Your girlfriend isn’t pursuing or wanting to have sex as much, what do y’all do?

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-03-24T17:43:11+00:00

It's pretty common for things to slow down after the initial excitement.

Also, it's pretty common for two people to have a permanent libido mismatch. If it settles at a level that you don't like, please feel free to end the relationship and search for a partner that matches you better. You'll both be better off in the long run.

Shot_Wish4176 · 2022-03-24T17:39:23+00:00

Talk to her about it. Understand why she has been feeling the way she has and be cool with it. It may seem like the problem is with you but those are just assumptions. Listen to her and how she feels while also expressing how you feel.

AngeloMacon · 2022-03-24T18:13:36+00:00

The excitement does wear off, and it could for one faster than the other. The issue here is that she's rejecting your advances. It's only been weeks so it could be a legit excuse that she's tired, stressed, etc. But the longer is stretches out means higher likelihood of trouble with the relationship.

Also, how often are we talking here? If you're wanting to bang 3 times a day and she rejects the second or third attempt there isn't an issue.

Liberaler · 2022-03-24T18:56:30+00:00

Don't think a relationship ever reaches a state where everything is perfect. You always have to work on it. You don't have her on some point, seduction never ends.
Maybe you became more feminine in some way. If she is a feminine women she misses your masculine polarity.
"like animals" - how do animals do it? The copulate like crazy and then move on for a new partner. Ultra-high frequency and intensity sounds good if you look at it through a porno-induced lens. But if you want a long term relationship, which is something cultural, you have you have to cultivate your sexuality = bringing balance, bonding and depth into sexuality. More is not always better.
Tension is one of the main aspects of sexuality. If you always give in to you urges, you do away with all tension and playfulness. Always imitatively releasing tension is like ejaculating to early on a meta level. A man must sometimes say no to sexual advances. Where is the playfulness, if she already knows, how to get you and you react the same way again and again? Where is the mystery?

GreatScotRace · 2022-03-24T19:13:08+00:00

Things slow down after the initial excitement, your love and affection for each other grows deeper and relationships can become more emotional than physical. Couples go up and down when it comes to their sex life. I’ve been with my partner for 7+ years and our sex life has been like a roller coaster. We’re in a particularly dry phase just now to be honest, but after 7 years I’m not going to throw it in the bucket because of lack of sex due to a slight health scare, I know it’ll pick back up again.

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Bcocks27 · 2022-03-24T19:02:31+00:00

She is probably going through something in her life that makes her anxious or sad. Try to cherish her the most you can and talk to her about it. Relationships are also about how you react when it's not going ideally. Good luck!

wj2smooth · 2022-03-24T19:30:14+00:00

In addition to the advice already given, maybe take her out on a nice date, a nice spa and light another spark. You may have to switch things up and get her to want to fuck you since it sounds like she could be tired/bored

Slaysta · 2022-03-24T19:50:07+00:00

If it happens occasionally, it’s probably normal. She could actually be stressed/tired. If it’s continue to occur for a long period of time, I’d probably end the relationship before you get more attached because that’s a bad sign. I was in a similar situation until I found out she was cheating on me. She could also be over the relationship. Either way, if she doesn’t wanna bang after banging a lot, she’s obviously not as committed to the relationship as you are.

roakmamba · 2022-03-24T20:16:16+00:00

Women are like cats. They go mousy on around and come back to you when they want. Don't get discouraged and start being needy.

JD42305 · 2022-03-24T20:29:15+00:00

Are you taking her out on dates still? I think that's important. Also, if you keep initiating to no avail, stop and let her pursue you. It's good to switch roles every once in a while, and even if you're in a relationship it's still sexy when a girl thinks she has to work to seduced you. Tease her, come up from behind her and kiss her neck, and when she wants to proceed to have a heavy makeout session, gently pull back and continue doing what you were doing. Girls find it irresistible when they can't have you any time they want, so if you turn the tables and playfully leave her wanting more, it should turn her on.

nordik1 · 2022-03-24T19:31:24+00:00

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Skizznitt · 2022-03-24T18:22:31+00:00

I would say start being more spontaneous again like you were when you first started dating, go out and do things like date nights, kiss in public, random acts of affection, bring her home flowers, after a hard day of work have a bath run for her and offer a massage without the expectation of sex afterwards, get a tent and go camping together to get away from everything and fuck like rabbits in the woods etc.

You guys are falling out of the honeymoon period and are just getting comfortable. You have to keep things interesting, mundane routine destroys sex lives.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-24T19:23:53+00:00

Never accept pity pussy. Start emotionally disconnecting from her right away. She has lost sexual attraction because she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger. Stop answering her text messages for hours, don't call her at the usual times you do and start seeing her less.

HallandOates2 · 2022-03-24T18:12:16+00:00

Edit- OP deleted a thread 1 day ago where his girlfriend admitted she lied about hanging out with another guy. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/tkqigj/girlfriend_admitted_she_lied_about_hanging_out/

MY response today without seeing that post yesterday:

Strong chance she started fucking someone else. Hate to break it to you.

Edit- Youll downvote until it happens to you multiple times over multiple years. And then you'll start to realize how common cheating actually is.

SwoleMountain · 2022-03-24T18:43:13+00:00

Get a new gf

spleencheesemonkey · 2022-03-24T17:41:42+00:00

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OuchCharlieOw · 2022-03-24T18:48:21+00:00

Find a new one. Treat yourself better you’re the prize remember that

aStonedPanda94 · 2022-03-24T18:18:31+00:00

Only thing you can do is continue to Focus on your life and not be needy. Just back off and let her come back to you, also doesn’t hurt to just ask if you want but don’t get upset if you get an answer you don’t want

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-03-24T18:20:00+00:00

If it was just a few weeks I wouldn’t think much of it. There’s more to life and dating than just fucking, and I care about her as a human being to not change my opinion about her because she isn’t in the mood rn.

PM_M3_PUPPIES · 2022-03-24T19:37:49+00:00

Damn a lot of people here projecting. If she’s stressed that can heavily impact her sex drive. It’s happened to me in my relationship and it sucks because I hate to make my gf feel unwanted. I would talk to her about it and try to be patient. It can be hard to be in the mood when so much is going on in her life. If you really want this to work you’re going to have to learn to communicate these types of things to her. Good luck!

Azurvix · 2022-03-24T19:47:33+00:00

Try to figure out if something changed in her life before you go assuming things

stop_stopping · 2022-03-24T20:27:23+00:00

I know sometimes when I back off sexually in a relationship it’s because I begin to feel like my partner sees me mostly for sex and less for companionship. I agree with backing off and just focusing on yourself and the friendship and see if she starts instigating more.

S13ClutchKicker · 2022-03-24T20:53:50+00:00

RAMmit in her arse

iamrealandneedhelp · 2022-03-24T21:17:09+00:00

Replace her with a girl like me lol I wish I had someone like you. My boyfriend gives me all the sex I want I would never cheat. And I want it a lot and I mean a lot.

Most-Order-9464 · 2022-03-24T21:19:22+00:00

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Title	Your girlfriend isn’t pursuing or wanting to have sex as much, what do y’all do?
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Date	March 24, 2022 5:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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