Is cold approach counterproductive?

burncushlikewood · 2021-02-22T03:02:15+00:00

It's counterproductive if you don't know what you're doing. But it will help you get over approach anxiety and can lead to sex. Women love the ballsy guy that approaches them during the day or in the club. Women appreciate being approached and the courage that comes with it, fortune favors the brave my friend, it takes a lot more balls to do that then send a message over the internet on tinder. This way you can show that you're a safe and sane guy.

Appropriate_Focus402 · 2021-02-22T02:31:31+00:00

Here’s the thing about cold approach. It can be discouraging, you absolutely have to be okay with failure. But once you learn how to be rejected with style and confidence, and the respect of the people you approach... it becomes a superpower.

Here’s whats brilliant about the cold approach:

It creates genuine confidence and bravery. Nothing could be farther from counterproductive.
It makes it habit to get the number of the hottest person in the room. Or the sexiest girl in the dance club. Or the rare gem you find at the grocery store. The type of person you find so beautiful that they turn you on at a glance. It becomes habit to talk to them, and if you do it right, eventually you will bang those super 10’s. Even if they aren’t conventional 10’s in society’s eyes, you’ve conditioned yourselves to be bold with your exact type.

Vinniikii · 2021-02-22T02:09:31+00:00

Can poison the well in college or other fishbowl environment. Get a reputation for being weird or creepy and then all you can do is cold approach. Some misandrist women will interrupt every casual conversation they see between strangers.

IcarusBane1 · 2021-02-22T01:15:02+00:00

Choosing signals are outdated they don’t mean shit. Approach women you like

Erukpt · 2021-02-22T01:07:01+00:00

I prefer emotional approach.

Cold approach is too distant and rational

Full-Principle-9758 · 2021-02-22T16:51:50+00:00

Stop with the “girls,” and ask someone real. If you are interested, in so many words, tell her. At best you’ll embarrass the young lady and make her blush. Then at least you’ll know that you’re on your way.

Trust me, I am still a blusher, and whispers of indescretions still arouse me.

the-great-jd · 2021-02-22T01:19:51+00:00

It's not, if you're just nice and not weird or creepy about it. In fact, it is 100 times more effective than using dating apps. Dress well, be yourself, show some confidence, be brave and just nicely approach that pretty girl in the supermarket or whereever. It's a skill everone should work on. Thanks to cold approach, I met a really nice girl not long ago at a supermarket.

Stoner_skateboarder · 2021-02-22T12:54:50+00:00

No it is not, my last girlfriend was from cold approach. Ive also had casual sexual encounters because of cold approach.

Desperate-Gur-5730 · 2021-02-22T04:09:08+00:00

Only if you want to be sincere. The most important “rule” for people that want more than a wham/bam is to be genuine. Don’t play games. If you want the real thing, games won’t bring you to it. Especially if you’re playing games and the other is being sincere and you don’t care, please don’t! Unless she’s witty enough to call you out on your bullshit and throws it back at ya! That can lead to some fun banter!

iron_ee · 2021-02-22T04:40:52+00:00

Can't hurt

EdaciousBegetter · 2021-02-22T11:03:26+00:00

I’m a failure with women but I swear I’ve been told by nearly every one I ever fooled around with that it’s best to be yourself, mind you you have to be crafty on which “You” version you share and when, but all those “You” bits should be truly you, just the right you at the right time

donaldtrumpsmistress · 2021-02-22T15:32:15+00:00

Not at all. I've met every girlfriend and the lion's share of my hookups through cold approach. It'll suck hard when you first start. You'll get rejected a lot. If you get good you'll still get rejected a lot. But the resilience you build to rejection is a valuable life skill (as in not letting rejections bring you down and you keep trying with other people, not trying with the same girl post rejection for the autists out there). Plus not having to rely on tinder (which has an 8:1 mf ratio) or just creeping on friends of friends is a huge competitive advantage.

Philipparty · 2021-02-22T10:19:40+00:00

No. How would it be?

You see someone you find attractive, you have three options. Someone introduses you to them, they come up to you, or you go up to them.

LoadTop5821 · 2021-02-22T10:37:37+00:00

As we get older we get wiser. That comes with experience, and being burned many times. So with that thought, everybody goes through. Some better than others, thats why its tough if your quiet and shy. Cannot be intimindated by any means. Everyone had valid points, but everyone will have there style.

Full-Principle-9758 · 2021-02-22T16:56:35+00:00

Besides, how cold is your touch??😛

WanyCaleb · 2021-02-22T16:59:44+00:00

It doesn't hurt to try but at this point, I'd rather chose a way that's a bit guaranteed and has some wiggle room in terms of error. Can't do that with cold approaching, now can we?

Eyesrcinnamon_ · 2021-02-22T20:50:21+00:00

I would say don't do it. Everyone deserves an explanation, regardless if you like them or not.

Title	Is cold approach counterproductive?
Author	berttbeans996
Upvotes	19
Comments	41
Date	February 22, 2021 12:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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