When telling stories what kind of emotions are you trying to evoke in your dating partner?

nofapPLEASESTOP · 2022-08-05T02:11:39+00:00

Anything but boredom

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-05T01:35:03+00:00

In this particular order

Trust
Excitement
Comfort

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-05T00:39:24+00:00

If I'm leaving all my worries behind, I wouldn't bring up anything that would evoke worry. I would tell funny stories, interesting ones that are full of adventure.

Neo-Rio · 2022-08-05T01:33:32+00:00

You want to tell stories that evoke the following feelings first:

fascination, curiosity, anticipation, trust, comfort, connection, spark

And then follow that up with

desire, lust, horniness, longing, passion

Seduction - in so far as talking to women - is all about driving towards her having an emotional response. You can tell stories (what someone said, what you saw on TV, what you read on reddit, etc), and within the stories you basically describe to them all the feelings, emotions, and visualizations you want them to have. Within those, you issue commands you want them to act upon. Because it's all in the context of a story, none of what you say is going to be resisted. You can step outside of it if you're not getting the response you're looking for. It was just a story!

So you might start out with something like "I was talking to my friend the other day, and you won't believe what she said. It was like she saw this really hot guy, and began to have all these thoughts... about what it would like to be with this guy. And she began to realize that she was becoming more curious the more she thought about him...." etc etc etc

The thing that men mostly don't understand about how women speak, is that women often speak in such a way that it doesn't have to make logical sense (any married man getting into an argument with his wife knows this!).

You can actually just ramble on and on making sentences that sound grammatically correct, but are actually just nonsense full of emotive language - with the goal of making her feel things.

Polsoka · 2022-08-05T03:45:54+00:00

This topic feels so insanely micromanaged that it comes off entirely as performance. Just be genuine and don't talk about your emotional rollercoaster as dogecoin went up and down and you'll be sweet.

great_account · 2022-08-05T04:51:04+00:00

I tell anything that comes to mind. I do try to avoid sexual topics. I've noticed that bringing it up puts a shield up and it's better to talk sex after you've started fooling around.

I think trying to evoke certain emotions is disingenuous. Just be yourself and let nature do it's thing. It's honest and that's really who you are.

I try to avoid serious topics. My brother had some health problems. I've personally experienced trauma over the past few years. I have a lot of bummer experiences. If they probe, I will give one bummer story just so I'm not completely avoiding the topic, but in general I try to avoid things that make me sad. If they stick around long enough, they'll hear all my stories.

burakbenxd · 2022-08-05T05:49:20+00:00

I don't really share stories unless it's necessary. If you're good at the art of small talk, you can make a girl talk, and it'll be so annoying. You'll then think to yourself, is this really necessary for some pussy lol

WanyCaleb · 2022-08-05T05:39:57+00:00

Find one or two good stories that potray you as a giga Chad, sexy and passionate lover. Stick to those and rehash. Thank you and good night!

incognito3107 · 2022-08-05T05:39:12+00:00

Excitement, tension, relief, happiness, surprise, admiration, peace, mystery.

Usually the more the better. If you want to close your date with some erotic escalation, excitement is a must way to go.

thatshinobiboiii · 2022-08-05T08:21:29+00:00

I didn’t realize people planned out conversations. I always just wing it

tropicsGold · 2022-08-05T14:43:59+00:00

I’ve always found that the less I talk and the more she talks the better. A girl once mentioned how “mysterious” I was. Probably because I never bored her with stories about my life 😂

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-08-05T14:58:02+00:00

safety, security, curiosity, playfulness, care, love, peace. this is the base, the fundamentals. after this, you can go into pleasure, bliss, etc

edit: also adding intrigue, comfort (based on comments)

Title	When telling stories what kind of emotions are you trying to evoke in your dating partner?
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Date	August 4, 2022 11:58 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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