Does the phrase "strike while the iron is hot" applies to dating?

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-09-15T17:10:14+00:00

Yes, yes it does apply. Just sitting on your hands and texting for days makes you come off as an indecisive man. Being indecisive is a turn off for most women.

ChicoBrillo · 2022-09-15T21:19:44+00:00

Do you want to be penpals or do you want to date them? It’s okay to be friendly but cut to chase

Wazzock_PP · 2022-09-15T22:42:40+00:00

Yes, the faster you get in there the better. Women tend to think too much as time gos on, but make emotional emotions if you move things along fast enough.

Example: I had a female friend that I could have been fwb with, I decided not to jump straight at it. After a week she no longer had sexual attraction towards me. However I know we would of been fwb for several months if I took it rite away because from experience that’s how long they usually last before they start dating some one.

omega05 · 2022-09-15T16:04:45+00:00

If it's happening to you then it seems you have your answer. What are you going to do differently moving forward?

FiftyNereids · 2022-09-16T01:56:48+00:00

A good rule of thumb, which you alluded to as well is proper escalation. If you do not escalate when appropriate the woman will lose interest. So like you said, if you don’t set up an initial date the convo will fade. I think a good general rule of thumb is the only goal you should have before the first date is setting up the first date and it is for the very reason you just laid out. You wait too long, the woman will lose interest. Note that it’s also because if this is a girl you’re talking on online dating apps, chances are she’s talking with 50 other men. She hasn’t solidified you as an actual person yet, that happens when she meets you in person. Up until that point, you are an idea, a photo with stats.

2022-09-16T03:02:02+00:00

Ugh. Make a move dude you ain't getting any younger and those girls titties ain't getting any perkier.

yeahthatslifedarling · 2022-09-15T17:39:08+00:00

Humanoidsnow · 2022-09-15T23:39:50+00:00

Yup, 100% Happened to me multiple times , had girls show alot of attention, touching, flirting, talkative, etc etc etc, and after Either between 2 weeks to 2 months they would all grow cold or friendzone me suddenly and never were the same ever again, so Yes, Do it before it's too late.

Travis_Varga · 2022-09-16T00:07:50+00:00

Yes, it does. A woman who’s interested enough to go out on a date with you if you ask is normally going to be turned off if you just play pen pals with her.

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-09-15T15:29:08+00:00

I only uses texts to set up and confirm the in person meeting. If we have to talk before the meeting I prefer it to be over FaceTime.

But to answer yeah you gotta ask her out asap. I’m of the belief the longer u go without the in person meeting the worst your chances are

zapadz · 2022-09-15T16:23:43+00:00

RastaPilot737 · 2022-09-16T00:09:31+00:00

Yup!

SwimComfortable7465 · 2022-09-16T04:39:24+00:00

Absolutely!

antonthecad · 2022-09-16T11:09:28+00:00

It definitely applies. We will live in a fast moving world, long are the days where you could send a letter to your girl when you were at war. If you're out of sight, you could very well get passed up on quite quickly. Everyone is looking for the next shiny thing.

sinhaanip · 2022-09-16T16:55:09+00:00

Most part of the charm and attraction is because of the unknown. When it’s figured out, it dies. So don’t be an open book and be mysterious and cryptic.

There’s more to it… don’t come out as needy etc. To increase your perceived value.

And yes strike when the iron is the hottest. Remember, play as if you are the prize to be won/ earned.

potatoeswithfries · 2022-09-16T09:24:13+00:00

Yes, we get a window of opportunity with girls, which will remain open for a certain time only before they lose interest, and it's better to assume that time is counted in hours rather than days.

EDIT: actually, it's similar with men as well from what I hear.

IceColdBrewsz · 2022-09-15T18:27:53+00:00

Definitely. You don't wanna ask a girl out or to go home with you when she's not feeling it.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-09-16T02:51:08+00:00

Looks like you already have you answer.

PowerLifterVagSlayer · 2022-09-16T09:51:52+00:00

Yes. Show me a single guy who actually gets lays who tells you dumb bullshit like "play hard to get, don't text back right away"

Granny_Killa · 2022-09-16T12:34:26+00:00

Yes. You pretty much can't build attraction at all by texting, only maintain it (at best, which most guys can't).

Years ago before tiktok etc fucked up everyone's attention span you had up to 2 weeks to arrange something, now it's about 3 days.

You can learn better text game to draw it out a bit but basically try to meet them ASAP.

Otherwise you are allowing the 100 other hot guys to match with them and be the ones asking them out in 1-3 days.

marshall_strud · 2022-09-16T13:44:38+00:00

Yes.

Flairtor · 2022-09-16T16:45:02+00:00

As a rule, make the date within 2-3 days. Enough time that they can get to know you and he comfortable enough to meet you without pulling the I don't know you well enough card, fast enough that they don't get bored. Despite what people might tell you, setting up a date within 3-5 messages won't work unless you're on a dating app or they really vibe with you or find you attractive, you'll know when to do what.

Title	Does the phrase "strike while the iron is hot" applies to dating?
Author	dametime223
Upvotes	11
Comments	26
Date	September 15, 2022 3:15 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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