I think i'm friendzoned, should I fucking go for it anyways?

morse95 · 2022-07-21T01:07:30+00:00

If she's mentioned your "platonic relationship" multiple times that's probably a method to try to keep you from progressing towards something more

Hot_Magician_4928 · 2022-07-21T01:10:33+00:00

if she says it’s platonic multiple times, no. take the hint. you gotta respect her boundaries man, i’m sorry. if you never mentioned platonic and only said best friends? i’d say maybe, not 100% though. but platonic told me, you are indeed just a friend.

charlieravoli · 2022-07-21T02:26:13+00:00

Be careful with texting too much, try to make things happen in real life, don’t just be her “text buddy” who she gets all the flirty text energy out with, but looks at a just a friend. Seems like you might be young from this story, but get the actual in person chemistry going first. I wouldn’t suggest you ‘ask her out’ until you are more sure of the romantic nature of you 2. Your already seeing her, see if you can get her to hang out 1 on 1 in something casual, then go from there.

Jasonhardon · 2022-07-21T03:34:16+00:00

Use her to party with as a wing. Girls like guys with other girls. You can go out a lot with her and have her wing you in 2 sets

PsychologicalDeer502 · 2022-07-21T03:17:25+00:00

Yeah just accept it and treat her like a guy friend. Ironically, once she realizes you don't give a fuck she might find you attractive.

jackzander · 2022-07-21T02:21:13+00:00

Just steal her frame and start calling everything "platonic".

Platonic food, platonic drinks, platonic hot tub, platonic blowjob.

ZachMoore88 · 2022-07-21T02:22:52+00:00

Most likely she's using you for attention. You could try your luck and go for it.....but only once. Then move on

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-07-21T02:20:40+00:00

Yea you should just fucking go for another girl thats what you should do the firendozone just means that you werent making your intentions clear from the beginning no seduction at all your best bet to get out the friendzone is to get with someone better looking than her but it wouldnt matter then

DonnyBomeneddy · 2022-07-21T02:53:34+00:00

Always be escalating.

ImmolationIsFlattery · 2022-07-21T01:18:59+00:00

I might be an odd duck. When I have good chemistry with someone and joke about sexual things with them, I tell them I am happy with things as things are, but that I am open to whatever else can happen, if they have anything else in mind. Ask what she wants from you and see if she wants something more/other than conventional friendship. The best relationships begin with or later develop a component of friendship. Good luck but expect a friendly rejection of anything other than what you have now.

Titty_Slicer_5000 · 2022-07-21T02:22:46+00:00

Yes. Go for it. But in a chill way. Escalate like you normally would, in person. Pay attention to her reaction. Maybe say something along the lines of “I always thought you were pretty cute”. Do NOT profess your love for her or do some over the top gesture or say that you’ve always been in love for her or generally anything intense like that. If you want to just ask her out and aren’t that great at escalating you can ask her by saying something along the lines of “You know we get along really well and I think you’re really cute we should go on a date sometime”. Again, nothing intense or crazy. Try not to say it in a dramatic way, and not in an aloof way either. Find a nice middle ground. Your mindset should be you think she’s cute and you like her so you want to get to know her more romantically. That’s it. If she doesn’t want to that’s cool.

In the future avoid sending kissy emojis and all the stuff with girls who you like but are just friends with.

Yea she’s mentioned your “platonic friendship”, but I’ve had friends like that who I ended up hooking up with anyway. The best way to shoot your shot is in a chill, almost matter of fact way.

Definitely shoot your shot or you will just always wonder what could have been. Life’s too short for that shit.

simbuah · 2022-07-21T02:31:27+00:00

Stay friends.
Say “sorry I like you and don’t want to be a platonic friend” and actually cut contact. Like actually let her leave your life and be okay eith it.

Dafiro93 · 2022-07-21T00:57:24+00:00

How's your chemistry in real life? Does she give you the eyes?

roaphaen · 2022-07-21T04:07:28+00:00

Sounds like she's using you for validation. How much would she go out of her way for you if your car broke down for example? If you listen to all her bullshit and show up for her and it's not reciprocated you don't have a friend, you are an orbiter being used for validation.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-07-21T01:56:54+00:00

Don’t ask her out until you’ve actually made something happen. Analyzing texts at a distance won’t be nearly as effective as just testing the waters in person.

Cultural-Relative-87 · 2022-07-21T03:12:16+00:00

Radicalmattitude1 · 2022-07-21T03:53:39+00:00

Yes fucking go for it bro, worst case she gives you closure and you can move on to other girls and not wonder “what if” for the rest of your life

SeaBreezy209 · 2022-07-21T03:58:42+00:00

i'd say go for it, being "just friends" is overrated if you got an attraction towards her. if she says no, then oh well, move on. if friendship can still happen after that, then great; but if doesn't, that sucks. At least you know where you stand either way.

danf87 · 2022-07-21T04:03:38+00:00

Fuck it go for it.

climaxingwalrus · 2022-07-21T04:17:21+00:00

Don't fuck up your friendships man

Title	I think i'm friendzoned, should I fucking go for it anyways?
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Date	July 21, 2022 12:37 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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