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CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-01-02T12:37:33+00:00

That “_You are gonna have to come up with a better excuse than that_” is a usually a red flag for women.

Calling women out on their excuses to not go out with you, doesn’t make them wanna go out with you, it usually has the opposite effect, it only makes them more reluctant to go out with you.

Women do not like being pressured like that.

2SocksBobby · 2022-01-02T12:11:56+00:00

I think you whited put names in the pic but it literally says “texting with” and her name. Just a heads up

Krative_Lifestyle · 2022-01-02T19:06:06+00:00

Shes twice your age. Be direct "lets grab a drink this night"

If she says she's busy reply with "no problem" and ask her out again in a week.

If she turns you down twice in a row cut her loose and let her come back to you.

Its simple dude. Dont overthink this teasing stuff. Women can smell that overthinking desperation shit like nothing else.

bcool_returns · 2022-01-02T17:11:15+00:00

A few mistakes here, including adopting an unflattering frame and assuming the negative by calling her reply an "excuse." You just come across as childish and reactive, reinforcing this huge age gap. It's the holidays, you're just a random dude she has minimal investment in, and you lobbed a specific day with zero wiggle room without getting logistics first. This is just asking for a no. I almost always operate with an intermediate step first. "What's your week looking like?"/"I'm freer 2nd half of the week. How's Friday or Sunday?" and so on.

Logistics are also something that ought to start being ironed out in person in that initial interaction. What are her plans for New Years? Is she going to be around for the holidays, or traveling out of town? What's her normal schedule like? These are questions that can be asked irl, that way when you're circling back via text, you're not operating completely blind.

Anyway just be chill dude. I'd just thumbs up the message and then circle back towards next wknd. But you have to come correct now.

highsierra123 · 2022-01-02T12:41:41+00:00

You need not wrap your head around the cutesy-teasey stuff. She is a seasoned woman, so the teenage games will not be necessary.

imdonewiththegoodgas · 2022-01-02T14:18:26+00:00

Be glad she’s open to the idea and didn’t just ignore you. She’s thinking about it or has some shit going on as she said. Don’t overthink it. In the meantime, go live your life.

quantumactual · 2022-01-02T17:17:24+00:00

I would’ve said ’maybe?’ when she offered. Do you want to or not? Seems like she wasn’t incredibly interested to begin with, maybe just enjoys your chatting her up lol.

Also, I’d cut it with the emojis unless you really know her, or she also uses them.

PimpinAndreTheGod · 2022-01-02T14:51:26+00:00

Coffee? Fuck that shit. Coffee dates are a woman's way of seeing what you are about with little investment on their part. To me, coffee dates are for simps. Do you know anybody who got laid after a coffee date?

I think more like a street level pimp, I am 44, much older than you but just reading the way you express yourself- I think you either have high expectations(and she doesnt) or you are about to fuck it up with some simp bullshit.

With women that age, you should be at a place after the date where you can escalate to sex, not some simp, white knight cutesy bullshit- they have heard and seen it all.

willgo-waggins · 2022-01-03T06:25:42+00:00

You’re posting proof of being a complete dumb ass.

She’s fucking 44 man! I’m 51 and I am a single dad so I fucking get this. She has shit going on that probably rivals the plans that you need to handle until you are her age!

Wow man some young guys are just DUMB!!!

You likely just blew it with a woman that could have taught you shut you can’t even imagine.

Shit those are the BEST ones. Because they know what they fucking want and there’s no crazy bulls hit like then younger ones. If you met her in the gym then she’s fit.

Christ I just had a 40 yo hook up come off bumble on Xmas eve and I was fucking her in the ass by her request within and hour and a half of her getting to my place. And that was already well into the fucking.

OrangeVoxel · 2022-01-07T23:14:18+00:00

Your reply was a little immature, but she gave you a smiley which means she is probably still often.

Now that New Years has passed, open with something simple like “good morning beautiful.” Ask how is her 2022 so far.

Then ask when she is free for coffee or drink or dinner or whatever. Direct and simple

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