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MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-02-11T12:32:22+00:00

If you must text them, do something like sending a pic of something you saw earlier in the day to her along with a funny story or whatever. Not only does that seem like you’ve got a lot stuff going on (which you should), but it’s also original and doesn’t come off as cheesy or try hard.

Every girl is different though. I matched with a solid 8.5/10 on Bumble and she thought I wasn’t interested in her (after three dates!) because I didn’t text her enough. To be fair, she’s also only been in one relationship and girls like this are a diamond in the rough and an outlier.

Max_Longfellow · 2022-02-11T13:56:47+00:00

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SpookyKG · 2022-02-11T14:28:03+00:00

I tend to be all over them too much by telling them good morning and how are you doing and shit like that. What do I do to stop this?

Stop this.

batalieee · 2022-02-11T17:34:56+00:00

“The girls that look for my intention (sic) are usually not that attractive or have something wrong about them.”

That’s your problem right there. You think you’re too good for these girls, but get upset that girls who are too good for you don’t want you. Can’t have it both ways.

oreopimp · 2022-02-11T11:39:47+00:00

Read some of my comments for sources and more specifics to help with this (cutting the fat off — read 3% man by Corey Wayne and watch his YouTube channel — and also Playing With Fire YouTube channel — it will dramatically improve your texting mindset). Use texting 90% to make plans, 10% to spice things up. Invest as she invests. Only get to know her in person. Don’t do bf relationship stuff like good mornings etc — let her reach out to you and make moves to be in a relationship with you first and respond as she responds, or less if you want to keep it casual)

If you think it would help I can post a recent text exchange from a 1st date that didn’t end with sex (rare for me) to a second date that did last night w beautiful woman who’s not used to flustered and confused and feeling shy (her words). I usually have a low key vibe, just having fun, and usually let them chase and fill silences, mixed with little qualification (as in presex I’m still undecided but she seems like good company) here and there

neoda1 · 2022-02-11T15:20:38+00:00

so is someone forcing you doing this?

you are acknowledging your doing this and want us to do what? tell you to stop while you know you should stop since ur saying it already in this post???

chrissizkool · 2022-02-11T17:12:23+00:00

If you lose girls after first date, it just means either compatibility issues in which you aren't screening out for or the date wasn't as good as you thought it was and your game is lacking something. I'd say one key attribute in any relationship with a girl (fuck buddy or ltr) is sexual tension. Are you creating enough of that because I guarantee you, you probably aren't which is why girls flake.

Amkg2020 · 2022-02-11T18:25:15+00:00

Ya I think you just bang m and leave them on read and they chase I'm not sure

2022-02-11T18:33:54+00:00

Man, these Mark dude’s percentages are jibberish. Take it by ear.

Only logistics can be reasonable if the date is within a couple days and the girl gives off the vibe she’s into you/or the date idea. If it’s a week in advance, not a chance am I going out for that date when the time comes if I only text for logistics.

2022-02-12T01:29:13+00:00

After the lay just send them a text like "I enjoyed spending the night with you, if you're up for another hangout let me know."

Robofrogg1 · 2022-02-11T15:04:32+00:00

Don’t text that nonsense. It’s boring, adds no value to their lives, and just makes you appear needy. The phone should be for setting dates only. Save the rest for the actual dates.

Woujo · 2022-02-11T14:32:58+00:00

I tend to be all over them too much by telling them good morning and how are you doing and shit like that.

Then don't do that. Text them one interesting thing every 2 days and let that be it.

iJuiiCe_x · 2022-02-11T14:33:04+00:00

Just set up dates, it's feminine to be the one sending good mornings and shit

epicharlie12 · 2022-02-11T13:43:57+00:00

You only text to meetup, outside of that you're supposed to be silent

iceking123 · 2022-02-11T11:53:58+00:00

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damiancontrol · 2022-02-11T15:28:42+00:00

I want to understand why you can't just STOP doing it? I mean you're already aware what you're doing wrong... what's stopping you from actually stopping yourself?

Bladelazoe · 2022-02-11T15:53:38+00:00

How are you talking to them, are you maintaining eye contact when you two talk or are you looking around 90% of the time when talking. And are you connecting with the girls?

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surferguy999 · 2022-02-11T20:53:42+00:00

You’re coming off as emotionally needy. Read the book model (I have a summary under my profile).

Unless she’s your GF they shouldn’t be proving good morning texts.

urmad4what · 2022-02-12T03:09:45+00:00

How do you stop? You literally stop, go focus on whatever is gonna make you improve, be productive. Plus you don’t gain anything telling a girl good morning everyday and texting her all day. More times you’ll lose things and if you’re aware of this, why keep doing. All you’re doing is sticking your hand in a box that you know has a biting snake in there

Max_Longfellow · 2022-02-12T03:31:32+00:00

My advice if you think you get in, get hooked, and start going to hard after them isn't necessarily to talk to more girls. I mean you can, that's one solution, but if you're not out trying to get laid a ton and lookin for one to keep then you can end up feeling shittier if talking to other girls goes poorly, and it will be reflect on your attitude with the one you've gone on a date with already.

My advice is to give them that right amount of distance but fill that time with something where you can't be checking your phone all the time, like go to the gym and lock it in the locker. Uber (or whatever on your own time type job) for a few hours a day and make some extra money. Social network and spend time with some coworkers / friends / family and take some pics of what you're doing.

Mystery Method isn't usually the model I go to for anything past early-mid game and certain crowds, but some of the universalities he laid out for people who don't know how to think like the guys who get girls, such as health / wealth / social value, are investments you can spend time on to distract yourself.

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