First approach at the gym

JayinHK · 2024-10-31T14:49:47+00:00

Keep at it but I wouldn't try cold approach at the gym. Start a normal convo. If you make someone uncomfortable you're gonna see them at the gym again

m00fassa · 2024-10-31T15:49:28+00:00

holy fuck so many comments here saying don’t hit women in the gym because xyz. why the fuck not?!? obv if it’s your gym don’t make a habit of it, but if you see someone regularly, and you find them attractive, there’s no fucking issue going up and saying so. she’s an adult she can handle being hit on, stop being so beta, grow a pair, and say hello.

idk why most of y’all think women are so scary they’re human too, and some really enjoy getting hit on. everyone’s different, get rid of your “oh she’s a girl so she must think or be like this” attitude cause it’s fucked. it’s another human. we all are different. stop making assumptions, get off social media, and live your life. you’ll thank me one day.

OP good fucking job well done, it only gets easier from here. just keep being respectful (as you were) and you’ll be golden. It’s a numbers game, you’ll find the one that does vibe with you and then all the rejections don’t matter.

Visualize_ · 2024-10-31T16:07:08+00:00

The"issue" with this approach is you built no rapport and immediately asked for something. This shotgun approach might be fine in certain venues but I feel like gym approaches should feel a lot more calibrated given the environment

restecpa88 · 2024-10-31T15:11:52+00:00

When did “Hi you look nice, can I have your socials?” become an approach. Does that ever work for anybody? Serious question. Seeing it more and more lately.

FlieseTeppich · 2024-10-31T15:00:40+00:00

I go to the gym regularly for years and never approached somebody there. The reason is that I think most women are there to work out and don't feel pretty and nice at all, since they are sweaty and of course stinky. Nevertheless, I think you asked way too early for her number, after that compliment you should've asked something regarding the exercise or her look, etc.

smind893 · 2024-10-31T17:05:52+00:00

Sorry, but this won't work unless she's been eyeing you for quite a while over a period of days.

In the gym, si.oly comment on what she's working on with light humor For ex: "Slow down! The Olympics aren't for 4 years !" Or "OK, you're so killing it and making us all look bad here!"

Lines like these are light and fun and more importantly, give you a chance to see what her vibe is. If she smiles and puts her headphones back on then you smile back and let it cook till next time. If she ignores you or gives you an intense look then you know it's a time waster. If she smiles and jokes back then you're in there like swimwear.....Just don't fuck it up!

SkratchFBA · 2024-10-31T21:07:04+00:00

Good job on approaching in the gym but next time I wouldn’t open with “hey I like your look” depending on the tone it can sound creepy and u went straight for the number with no rapport, it’s giving thirsty and you didn’t even introduce yourself, Your game was exactly like those weak rizzcam guys online. This is a place where you’re going to see her more than once so imo you don’t have to go straight for the kill like that. Could have just asked her something gym/fitness related from the start and built from there depending on how that went. But you got more balls than most

KoleSekor · 2024-10-31T15:00:24+00:00

And you didn't die? You didn't get arrested because of # metoo? Lmao. Good job man. When they say they have a boyfriend I like to playfully say something like, "I guess I'll just have to wait until you realize what you're missing"

j314314 · 2024-10-31T20:53:23+00:00

Hey man. Been there, done that. The solution is to build comfort over time. Gather information.

If you approach and she is open to chat, you progress. If she is open to chat often, you progress. If she is open to chat often, ask for her ig. If she exchanges ig with you, you progress. Then perhaps answer a story.

If you've made progress all the way to the exchange of contacts, then you perhaps know her life situation. Is she happily married? Does she have a boyfriend? Is she moving to another country soon? You already know this because you've talked with her often.

This does takes time, but the key here is to do it with a couple of girls you're interested on.

There is NO woman I see semi-regularly, who I find attractive, who I have not tried making something happen.

therapyAintWorking · 2024-10-31T23:09:33+00:00

I like your confidence but I think you need a more nuanced approach.

In a setting with regulars, moving a bit slower is advised. For example, smiling at a woman and if she smiles back, say hi and so on, making sure you get reciprocation at each step. Some people are just friendly of course, but if you cold approach someone in the gym then can get annoyed. Particularly very attractive women.

Also, you imply she was lying about being in a relationship. Unless you're a stalker how do you know that? And why are you counting the number of women you have slept with as a way to get self esteem? These things are going to be present in your energy and feel creepy.

AcanthisittaDue3991 · 2024-11-04T00:04:26+00:00

I've been thinking about doing some gym approaches as well, as there are lots of cute girls there. The method I've thought of is this:

- Try to establish eye contact and smile

- Eventually, not right away, do some exercise near her. As you come near her to grab weights, try to get eye contact and pay her a compliment. Ex: "I like your shoes".

- Make some small talk and mix in light teasing if shes receptive.

- Ask for her number or repeat this next time you see her

I think gym game is more long term, don''t go for the kill right away.

Main-Daikon9246 · 2024-10-31T22:00:26+00:00

DO NOT COLD APPROACH IN THE GYM.

establish rapport with people first!

Mrdudemanguy · 2024-10-31T14:55:55+00:00

Not surprised you were rejected. Most women don't appreciate being hit on at the gym when they go there to work out.

Dyshox · 2024-10-31T14:53:38+00:00

The second paragraph doesn’t provide any relevant info except showing how insecure you are

Snadderloffen · 2024-10-31T15:13:25+00:00

Broo! Cold approaching at the gym is a very bad idea. Just stop doing it, It's a kind of free space for the girls. My experience is that girls will come to you at the gym, specially if you are in the group classes!

Ok-Class-1451 · 2024-10-31T20:33:47+00:00

Leave girls at the gym alone!

Title	First approach at the gym
Author	Ornery-Olive63
Upvotes	47
Comments	60
Date	October 31, 2024 2:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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