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hunterpua · 2021-09-26T14:40:58+00:00

All that's necessary is that the girl you're talking to doesn't feel like you're desperate to sleep with her.

That means all you need to do as an inexperienced guy is not fixate on one girl.

You can want sex, just don't be try-hard about getting it with a particular girl.

So with every individual girl you talk to approach it with the attitude of, "If I'm not getting it from you I'm gonna get it from another girl."

There are probably hundreds of women who you could find attractive in a given city. So don't worry if Alexa, Sarah, or Rachel won't be the one who ends up having sex with you, as long as whoever does end up having sex with you is someone you genuinely find attractive.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-26T14:38:38+00:00

Talk to more girls.

Meet more girls.

Have sex with more girls.

The answer is almost always.. talk to more girls.

porn-chicken · 2021-09-26T14:36:14+00:00

Wanting sex is normal.

Wanting sex so bad you'd fuck anyone. The type of seedy desperate that comes across when any woman so much as looks at you. That's a problem.

Remind yourself that you have options and you are allowed to have standards.

SlevinLe · 2021-09-27T09:05:14+00:00

Wanting sex doesnt make you needy. Needing sex makes you needy.

You have to act like you want the girl, but you dont need her because you know if she's not in, another one is right around the corner.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-26T15:02:42+00:00

Confidence kills neediness. If you know where your next meal is coming from means you will never feel needy. So just convince yourself that there is an unlimited supply of interested women in you by visualization, affirmations, etc.

Ironic_Resting_Face · 2021-09-26T17:21:19+00:00

Know one thing. Sex will be amazing if you know and trust eachother.

And this goes double for women.

So get to know women. Ask about her, share stories and your values. A back and forth in conversation. Nothing is a greater turn off then desperation. Then we feel like we are just a vagina for you. We want to feel special.

Learn authentic complimenting. If someone would tell me that I look like a movie star or the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. Or that I always look absolutely stunning then I won’t believe him, think he’s lying and the motive is to just get laid. Desperate.

But things like my eyes are pretty, my voice is sexy, nice outfit, smell good.. give compliments that will make it clear that -I- turn you on. Not that you are just turned on. If we have chemistry and I turn you on, then that is a turn on for me too.

headcase1111 · 2021-09-26T15:51:35+00:00

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CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-09-26T18:01:50+00:00

By making her work for it, aka don’t act like you want sex just because she is hot. Make her show you her best side, and reward her only if she does show it

SmolAnus · 2021-09-26T16:36:18+00:00

Wanting sex doesn't make you needy. Neediness is completely emotional.

Neediness occurs when you place a higher priority on what others think of you than what you think of yourself. (I've read that here https://markmanson.net/how-to-find-the-one)

Idk who told you that showing sexual intent makes you unattractive, but they're wrong. In fact, it is the ONLY way to build sexual attraction. If you act friendly to someone, they are probably going to be your friend at best (nothing wrong with being friends if that's what you want.).

OThinkingDungeons · 2021-09-26T16:58:08+00:00

First thing might be therapy, pretty everyone has unaddressed issues that gets in their way of having positive interactions.

Another thing that'll improve your confidence and comfort is to learn how to dance a partner dance.

confidence_man91 · 2021-09-26T17:50:45+00:00

its okay to show that you're very sexual and driven, a horney dude and what not, you just cant make it seem like you dont get any outlets for your libido and it makes you rush things with her out of desperation

be touchy, be horney be a sexua person...go ahead, make the excuse that thats just the kinda man you are. you go for what you want when you want it and youre not ashamed.

thirstyness is a game killer when its leaking out into other things like you being sneaky acting or you acting weird now that theres another guy around, or youre too obsessed with Just her tits...see where im going with this/??

jxbyte · 2021-09-26T14:58:56+00:00

If you get rejected enough in quick succession you stop giving a fuck, and to the girl it's indistinguishable from not being thirsty. It's kind of a mind fuck.

porkypigdickdock · 2021-09-26T14:12:22+00:00

Self preservation my man!

AelfredRex · 2021-09-26T22:17:38+00:00

It's OK to want sex in general. Women like sex, too, so there's a common ground there. It's a fun thing to do together, but not the only thing.

It's only when you're rushing from woman to woman begging for a date like a junkie looking for a fix that it enters the Desperation Zone.

axe122 · 2021-09-27T13:27:49+00:00

Needing sex makes you needy. Don’t over text her, get upset if she doesn’t want sex the first time your making out. Don’t initiate contact for no reason,don’t text her all day even if she’s the one initiating contact, Don’t try to set the second date on the first, don’t try to make plans more than once a week (wait at least 1-3 months and let her start hinting at it or one random week invite her to hang twice and then go back to once until she starts letting you know she wants to see you more) It’s in your language and your behaviors/actions. You really have to basically fake it till you make it. They want guy who want them but don’t need them. He could have a million other equally hot and cool girls but he chose her makes her feel more special and excited to see him over the guy who she’s the center of his world before they’ve even had sex once.

Wait for her to bring up any relationship stuff, if you had options with hot women you wouldn’t be trying to lick a girl down into a relationship at 22. You would be trying to bang em all frequently and hopefully none of them really catch feelings and want exclusivity. That don’t mean you wouldn’t enjoy the girls company outside of sex but if you had options like that you would want to enjoy many girls company and wouldn’t really want to settle down until you found the best chick for you out of all the others.

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