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[–]Altec5499 126 points127 points128 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
This works and it costs nothing to produce results.
Walk into a bar, do not buy a drink, walk the venue and spot out attractive girls, circle back and approach. Tell them “hey, I have to get out of here in a second but I saw you from across the bar and thought you are attractive so I wanted to say hi” “what’s your name” then.. Introduce yourself to the group and then direct your attention back to the girl. Ask her rapport building questions and then qualifying questions (if you don’t know what these are, dm me). Lastly, Follow through with your initial statement and tell her you have to go. Tell her you want to take her on a date and that you should exchange numbers. Leave the bar. Find a new bar… rinse and repeat
[–]g59fieroboi 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Great write-up. I’m gonna try that this weekend if I can lose some anxiety
[–]Altec5499 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You just need a little momentum. A slight nudge that will get you rolling. Hit me up if you want help along the way. I do this shit for free
[–]vladotv07 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well I would love to talk to you, I am at a start, having anexity and all.
[–]zhateme 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What’s rapport and qualifications questions?
[–]ExpensiveNinja 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You know, this is actually a really good idea. Super simple and you're more than likely not going to see these people again. Still "hard" though because nerves and approach anxiety and all. Also, I can't imagine most girls being reciprocating on the spot in front of her friends unless you follow rules 1&2.
[–]Altec5499 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anxiety will definitely be present. It comes with the territory. The more often you push yourself, the quicker it will fade over time. I struggled with extreme social anxiety… I overcome this by approaching. I firmly believe everyone is capable of achieving the same results through grit and will power. It’s life altering
[–]neoda1 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yay
[–]willgo-waggins 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re in fucking NYC!
Any night if the week has action there.
It’s not like you’re in a middle sized west coast city like me where most people work and pack it in on the weeknights and there are few opinions even on W/Th and nothing on S/M/T nights unless it’s football season.
[–]5_7pickup 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Fri and sat. Unless youre in vegas, then its every night. I can go out solo 7 nights a week if I wanted to.
[–]bothersomeperson 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
NYC, haha
[–]Invest2prosper 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thursday, Friday and Saturday.
[–]dametime223 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Man I see you everywhere haha
[–]mentos123 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you live in a big city people are out even on the weeknights. Look for bars that have live music or drink specials on specific nights. You really just have to go out and explore for yourself. You could even ask the staff what nights are busy there or what places in the area they recommend. Best of luck
[–]magpie_journey 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you’re in NYC, literally any day. I even see bars crowded on Mondays here. Wednesday and Thursday are probably your best bets though. Lots of people out but not so crowded/good alibi as to why you’re alone if that’s something that worries you. Whenever I’m asked, I just say “I wanted to watch the game”
[–]Invest2prosper 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thursdays
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[–]Invest2prosper 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go downtown in the village and find out
[–]Luckyyou00 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Where you live?
[–]WaitingToBeTriggered 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
NEVER ASKING WHY!
[–]ExpensiveNinja 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How you live?
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When live you?
[–]CocoBabeNYC 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't go out when there are crowds. You don't stand a chance tbh. Take a nap around 8-9, wake up at midnight. Shit, shower and shave and show up at the club last 1-2AM when everybody's fucked off except a few desperate hot girls that nobody had the balls to approach.
[–]lucivar788 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bro what, LOL.
[–]revente 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude don't be lazy. Do some scouting yourself. See where people are.
Most places are gonna be packed on weekends. But some bars gonna be crowded on workdays also. Go see which.
[–]Jamesdoink 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Every day 🤣
[–]Ok_Price_8702 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Depends what you’re trying to accomplish.
[–]bothersomeperson 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
trying to either get laid or meet the love of my life, but I also enjoy conversation.
[–]Invest2prosper 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Where do u live? Uptown midtown or downtown?
[–]bothersomeperson 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Midtown area.
Friday and Saturday night - midtown west side and uptown east side
[–]nointerestsbutsleep 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Midtown has a bunch of garment companies therefore ladies. That’s where my office is and it’s 98% women.
[–]bothersomeperson 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you got any good bar suggestions? I wouldn’t mind dating a costume person!
[–]nointerestsbutsleep 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not costumes, lol. Retail clothing production, like clothes you buy in normal stores.
We’ve been to Refinery Rooftop, Stout, Dos Caminos, Stitch, and The Long Room. Those are the ones I can remember off the top of my head.
[–]wachipupa 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same question different city. Calling the world from Miami 🖖🎵
[–]DoctaNofuchsgiveth 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like Friday night or weekends probably are the best days, but this is only a guess since I’m not really one to go to bars since where I live are depressing
[–]oooliveoil 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh same, my city has 1 club and bars are usually for elders. It’s supposed to be a “college town”
[–]Aesteic 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also in NYC and I personally don't think weekends work well if you're going solo. Simply because there will be 0 solo females and mostly big groups of 4+.
Unless you're a pro you're not gonna be able to isolate her from her friends by yourself very often.
[+]VapeGodPP -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I honestly don’t recommend going to the bars alone, drunk people are unpredictable and some may try to start a fight with you. Maybe it’s just me but I always gotta go with a group for safety reasons
[–]Archyblackcat 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I prefer going alone, if you’re gonna run into a drunk asshole , you don’t have to be at a bar for it to happen.. sometimes drunk family members get in fist fights at the family parties
[–]IGiveSilverBullets 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
seen that first hand
[–]SigmundFreud 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't worry about safety because I am extremely powerful.
[–]lucivar788 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean 99% of the time its in your power to de-escalate the situation most people just don't want to.
[–]depth_charge_ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Best day to go was yesterday. Second best day is today.
Or some shit like that
[–]Successful_Teach366 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thursday afternoon/nights
[–]nmsftw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Any day that ends in y to be honest. Just need to explore and find out what bar is good on what night of the week.
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