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Creative_Wallaby_439 · 2022-02-20T19:49:20+00:00

Location matters. Move.

Was in a rut in the burbs that I lived in.

Went on a 8 day trip to cali, never have I ever vibed with so many women in such a short amount of time

Hedonisticbiped · 2022-02-20T22:45:36+00:00

Why do you think 30 is a bad age?

peakyraven · 2022-02-20T18:23:24+00:00

Yes, I am in the same boat. I am working out, making money, attending dancing classes, and fixing my mental state. I have never dated in person. I don't know how or where to begin with.

Things like flirting, "game" or being funny and witty are foreign to me.

OnlyInterest2041 · 2022-02-20T18:29:39+00:00

Fuck it. Make more money and fuck some hookers then.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-20T21:07:41+00:00

lmao what? you turning 30 has nothing to do with a certain age group not being available to you.

VVSimani · 2022-02-20T23:08:39+00:00

I understand that it can be really frustrating when trying to attract women and only to get turned down.

I would invest on getting a coach to help you get this in order. It saves time and mental health hahah

Woujo · 2022-02-21T00:32:03+00:00

I'm 38 I bang 21, 22, 23 year olds all the time.

broctopus13 · 2022-02-20T18:53:07+00:00

The problem is you think too much. When fate decides to get you laid, it will at any cost no matter what you do.

daddysgotanew · 2022-02-20T20:01:23+00:00

Worse now than it’s ever been. Way more work for way less quality. Isn’t going to get better, enjoy the decline

the_root_of_all_evol · 2022-02-21T04:38:03+00:00

Get it out of your head that 21 year old women are the “prime” catch. Realise that women of all ages are equally worthy of your time. Sorry if that comes across a bit feminazi but come on man

VVSimani · 2022-02-20T23:04:45+00:00

It’s hard to identify why you haven’t pulled after speaking with hundreds of women because I don’t know you.

Do you dress with nice clothes that fit well? Is your hair properly styled or in good condition before you go out? Do you come off too needy or too anxious/nervous? Those are general questions you can start from there.

Reflect of how you’re interacting with girls by documenting or journaling your approaches.

appypollylogiess · 2022-02-20T22:16:28+00:00

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reasonabledebate20 · 2022-02-20T23:26:23+00:00

I’m only 24 but have had even less success in my 20s than my teens, i guess i still have time to turn it around tho.

You’re wrong about early 20s girls not being interested anymore once you’re 30. Most girls are really into older guys and i’ve heard of many men who did better in their 30s than their 20s

ninjamiran · 2022-02-20T23:39:23+00:00

I thinks it’s about location and your looks I seen older guys pull plenty of bicthes regardless of age , it’s mostly just the location and opportunity

sawftandlazy · 2022-02-21T01:11:14+00:00

If by “late 20’s” you mean basically the entirety of my adult life, then yes.

Necessary_Slip_518 · 2022-02-21T02:02:36+00:00

Aprende un nuevo idioma en grupos de charlas y con chicas de otros países.

rightlywrongfull · 2022-02-21T02:35:50+00:00

As a guy who is 23. I would much rather sleep with 30 year olds oml.

no_not_this · 2022-02-21T02:41:09+00:00

I’m 35 and doing the best I ever have. Up your status and you can have any women 20-40 if that’s your jam

Snoo-62854 · 2022-02-21T02:46:49+00:00

At one point you start losing hope in late 20s. I attended university until 28, grad program. I lived around campus because of my work and still not success. Its frustrating. Online dating is worst option but if you are inexperienced then it feels impossible to initiate conversation and meet girls in real life. Its difficult, too difficult, and you can not ask for help, its best way to get stamped as looser, you might get some empathy. Things are really difficult if they don't happen in right time. I guess some are just unlucky but at least you could keep trying. Personally I tried really hard, improved my speaking skills, built really good physique, I am proud on myself just for effort I took, despite no success. It is what it is! just face it and if possible fight as long as you can!

MakeItGain · 2022-02-21T04:38:24+00:00

Late mid to late 20s were a bad spot for me with girls. Most of my friends were either married or settling down so I rarely went anywhere but to family restaurants with them. After university my jobs have been in engineering which is 100% male when you aren't working in a city office.

That period got me into upping my game and non conventional means of approaching women. So don't look at it as a bad thing. If circumstances aren't working for you, change them so that they are.

I'm now 35 and getting back into this and trust me, it gets even harder at this age

5_7pickup · 2022-02-21T05:12:08+00:00

That's exactly what happened with me. I went to school, post grad, got a career, got a high income, was fit and my dating life still sucked. I didn't get it. I did everything right but I had no girls.

This is the problem with modern dating advice. It keeps telling men to do self improvement shit, which is important, but a great product is fucking worthless without proper marketing.

Here's my story on how I changed all that: https://www.reddit.com/r/1PercentDating/comments/sagseq/what\_it\_took\_for\_me\_to\_finally\_start\_doing\_cold/

jackzander · 2022-02-21T05:38:26+00:00

You'd have to pay me to date a 21 year-old. It's like adopting a puppy, but potty training is emotional labor instead.

Gizzard-Gizzard · 2022-02-21T05:46:07+00:00

Are you me??

its4thecatlol · 2022-02-21T06:01:45+00:00

My early 20s sucked. I had way too much negative shit in my life to bring anyone into it.

Dating in your mid to late 20s as a successful man, however, is easy mode. You’re at the perfect age to still date the hottest girls in their early 20s, but you’re not too young for girls in their early 30s. I feel like these are the prime years. I don’t want to be 35 and still chasing pussy, though, so I keep a long term view in the back of my head but I have to say I got no complaints.

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-02-21T06:33:54+00:00

Using ‘etc’ way too much here bro. Fix that first then we can go to the drawing board

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