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CareerAdviceThrowMe · 2022-10-05T17:29:35+00:00

He’s probably really interested but feels it’s inappropriate or too risky to make a move on a colleague.

Iloveindianajones · 2022-10-05T17:31:59+00:00

As a straight guy, I am 99% convinced that dude wants to fuck you. I am honestly baffled by the fact you are uncertain about it. If it's still not obvious to you by now that he is madly attracted to you, then idk what else he needs to do. Straight guys are the least complex beings in the world. If we like you, it's usually going to be blatantly obvious.

If you like him back, just fucking ask him out and see what happens. We can't do that for you, unfortunately.

absolutewingedknight · 2022-10-05T17:31:47+00:00

It's somebody who doesn't have the courage to be slightly more obvious about his intent. If you're interested, you might as well make the first move because it doesn't look like he's going to any time soon. Whether it's in the dms or in real life, you're in the driver's seat and is only going to go as far as you let it

pipe01 · 2022-10-05T17:23:21+00:00

Get a room you two

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-05T17:06:09+00:00

... if he is not interested in dating you then he's behaving like a massive, massive weirdo.

have fun you crazy kids.

aeswzrd · 2022-10-05T18:25:53+00:00

What have you done to show him you're interested. Maybe he hasn't asked you out because he's seen no signs of reciprocation. Why does he have to ask you out, why don't you ask him. This questions probably doesn't even belong here.

blue_barracuda · 2022-10-05T17:28:37+00:00

Good signs for sure. He may be hesitant not to make the first move because you two work together. Ask if he wants to tag along for an activity (ideally something you have in common) and he'll almost certainly say yes.

omega05 · 2022-10-05T17:44:30+00:00

Why not just slide in his DM then and just ask him what the deal is with all the casual flirting and liking all your pics.

"You gonna ask me out or what?"

Low_Fondant9911 · 2022-10-05T20:53:01+00:00

Are you actually gay or is that a rumor?

Hook_me_up · 2022-10-05T22:57:10+00:00

It takes literally 1 minute to understand that what you need is not a boyfriend nor a girlfriend. You need therapy. Please seek help

ScottNoWhat · 2022-10-06T01:01:34+00:00

Ladies, LADIES. There is no in between, a man either is confident enough to get straight to the point and ask you out. Or like the majority of us, socially autistic where our emotions manifests in passively stupid ways. If he's around 22 I guarantee he's infatuated with you and has no idea if you feel the same way and how to tell you. Him liking all your posts is him publicly saying he's thirsty for you (he's got confidence but no direction).

I think some of us men would rather exist in a limbo of unspoken sexual tension for our own confidence than risking giving it up.

Gaydame · 2022-10-06T10:45:11+00:00

There's this guy, he always talks to me, he asked me out, he likes all my social media posts, he takes every opportunity to run into me, and he flirts with me.

Do you think he likes me though?

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

Nullroute127 · 2022-10-05T18:22:34+00:00

I'm a little unclear on your post if you're interested in him. In the first part you describe his behavior in ways that implies a level of creepiness, but the conclusion is, "definitely planning on saying something that could lead to discussion about going out..." Are you interested in him?

Based on your description, I'd say there's a good chance of romantic interest on his part. Unfortunately, his ambiguity of and lack of intent is leaving you in an uncomfortable limbo where you can feel tension, and it goes on unresolved.

Ergo, I'm not sure if you want to have this discussion to release the tension by itself, or to actually pursue this is a prospective romantic interest - not that these are mutually exclusive.

Anyway, if you are interested, a casual segue might be, "I thought about your going out offer and I'd like to take you up on it. I'm available ___ "

If you're not interested, and you want to dispel the tension, "I thought about your going out offer, and I don't think it's a fit for me" You want to avoid the soft landing by saying something like, "I don't think we should date because we're coworkers" - If there's any sort of unhealthy to his interest, it may cause him to continue to pursue should his job ever change, or quit and be upset that your condition was met.

invisiblelandscaper · 2022-10-05T18:53:52+00:00

Yes, he’s attracted to you. But clearly he’s too shy to make a move. The simplest way to handle this is just message him on Instagram and ask him if he wants to get coffee sometime.

RenegadeBS · 2022-10-05T20:59:42+00:00

He is totally into you, and too shy/nervous to say anything. If you like him, you should drop a hint so he can go ahead and ask you out already.

Hot-Pound-2634 · 2022-10-05T21:44:37+00:00

Drop a handkerchief.

Marcus_Kovac · 2022-10-05T22:49:09+00:00

Strong, confident, assertive women take the first step and seize the initiative. Ask him out.

jackzander · 2022-10-06T01:29:08+00:00

He's like, blasting you with a steady, unwavering beam of interest.

Like, way more than I'd ever recommend. Like a weirdly intense amount of interest. Enough interest that I'd kinda call it sus and anticipate some adhd shit on his end.

But you're still unsure lmao

hopeless22lol · 2022-10-05T17:31:52+00:00

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TacoRockapella · 2022-10-05T23:38:29+00:00

Block him across all channels.

Lonely-Pikachu · 2022-10-05T19:03:33+00:00

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AndyTateIsRight · 2022-10-05T20:06:20+00:00

go up to him, tell him you like him and do this

rochre · 2022-10-05T22:44:59+00:00

Go out with coworkers and get him drunk. That'll help his courage.

RicoGon · 2022-10-06T01:29:16+00:00

Hes super into you. He wants to get together he’s probably just conflicted about knowing you from work and not wanting to make you uncomfortable out of respect but he wants to make a move so bad.

InquisitiveSoul64 · 2022-10-06T02:22:11+00:00

YES....he definitely likes you

alexmaycovid · 2022-10-06T02:35:23+00:00

Why do you both complicate everything? If he shy to ask you out. If you need this do it yourself. Go out at a park or a coffee shop. Set a specific date and time and go out.

TralalaLUMPKIN · 2022-10-06T02:51:41+00:00

It’s probably because of the current social climate and the fact that you two are work colleagues. He’s definitely interested but I’m sure he’s trying to be careful about how he approaches things with you since there’s a lot of liability for him to hit on a coworker. He’s worried you might think he’s being creepy in the workplace or “pressuring” you or any of those things especially if you’re not overtly showing you are attracted back. If you like him give him a sign or engage him more too!

Interesting-Sign-894 · 2022-10-06T12:03:31+00:00

Hey! From my experience I can Say he is interested in you but not enough to Make the NexT step. If I were you, I would limit my actions by just responding to his actions: if he approaches you, respond in a feminine and flirty way, if he messages you, then respond. This is enough for a man to understand that you are interested. If he is interested enough too, he will pursue you for more.

MEN are very obvious when they want something. Hope this helps you 🤗

sinhaanip · 2022-10-06T12:03:47+00:00

Well, he is definitely into you and wants to know you better.

But he is DLV and neediness… so I don’t think it will go far once you know him. But give it a safe shot.

Worried-Principle580 · 2022-10-06T14:57:36+00:00

He can’t ask you out at work or even via text bc of cancel culture. You’ll have to ask him out. Just start texting him in the evening.

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