Does location matter for cold approach?

rzerx · 2024-09-07T02:14:35+00:00

It does matter. I game in NYC and can tell you I find it easier gaming in front of the mall downtown than a place like the village where you'd expect easier game which isn't the case.

Have a few friends who have good results gaming in coney island but a few other friends report 0 results there.

So location is important given the kind of people, demographics, neighborhood, language and culture.

No_Hat9118 · 2024-09-07T02:07:47+00:00

I imagine SF better, 20 degrees warmer and a lot more chill + more women with time on their hands

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-09-07T05:10:51+00:00

Does location matter for cold approach?

Yes. Bigger,more populated places, with a bigger % of hot people are easier.

All of my friends tell me that NYC is much easier for dating as a man.

OMG NYC. I was there for 7 days and I loved it.

That and Miami (Though IF you can’t avoid paying I wouldn’t go there) were my favourite places in America.

they are using dating apps primarily.

Doesn’t matter.

Is cold approaching easier in NYC versus SF?

Never been to SF. But I can tell you NYC is supper easy.

My assumption is that location or city in America doesn’t matter much

Go to the village of Fucksville with 5 people. Where 0 datable girls exist. And tell me how that goes.

Yes Location matters. Like where I live in Europe is supper hard to anywhere else I have been (Maybe Budapest is harder but that was just on the opens)

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-09-07T10:29:37+00:00

it doesn’t. I always use the analogy of a kid doing a lemon stand. Just like him, each one of us is an individual. If a kid opens up a lemon stand, his reach is probably within 1 mile or 2 the most. It’s not like he walks with his cart around the entire city, especially if it’s as big as SF or NYC.

Same thing. It’s not like we try to approach every single hot chick in the city. We are an individual, we don’t have the capability like a battalion of soldiers try to raze a city.

Such_Orchid_7759 · 2024-09-07T13:46:41+00:00

Location matters. Bay Area has about 35% more single men between 25-34 than single women. NYC has about 3% more single men than single women between 25-34.

In some places like Silicon Valley it’s actually 50% more men. That means if 2/3 of men are in relationships then there’s literally zero single women.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2024-09-07T18:50:48+00:00

nope if you have game it won't matter but in SF its a lot of ugly fem bots so good luck

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-09-08T00:12:28+00:00

Cold approach is difficult for Asians, id say. They are the most stereotyped race out of all I think in casual social settings. And im mixed race black.

I live in the Bay too, and it just sucks here for cold approach. That is not the social custom here. I could get into why, but. Id say almost anywhere else is better. And when I've been elsewhere, it has been better. Overall.

ak4790 · 2024-09-08T08:35:56+00:00

Location matters a lot. SF is a terrible city to date as an Asian man. Move to a city where there are more women, and the women are open, receptive, and attracted to Asian men. NYC is very tough for dating, since everybody is hustle/bustle, and competition is high. Go to a 2nd tier city, or outside the US.

epimpstyle · 2024-09-08T08:45:10+00:00

Talking about a whole city is delusional, not the city is important, but actually you need a place where there are many people walking, it is easier to choose a woman to talk to if you see one every 2-3 minutes than 20-30 minutes. Making statistics of how many are single or married is BS, the statistics are not important.

premonial · 2024-09-08T19:54:34+00:00

There is difference, but it's not as big as people think. It's definitely possible anywhere on the planet, whether you're from SF, NYC, Germany, Norway, or Russia. Everywhere possible, just different strategy on different places (Eastern European strategy will have lower success rates in Norway and the other way around for example. It's all about adapting and using right strategy)

Salty-Cobbler-9710 · 2024-09-07T01:53:52+00:00

It doesn't and I'm based in nyc. Be consistent and take massive actions

FreeFree000 · 2024-10-30T12:00:04+00:00

It does …if you have game, then you can pull anywhere but the amount of success will vary, depending on your vibe & the particular city that you’re in.

GOVERNORSUIT · 2024-12-24T15:52:32+00:00

theres alot of bad things hapening in ny, and bad people. because of that, nyers are usually pretty paranoid to random strangers aproaching them. as a matter of fact, nyers dont even like making eye contact because of the above dangers.

put it this way, look at the public bathrooms in ny, alot of them have a guard in front of it. u dont really see that in any other part of america. this just shows how dangerous ny is. u dont see anyone guarding the bathroom, even in a bart station

lf you have connections, then its a difrent story. you know people, got social circles, then its great, but if u just going up to random people in ny, u not going to get very far even though theres lots of attractive people in ny. people in the bay area are relatively less defensive/scared than ny. l remember going up to a caltrain employee in an empty parking lot at 1am, and asking him where l could a catch a connecting bus, and he looked it up for me, and even made a phone call. this would've never hapend in ny. nyer woulda never rolled down the window, let alone look up information for me. with that said, l did ask for directions in broad day light in ny one time, and an australian woman did look up information for me, very hesitantly, but still, she was australian, and not a local nyer. l was also asking for directions one time in the village. 4/5 people just ignored me, and didnt even stop.

now think about it like this, if people are unwilling to even give directions, what makes you think theyre going to let you into their life?

ny is not a city where people are very open to making friends, and are very cautious. this is why if you look at ny social circles, you have a very clear distinction and drawn out line between all the demographic groups. for example, the rich white people in ny from out of town almost never mingle with the local nyers. remember, ny has a large population who are not long term residents. then you have alot of divisions between the nationalities. the asians will only hang out with asians, white only with whites, etc, alot like south african apartheid. go to the tenis courts and you will see this. even if you go to the great lawn in central park, the demographic distinctions are very sharp. socioeconomics, race, demographics, career all come into play the way these social circles are formed, and it should come as no surprise, the higher the income the more exclusive these groups become. the only time you see a mixing of race groups is with college students, but even then socioeconomics come into play, and their income levels usually match. people at that level almost never go for cold approach, even if they do, you should expect a quick follow and unfollow on instagram

what lve noticed is that dating in big cities has no clear advantage over small towns. because while big cities have more people, the people tend to be more defensive, and on guard, whereas small towns have less people, but the people are more open, and less paranoid. in many cases, the small towns might be easier to cold approach, even though cold approach is inefficient anywhere u go

you can literally go for years in ny without anyone saying hi to you, where if you in the bay, someone will. l remember walking through allentown pa one time, and even the thugs standing on the street said hi to me. l was thinking this would never happen in ny.

anyone who tells u ny is a good place to cold approach is either lying to you or has never left ny

soulshock22 · 2024-09-07T03:03:12+00:00

Too many negative Asian male stereotypes in USA. You would do better in Asia as an Asian American.

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