Does being 5'9 negatively effect my chances with girls or am I just being insecure?

IWannaGetBetterNow · 2018-04-08T17:40:45+00:00

Fuck you and your 5'9"

I say this with love

-5'6" dude

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-08T17:13:06+00:00

I wished I was 5'9". I still get laid though so its cool. My advice is to not get too bulky when lifting, when you go wide and stocky you make yourself look really short. Its better to have the slender swimmer type muscular body, women prefer that because its not intimidating.

flyinBeech · 2018-04-08T17:09:56+00:00

You're overthinking and over reacting

hunterpua · 2018-04-08T19:57:18+00:00

Zac Efron is 5'8". Don't worry about it. Lots of guys with your height get laid.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-08T17:12:37+00:00

5'9'' Bro here, try living near DC. I call it "the land of giants" lol. Girls out here are very hench ahaha. They average like 5'11''-6'2'' and yes I have seen much shorter guys dating them.

Personally I prefer girls shorter than me but I don't let it affect my ego. You are your height you can't really do anything to change it. It's like being born a certain color, it's not your choice just genetics I don't worry about what I can't change.

I like the idea of being with a girl that's more on the submissive side during sex

Same here, but I guess thats why we climb mountains huh? Or you can just find shorter girls. Keep hitting the gym and keeping your body tip top. You will be good to go I say don't think about it too much there is nothing you can do to magically get taller. Yea you can cheat with big boots or something but the second those come off you are back to your correct height.

WIA20XX · 2018-04-08T17:14:37+00:00

Online? Sure. Offline, not much.

authenticsociallife · 2018-04-08T18:37:32+00:00

It's not determined by that. You've come to the incorrect conclusion that your height is the determining factor when it isn't. For example, my friend who is 5'3 has slept with over a 1,000 women. He has more charisma and charm then most people I've ever seen. The taller the woman is the more he wants to bed her. He's dominant, not because of his height, but because of who he is.

If you want to be dominant, go for who you want. Build up that habit of assertiveness and confidence. Break that old negative bad habit and replace it with one that serves. As soon as you see a tall woman you like, go up and approach her. If it works you'll see that it was because of your confidence and rap. if it doesn't, it was because of your lack of those two but that your height wasn't the determining factor.

As for being around other guys. Let's say a guy is taller than you and he even has bigger muscles than you. Does that mean he's better than you? No. He just has those physical characteristics but you might have other physical or mental ones that outdo him.

And the average height for women is 5'3. Most women you see that are taller are only appearing so because of heels and the way their hair is done to give the illusion of height.

cyrilan · 2018-04-08T22:46:56+00:00

Man, we're all going to have insecurities. I am 6'4 and I am most definitely a newbie at game. I have been told several times from different people that I'm good looking and I still find it very hard to get girls.

Behaviour is far more important than our aesthetics.

Play the hand you are dealt.

africanpyjamas69 · 2018-04-09T00:55:11+00:00

I will honestly never understand guys who make their own looks a big deal. I'm 6", babyface, semi-fat and I have a crooked af nose.

STILL women like me. Women give next to no fucks about the way you look as long as you put some effort into looking your best. You know what they do care about? HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR LOOKS AND HEIGHT. If you think you're too short, guess what? You're too short.

Ruggero88 · 2018-04-08T17:48:00+00:00

these days women are really insane about height.

ThePoolPlayer2016 · 2018-04-08T17:56:19+00:00

I've seen a guy or two that were super attractive blonde girls and the guy was like 5 foot 6 inches. The girl was 1 foot taller.

That said I have read somewhere your environment does play into the girls decision. So your value is relative to other guys around you.

I've seen super tall NBA types get massive attraction.

SinicalDreams · 2018-04-08T19:21:36+00:00

I have found it's best to be upfront about it. I'm sure some pro could turn the story around, but it violates a basic principle. Starting from a negative attraction is playing the game with a handicap. With those girls I choose to fail fast and move on. There are lots of beautiful, smart and compatible women out there.

I do highly recommend banging a tall chick at some point. The legs go on for days. It's a treat.

nuclphy · 2018-04-08T19:28:20+00:00

It doesn't matter, you play the hand you are dealt. These are just excuses you are making. Being dominate has nothing to do with being tall.

Even posting this you seems a little bit submissive and that is far more a problem than your height.

Average female height in the US is 5'4" inches and for guys 5'10" so give me break.

Isunova · 2018-04-08T20:45:53+00:00

I’m 5’5 and most of my friends are 6’+, and I’ve slept with more women than they have.

It’s not about how tall or short you are; it’s how you carry yourself. I’m not worried about my height and don’t even think about it, and as such others don’t see it as a problem either.

Even a dwarf can stand as tall as a king.

LingeringGnome · 2018-04-10T01:39:21+00:00

Dominance is a mindset, not a physical trait.

That said, you can improve how YOU feel, and your chances with women by adding muscle.

ortsnom · 2018-04-08T18:16:12+00:00

Late to the party but your being 5'9 is really not your problem. You are who you are.

There are girls 5'11 who have this same notion but the opposite. They feel they need to attract taller guys but are insecure about their height and looking too tall. Less guys approach the girls than if they were 5'6. So basically, don't be an insecure tall girl.

If you tinder and come across women who bring this up my advice is to own it. It's worked plenty of times for me when I tell them:

Cool. I'm 5'7 but height doesn't really matter, I like what I like. If me being shorter bothers you then I feel sorry for you.

It's an ouchey and they tend to come around pretty quick.

Own it, you're basically the make of equivalent of a hot petite girl. Show her what you're about.

danielson1987 · 2018-04-08T21:53:14+00:00

it's absolutely in your head. 5'9 is normal

zfgee · 2018-04-09T01:15:37+00:00

You're not being insecure, you're being fucking stupid. Height is irrelevant (except in marginal cases).

ajswdf · 2018-04-08T18:05:25+00:00

Both are true. Being taller does make you more attractive, but it's not like if you're under 6' you can only bang ugly girls. Being self conscious about it will hurt you way more than being average height in itself.

trufas · 2018-04-08T18:29:40+00:00

Yes, it would be better if you were taller, smarter and richer. What a surprise

RepresentativeLive32 · 2021-12-24T22:22:31+00:00

I know I’m late but from my experience you either better date really really short girls like close to 5ft or forget about that whole dominance dynamic in bed. Girls only get off with that dynamic with guys they believe can really overpower them and they won’t ever feel that way around you sorry for the hand you were dealt

BubbleButtPete · 2022-06-06T06:44:54+00:00

GoodMorningWanka · 2018-04-09T00:06:10+00:00

I am 6'0" and I get no poon, so I guess that is not really important.

Title	Does being 5'9 negatively effect my chances with girls or am I just being insecure?
Author	benzodiazememe
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Comments	52
Date	April 8, 2018 5:04 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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