As a female, how do I encourage seduction?

cmo88 · 2017-12-01T22:31:40+00:00

Don't say: "we should ___ sometime". Instead, pick a day of the week and say, "I'm going to _____ on Tuesday (or whatever day of the week), you should come with me." Make a suggestion rather than ask a question. It shows confidence in yourself and men find that attractive.

Bricemck · 2017-12-01T21:58:03+00:00

If you don’t set a specific time, then it’s not going to happen.

Also don’t be afraid to lightly slap a guy and say “make a move on me damnit!” We are far more oblivious than women think we are.

ACaulfield910 · 2017-12-01T23:52:22+00:00

"we should ___ sometime" in a guy's head equals "yea that's never gonna happen." And not because they don't want to, but because the thought is this: if she wanted, she would've asked. "Sometime" is synonymous with never. Imagine if a guy asks you "let's ___ sometime." It's never gonna happen. You won't ask, and he probably won't ask again. Instead, change to something like "wyd tmw night?"

briskaM · 2017-12-02T01:27:49+00:00

why can't you text them "are you free Saturday night?"

abstractpickupartist · 2017-12-02T04:42:35+00:00

How subtle you need to be: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6zqlla/how_can_i_f23_subtly_suggest_sex_emergency/

"I'm also really bad at flirting". That's what this subreddit is for. So, practice.

Basics: Smile Laugh Listen Touch him. Don't move away if he moves closer. Think about fucking him while you are looking at him. It will put the right expression on your face.

lifeson106 · 2017-12-02T10:39:42+00:00

Look up HOT APE, do all those things. Just like guys can't make you hang out with them, you can't make him hang out with you either. Give more specific invites instead of generalities - "I'm going to ___ tomorrow at 8pm, you down?" or something. If he likes you, he'll say yes or offer a counter proposal. If you try it 2 or 3 times with no effort on his part, move on.

physicalbitcoin · 2017-12-03T03:53:48+00:00

You need to giggle more.

Rymia · 2017-12-01T21:55:08+00:00

Most guys are oblivious to pretty much anything besides just mounting him and getting on with it, so just take the initiative

sk07ch · 2017-12-02T11:06:33+00:00

Actually smiling and looking someone in the eye will already do a lot. Most girls don't and that is the one indicator for me to see a woman is interested. Most women's guard is so high up they never smile at anyone.

shitak4 · 2017-12-02T12:38:13+00:00

Robert Greene: The Art of Seduction

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=banmghgNYLA&t=1465s

Aeon199 · 2017-12-02T04:57:24+00:00

Talk to less-exceptional guys, who aren't the frat-boy type, is my suggestion. That's how you can get guys to go out with you.

Nothing wrong with shy or awkward guys, they just aren't faking dominance all the time "to fit in" and they aren't arrogant blowhards. I'd think a lack of those traits is attractive, but what do I know right?

tramplemestilsken · 2017-12-01T23:41:25+00:00

If a girl says to me "We should ___ sometime", and I'm not asking her out, it's because I'm not interested. You could be a bit more forceful and just say, "So are you going to ask me out or what?"

IMO that's as far as you should go. Guys may say yes to a date/time because they have nothing going on, but feel meh about you overall. Don't waste your time with guys that aren't at least a little excited to go out with you.

youlovethisish · 2017-12-02T01:32:41+00:00

So to be frank, a lot depends on how physically attractive you are.

Are you?

You need to be attractive for a male to engage with you, plain and simple. It's due to biology, and you have a slim chance of changing that with your personality/wit, and even that will take much more work than simply displaying yourself as an attractive person.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-02T03:32:30+00:00

It depends on what kind of guy you want, really.

Some guys won't mind if you make the first move. This will require that they have some minimum level of security in their identity and manhood though.
Some guys will be varying degrees of uncomfortable, to downright insecure if you're making moves. They'll feel "unmanned" or threatened if a girl makes moves. Such guys will find themselves worrying that they need to have more "control" over the encounters to be found attractive. Guys in this camp have a way of justifying all this, by choosing to see men and women as needing to fit in certain boxes.

So to be honest, I think you're probably better off making moves, if you have a less traditional view of what men and women are supposed to be. The more egalitarian a guy you want, the more likely it is that you should make moves and take initiative. I'm not saying that you need to over-power him; that's a different discussion.

Overall, I'm saying that you should just do what you want to do, and the guys who like that, will be attracted, and guys that don't like that, will be screened out.

mrmidjji · 2017-12-02T18:29:15+00:00

There is alot of ask vs guess culture to this...

symptomunknown · 2017-12-02T16:47:56+00:00

pull your tits out

Title	As a female, how do I encourage seduction?
Author	alba_elephantis
Upvotes	28
Comments	35
Date	December 1, 2017 9:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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