FR: The most generous rejection I've ever gotten and why doing it right still makes her day.

okcspecialist · 2010-09-17T21:11:34+00:00

Back when I was monogamous, I used to amuse myself with direct game to the hottest girl in any given bar, if I'd really noticed her. To be hot enough, they had to be more than pretty - they had to be happy, interesting, animated.

Anyway, I'd find my way to them, and say, hey, do you have a minute, there's something I want to share with you in private.

And once I have them in private, I'd say, I'm totally not available so don't worry about me trying to pick you up. But I really noticed you tonight and you made quite an impression on me, and I thought, if I just leave without telling you, then nothing happens but if I come up here and tell you then maybe it'd make your day. And a compliment is a terrible thing to waste. That's all." .... then silence and stare.

Without exception, they are shocked and delighted and amazed and come back to the table to tell their girlfriends what I just said.

I once did this with a colleague and he asked me what I'd said and he was totally offended. I said no dude it's not offensive at all, they LOVE IT. He disagreed strongly. So, I dragged my colleague by the sleeve to the girls' table and asked her how it made her feel. She was all over me and saying "are you kidding me? that was awesome. all these other girls are soooo jealous."

I wonder if this kind of direct NON-game can be adapted into direct game now that I'm not monogamous.

ArMcK · 2010-09-18T03:32:52+00:00

OP, She said she "didn't want to get involved with anyone."

She didn't say anything about not wanting to bang a dude who just blew her away with his confidence.

RSVP that dame.

mechanate · 2010-09-18T00:13:40+00:00

Not looking to get involved with anyone = not looking to get involved with you. Kudos though.

sockthepuppetry · 2010-09-17T23:22:34+00:00

You gave her your card? Like a business card I'm assuming? First time I read it I was picturing you having cards with your info just for picking up girls.

10lbhammer · 2010-09-17T23:26:53+00:00

if I'm out (walking around, at a show, in a club, whatever) and I'm in the right mood, I've been known to walk up to a girl that I thought was pretty and simply say "you look very pretty today, have a great night!" and keep walking.

you won't believe how it will make a girl's day, especially if you're not creepy about it. (and if she's not the typical fake tan, a & f wearing, peroxide-blonde type that always gets hit on)

nivar · 2010-09-17T20:54:23+00:00

You can make a girl's day just by approaching. I gonna make few girls happy.

strongoaktree · 2010-09-17T20:52:50+00:00

Those are always nice. I bet she really wasn't lookin for anything. I get the feeling you did everything right, because why would a woman who wasn't interested even contact you?

herefromyoutube · 2010-09-18T01:26:52+00:00

when a girls outfit stands out to me. which is rarely. i let them know. cause it obviously make them feel good about themselves and even might have them give you that it's-totally-cool-to-approach look.

ArMcK · 2010-09-19T22:54:59+00:00

So did you email her back??????????

Title	FR: The most generous rejection I've ever gotten and why doing it right still makes her day.
Author	sockthepuppetry
Upvotes	35
Comments	33
Date	September 17, 2010 6:30 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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