Drop your standards

Key-Proud · 2026-07-09T16:32:33+00:00

The trick is not to obtain value ... but behave how people with value behaves. This is percieved high status.

The trick is not define 10s as valueable .. but instead treat them as equal to yourself and everyone else.

The exception you speak of .... do you think these guys treat 10s are valuable? No he treats them like other people ... he probably doesnt call them 10s. - now imagine how this guy behaves around these 10s when he treats them as equals ....

This is called outcome independency. - you screw yourself already by defining them as 10s ... putting your self beneath them and putting them on a pedestal.

Seduction.

Parking-Machine5337 · 2026-07-09T17:49:04+00:00

Then don't open the hottest girls and prefilter yourself? That's bullshit. Just open and don't get butthurt if they reject you

DeliveryLegal8026 · 2026-07-09T16:21:45+00:00

it doesnt matter when you get a girls number and they are dry as fuck and the convo is one sided

Realwoujo · 2026-07-10T00:07:47+00:00

This is stupid. Womens' attraction is fluid and you have no idea what kind of women you can get until you go for it. There are no clear leagues - everybody wants something different. Also, this kind of negative thinking is death for game.

Chemical_Custard6365 · 2026-07-09T16:48:56+00:00

The Number system is subjective anyways, What you think is a 10 Is somebody elses 7 Bro, Lets be honest. For some reason people think Sydney sweeney is a 9, But in my book, Like a 6

Nervous-Arrogance · 2026-07-09T16:56:43+00:00

A lot of people in this sub don't even seem able to approach. I don't think this is the sort of article that is needed here.

UnparliamentaryTea · 2026-07-09T18:40:15+00:00

I think you have a point that you can’t really fake it till you make it if you don’t have the underlying capability to prove yourself. But I also believe if you demonstrate general competence and are “good enough” overall, if a woman really wants to be around you she will not think as much about the status games.

It’s sort of like the show Suits: Mike Ross mimics a Harvard lawyer and behaves the way a Harvard-educated lawyer would behave, but even once people find out he didn’t go to law school, they stand by him because he proved his competence.

It is still worth shooting your shot. If a woman rejects you for your looks, height, finances, or not belonging to the same social clubs or going to the “right” college, that is her individual shallowness and not indicative of every woman or that no one will see you as valuable. That’s not to say everyone will marry a supermodel, but it is a good thing to go after what you want and date people you’re attracted to

Back2theCouture · 2026-07-09T16:36:26+00:00

I totally agree with you in principle. But this advice is more likely suited to be told to more women than men.

Men tend to be more fairly objective than women when it comes to appraising themselves. Nowadays most women claim to be a 10 regardless they come in all way, shape, or form. It’s like Oprah giving a car to everyone; everyone is a 10. Even if the self-appraisal is inflated on men, maybe just inflated 1-3 points. Not like from a 4 to a 10 which I find more often claimed by women.

ComparisonNo1559 · 2026-07-09T18:04:45+00:00

That parts is always tricky with me cause i havent had a yes is dificult to get a estimate of what Value probably 0 but like working

messias94 · 2026-07-09T18:15:08+00:00

Ich habe andere Erfahrung gemacht. Mich haben hauptsächlich 6/10 hart abgewiesen, aber kurz darauf fand mich eine 10/10 richtig Toll.

Meine Annahme ist, dass es viel weniger um das äußere geht, sondern viel mehr ob eure persönlichkeit zusammenpasst.

Mittlerweile glaube ich, dass jede Form der analyse bezüglich des Aussehens der Frau im vergleich zu dem eigenen Aussehen konplett sinnlos ist.

Über mich:

Bin ein 1.70 großer Zwerg.

jsbach123 · 2026-07-10T09:59:24+00:00

I'll never have a girlfriend or wife under a 7. I'd rather remain forever single than go lower than a 7. The thought of a 4 sleeping next to me is repulsive.

The trick is not to lower standards. It's to raise your attractiveness so you can get better.

For guys, getting better physically is actually the easy part. Much harder is to develop great social skills and make women enjoy talking to you.

_theMAUCHO_ · 2026-07-09T16:26:51+00:00

Preach 👏👏👏

laced1 · 2026-07-09T16:40:57+00:00

I agree but women won't date or take a man seriously that is above their league and I have tested this. I'm not a Chad but I've had women reject me because they weren't interested in me and I was way out of their league

Title	Drop your standards
Author	Independent-Bad218
Upvotes	0
Comments	30
Date	July 9, 2026 4:19 PM UTC (2 weeks ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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