the sake of responding, but otherwise engages like a dead fish, just cut your losses early and ghost

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