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ChildOfRavens · 2022-05-01T09:12:37+00:00

I can think of a few scenarios:

She only wanted sex to feel good, or because she was going through a breakup and wanted a distraction. And you were the right guy at the right time. Nothing to do with you
She felt like you were getting attached or clingy with her too fast and felt like it was too much to handle.
She didn't enjoy the sex that much and faked everything.

My bet is on #1 reason on the above list. Lots of girls seem to do this. I think guys do it too if they got good game and got hurt recently.

AlwaysRight188 · 2022-05-01T12:46:53+00:00

She probably was in your city to visit her friend, needed a place to sleep and did not want to pay for a hotel and decided sex would be a good trade off. Aside from that don’t forget that very rarely sex is “amazing” the first time.. at least not for both.

FsJgr406 · 2022-05-01T07:58:25+00:00

Heartbroken over a girl you met a just few days ago? Sounds like you’ve got some personal growth that needs to happen if you’re getting attached that quickly to a woman, especially to a tinder hookup.

ld20r · 2022-05-01T09:12:26+00:00

Screw everyone in here trying to justify ghosting after a hookup.

If you meet up with someone and they blank you afterwards regardless of the rationale or reason then that is 100% on Them and there shitty rude behaviour.

Everybody has an iPhone or Android at this stage in 2022 and it takes a mere 5 seconds to reach out and communicate.

If they really wanted to, then they would.

There is absolute zero excuse to ghost after you meet someone, let alone hook up.

MrWolffman · 2022-05-01T11:36:38+00:00

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omanisherin · 2022-05-01T16:17:53+00:00

It's totally normal and good to feel a pair bond with someone you have sex with, and it's totally normal to feel awful when that pair bond dies.

I suggest maybe holding off on sex until you find someone you can have a deeper connection with. Why give the best of yourself away to strangers that wont appreciate it?

TBHIdontknow003 · 2022-05-01T07:57:51+00:00

Dont jump to conclusions! You meet them on a dating site where “most ppl” are only looking for hookups and convenience. It might actually have nothing to do with you. (And also people lie to get laid )

If this trend repeats then you are only attracting a certain group of people. Change your tactics. This game is rigged and is not for everyone. Dont lose hope and keep trying.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-01T13:11:34+00:00

100% you didn't actually satisfy her in bed. She faked whatever orgasm you think you gave her. Sorry bro, this is a hard truth to swallow, but they see it as "once is more than enough". There is absolutely no other reason a woman wouldn't want to go back to your bed. The whole idea that you blew her brains out with your amazing dick game and she felt like a slut because of it and now doesn't want to see you is self delusion at it's grandest.

Next time start talking about sex, what she likes, ask her to give you feedback to tell you what is doing it for her and what is not. If you are fucking her and she goes silent and stops moving, don't change up. You've actually hit the spot, so keep doing exactly what you are doing. Most guys think when a girl stops moving she's no longer enjoying it, but it's like someone who is scratching your back. You will keep moving to adjust yourself until they hit the spot, but if they keep moving too because they think they haven't found the itchy spot, they never hit it.

So communicate, communicate. Whatever technique you used on other girls that you think rocks their world, throw it in the trash. Every woman is different when it comes to sex.

MattPruga · 2022-05-01T13:33:06+00:00

she wanted a one night stand and you got attached, she would have been all over you if you didn't attach yourself this much

VDKay · 2022-05-01T09:07:32+00:00

Don't take it personally OP. She did you a favor. It wouldn't have worked anyway. She was in just for the hookup. No worries. Girls experience that all the time. Rinse and repeat.

p.s. I'd personally wouldn't go into "I am not looking for hookups" right from the start. Keep it cool and see how it plays out with the next one.

kyodior · 2022-05-01T09:33:00+00:00

Mobilepay? er du også Dansker haha?

2022-05-01T12:24:37+00:00

At least you got in bed with her -_-

2022-05-01T15:00:42+00:00

She was looking for a one night stand. That’s all she wanted, and you are looking for a relationship. Unfortunately, you’ll need to keep looking.

2022-05-01T16:06:52+00:00

she just wanted a lay.

Xagabon · 2022-05-01T17:18:09+00:00

I just read the title and i am laughing my ass off xD

Atibana · 2022-05-01T11:07:17+00:00

The first time you hung out you had sex? I think this is part of the problem, it’s buyers remorse, it probably makes her feel like a slut the next day even though she wanted to do it before, like the female version of post nut clarity. I would recommend going on a few not sex dates first if you want them to stick around. I used to have this exact same problem. Also make sure your place is very well put together and mature, once the girl is there she may follow through but if your place is too bachelor like she may feel gross about you.

SadBox4529 · 2022-05-01T14:46:58+00:00

Most females think like children so everything is based off feelings. If a dude does that he’s considered a dog but since she has a vagina we find reasons to emphasize.Ghosting people after sex is extremely childish so move on coz that person’s got issues you dodged a bullet.

HuntressAndGoat · 2022-05-01T14:07:21+00:00

It could just as easily be 3 she didn't climax here's the problem I'm in an open relationship of 5 years and literally two weeks ago broke up with one because he didn't tell me he had two young children and got back with his baby mama and I found this out a few months ago but we missed each other so much that we agreed to see each other and then he ghosted me for the night and didn't reply so I deleted him because I'm not going to be a part of helping him cheat on his girlfriend matter how much the sex was awesome great f****** mind blowing in the other two literally looked me in the eyes and said and I quote I won't come again until you come first and then promptly had their fun and left but my nesting partner and two guys that I just broke up with in the last 4 months have literally look me in the eyes while playing with my couch and as soon as I started moaning and enjoying myself they stopped abruptly and said oh you came now it's my turn so first of all no man in the history of from now on ever should ever assume a woman has had an orgasm until she's begging him to stop because she can't take anymore because she had such a good time. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever assume a woman has had a climax never assume a woman has come never simalem and has climaxed even if she cusses the gush of biting into a lemon in your mouth Waters even if she squirts urinates or pisses all over herself squirting is always urine 99.9% of the time it is not a God it is not arousal it is just a thing that happens like biting into a lemon and your mouth Waters it can be cool but it has nothing to do with an orgasm ninety-nine percent of the time don't ever assume a woman has had a climax until she says I came Don't force her to say it don't pressure her say it don't act like that's the end-all-be-all because the best thing to do is act like you have all the time in the world cuz if you act like you have all the time in the world and you teased that woman and she's more likely to enjoy herself because she's begging you for more instead of pulling away or pushing you away because you're rubbing or scratching something in an inappropriate way that is not pleasant a lot of guys have a lot of misguided confidence in themselves and then their confidence falls to the depths of the middle of the Earth burning away because they realized that they're not the love gods they think they are when all they are is really impatient and they just want to stick their dick in and get it wet and get it over with if you don't have sex with somebody for a really long time and then you want to get it over with as soon as possible that's not good especially when you tell the person that you want to get it over with real quick that they're the best you ever had but you don't want to savor that time don't assume a woman has had a climax don't assume you've touched her enough unless she says so

squeezycakes19 · 2022-05-01T15:06:08+00:00

i think she needed a place to stay in your city that night and didn't want to shell out for a hotel

Optiminihilist · 2022-05-01T19:21:09+00:00

She could have also felt bad about herself. Sometimes we promise ourselves we won't sleep with a guy on the first date, and when it ends up happening you can almost guarantee the guy will view you differently. If you're really interested- Wait a day or 2 then send a hi and ask her out for the following weekend. For an actual activity. If she declines or ghosts you, it's probably #1 from that person aboves list.

iluvreddit · 2022-05-02T03:48:01+00:00

This is ridiculous, you met on Twitter, which is supposed to be for getting laid, you got laid, you had fun, now move on if she is ignoring you.

Sup3rHD · 2022-05-02T04:51:23+00:00

Women live in the moment. The next day they can change their mind like nothing. She has other guys that fuk her bettere etc.

But, why u want a girl that treats you like this? There are a lot of women that will like you. Dont waste time, girls love to do this.

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