Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-10T19:27:38+00:00

I generally avoid sex talk.

It raises the stakes / risk for the first meeting, so she's less likely to meet up if you do that. Based on my experience at least. There are exceptions - like if you have built a lot of trust by talking for several weeks off the dating app. Then it can work because the trust is higher and she is more invested and therefore may be okay with a first date where intimacy is expected. Or if she's very adventurous / risk taking.

But in general: try to lower the stakes for the first meeting, so that she will actually dare to meet you.

hunterpua · 2025-06-10T19:22:54+00:00

Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?

Yes.

Women do it too.

A friend of mine just had this conversation with a girl on a dating app...

Her: I'm very possessive

Him: I had a feeling. Do you get aggressive or just throw tantrums when no one else is around?

Her: I get aggressive, very aggressive 😏

Also, guys who haven't experimented enough will find this hard to believe, but you can even sexually escalate, just thru texting, to the point of making her want to skip the date and sleep with you as soon as possible, even when you're the one that initiates it, and I have the screenshots to prove that.

You don't have to make it sexual with everyone on apps. You don't have to keep it clean with everyone either. Just try your best to read any given situation you find yourself in and respond accordingly.

Edit: Here's some screenshots because you guys asked for it - https://imgur.com/a/QWrbCqS

For some context, that's already mid conversation, theres still basic flirting that came before this. Also, it doesn't show every step of the very sexual parts because that was around 20 exchanges but it should be enough to get the gist.

I'll probably delete these after a day or 2 to protect the girl's privacy.

I'll be happy to explain how you can do this yourself though. Feel free to ask.

cryptiiix · 2025-06-10T20:18:29+00:00

Don't make any intention for sex until you flirt in person with her. Everytime I remotely make a joke or mention it, leads to ghosting or no date. No matter how many days we have talked for.

Be a normal person because they get those comments and innuendos from every other guy.

pigwalk5150 · 2025-06-11T08:46:15+00:00

I’ll keep it clean unless she initiates it. Then we can have some fun with it. If she brings it up again then I’ll take it seriously.

reddituser1000111 · 2025-06-11T04:31:52+00:00

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-11T13:47:00+00:00

Comments, no. Innuendoes yes. Women like it when you make them imagine it, not when you make it explicit.

Innuendoes also need a lot of practice, requiring you to read between the lines.

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-06-12T07:37:41+00:00

only in person ; and calibrate her reaction

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2025-06-10T19:19:17+00:00

only if the woman initiates it

FlirtyButterflyWings · 2025-06-10T22:30:07+00:00

Depends if I’m feeling spicy lol but usually yes because I do want sex on the first date

Khower · 2025-06-11T05:24:58+00:00

Depends on the girl. Some ill come flying out the gate. Others id wait weeks.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-11T08:46:44+00:00

There is no right or wrong answer.

Be prepared to lose a few leads, experiment and learn to calibrate intuitively.

Jake0024 · 2025-06-11T19:52:28+00:00

"Texting phase" does that mean you've not met yet? Or you've already had a date, exchanged numbers, but are still communicating more by text than in person?

speak_truth__ · 2025-06-12T01:54:02+00:00

After being fat fished many times absolutely not. You don’t know who you’re talking to on the other end of the app.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-12T06:06:36+00:00

TigerWares · 2025-06-12T12:36:39+00:00

It's a numbers game just like anything else. One girl digs it, another doesn't. You just don't know.

dobbs1997 · 2025-06-12T19:50:36+00:00

what’s a texting phase with online dating ? why are you texting at all on the app? why not just go on a date with them?

Title	Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?
Author	Comfortabli_Numb
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Date	June 10, 2025 7:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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