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Shrek2Soundtrack · 2017-12-17T17:26:19+00:00

She's not interested. Don't give her the satisfaction of kissing her ass and begging for attention

DaddyB0d · 2017-12-17T20:10:13+00:00

throwawaylilbastard · 2017-12-17T16:33:22+00:00

Friendzoned.

weallwantsomethink · 2017-12-17T23:40:22+00:00

Well almost certainly she is not interested.

There is no reason to not give your phone number if you like someone. Even as friends.

But hey it could be she had a bad experience recently with a guy harrassing her after giving her number. It happens.

But like all of these things. If the chance/statistics are against you don't bother. Ninety percent chance it is not going to happen between you to.

Your efforts are best spend on someone else. If you talk to her if you run in to her no problem. But I would never ask her a second time for her number.

In these initial contacts don't focus on them to much. It is always a crap shoot. You just have to be there at the right place at the right time being the person you are happen to project than.

Just try try and try.

kieflicious · 2017-12-17T16:40:28+00:00

I like her standards, she allegedly doesn't give just anyone her number. However it sounds like she likes to play games to a degree. So I would have told her "im not just anyone", or "perfect, because I dont give everyone my time" (better smile as you're saying it). She said didnt know for long, i would say "how much time do you have?" Thats just me, if you wanted to salvage it thank her for her time maybe you will see her around and walk away.

Responses have to fit your personality, don't play cocky funny if you can't take it too.

I think you need to ask yourself if she's really worth your time. I personally don't like games and find them extremely agitating, therefore I wouldn't be interested long term or at all. Set boundaries of what is and isn't tolerated, follow your values and beliefs.

paladin400 · 2017-12-17T17:44:14+00:00

Move on. Attraction is simple, it's there or it isn't. Everything else is just excuses

She was being polite, but you got rejected son

weallwantsomethink · 2017-12-17T20:57:52+00:00

That's a common way of saying "I don't feel attracted enough to you to give you my number"

You'll notice if you attract particularly cold women they'll say something similar: "I don't normally give my number away, but ... (proceeds to give number)". It's just a natural defense most women have.

Just take this as a rejection, since anything you might try after this point will just look needy. Just take it as a learning experience. Next time, increase the escalation and attraction more before the number close to increase your chances.

decadearray · 2017-12-18T02:58:11+00:00

On the “she’s not interested meter,” this is MAN THE LIFEBOAT!!!!!

Smarten and harden the fuck up.

Beach_Day_All_Day · 2017-12-17T17:55:42+00:00

It's possible you didn't work in enough game. It's possible she didn't get to know you enough to feel comfortable like she said. It's possible you didn't entice her to hang out again.

She might have someone else shes interested in but didn't feel the need to bring it up. There's a million possible reasons and it's not worth wondering about for too long, but for whatever reason she didn't want to give u her number.

A lot of girls would actually just give you their number but never actually respond, or a fake one, so she actually did you a really nice solid by rejecting you and giving you the reason why, but opened you up to future possibilities.

I'd say just take the mental note that next time you approach you might want to talk longer, flirt a bit, switch up the conversation to be more personal and not just usual college smalltalk, and give girls a reason to want to hang out with you again.

I don't believe in "friendzones". Since you're at the same school there's a very real possibility that you'll socialize again and things could still happen, but don't lean on that possibility. Just be cool with her while you keep approaching other girls. Not only will this make your game sharper and build your confidence, she might even see you with other girls and start to change her mind. But once again, dont bet on it.

In my opinion it's okay it have girls you're cool with and they can help you meet other girls, but each situation is different.

Don't chase, but keep her in "striking distance" so you'll be ready to strike when she opens up to take a hit, if that makes sense. But don't fantasize about her and shit like that.

pompandpride · 2017-12-18T04:29:00+00:00

You have just experienced a polite decline, my friend. There's absolutely nothing confusing about, "Well, if we randomly run into each other later, I will continue to converse politely with you so that your asking me out doesn't become awkward."

Slackstar69 · 2017-12-17T17:22:42+00:00

She doesn't like you. Move on.

If she liked you she'd have given it to you.

Now if you keep asking and asking for her number you'll seem desperate and definitely won't get it.

Maybe if you just ignore her for a while she'll come back to you.

BeastAP23 · 2017-12-17T21:55:28+00:00

She dont want you

domino1995 · 2017-12-18T04:54:23+00:00

She's trying to let you down easier by saying you can talk when you run into each other. I hate to be negative to you man, but girls usually hand out their number pretty easily, so she's really really not interested at all

Givemerachel · 2017-12-17T17:26:09+00:00

I do the same exact thing. Some women simply aren't comfortable giving out their phone numbers to people that they barely know (there are too many stalkers & weirdos in the world). Don't think too much into it, ask her if there's another form of communication that she feels comfortable with.

lambo2011 · 2017-12-17T18:23:18+00:00

Yeah, forget her and move on dawg

AudiS4B6 · 2017-12-18T00:11:31+00:00

I don't call every girl who gives me her number!

2017-12-18T04:21:04+00:00

Not enough attraction. You can try to build more, but definitely game other chicks and don't focus on this one anymore.

2017-12-18T05:47:05+00:00

You haven't displayed enough value or displayed too much IOI (indicator of interest)

TroiasAchilles · 2017-12-18T15:46:37+00:00

Not interested

Smigg_e · 2017-12-18T00:37:53+00:00

Start ignoring her and not giving a fuck about her and I guarantee she'll start giving you attention.

2017-12-18T04:19:03+00:00

Give all her friends attention. Ignore her

2017-12-17T21:38:58+00:00

Next.

She would give out her phone number to Chad.

ImJustSo · 2017-12-17T20:20:45+00:00

You should never ask for a number, if you're doing things right she will give you her number because she will be enthusiastic to meet you again.

Luffydude · 2017-12-17T23:04:11+00:00

It's a shit test to ascertain your value, to pass it you can just reply with "cool me neither, looks like we're on the same boat haha so anyway... Let's exchange instagrams". DONT look butthurt angry and DONT give a beta "oh okay..", both of these will make you fail the shit test hard

Instagram is so much better than number these days. If you don't have one set up then just go for snap chat instead. Girls will gladly want more people on social media and less creeps texting/calling them on the phone

Edit: downvote me all you want but this is solid advice tested and proved. Not that I expect much since the top comment is "she's not interested". I guess most people just give up over small hurdles

Not_unique_enuf · 2017-12-17T17:08:02+00:00

Get her fb. Get to know her more than go for the number.

hc_fella · 2017-12-17T23:11:33+00:00

I'd say just add her on facebook. I use facebook messenger as my most used tool to text girls (people in general) and the barrier for entry is a lot lower. In college the barrier for meeting people is incredibly low (as is adding people on social media), but i only have the numbers of the people that i need to be able to reach anytime.

Ninokun · 2017-12-17T21:30:13+00:00

lol, she would give the Phone Number to Chad Thundercock in 2 seconds.

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