Gaming as a good-looking man

EnjoyUpdates · 2022-06-28T06:03:19+00:00

I've been called everything from "super cute" to "sexy" but mostly from our going girls. I think it's harder to game as a good looking guy because girls suspect you're already talking to someone, have multiple girls or keep their guard up because they think you only want to sleep with them. Then they expect you to have good game because as a good looking guy you not expected to be "struggling with women".

VanillaCider2021 · 2022-06-28T04:05:05+00:00

I was told I was handsome my entire life but I never realized it until I hit maybe 33.

I struggled with women in my 20's.

Late 20's I started a business and it tested me to the brink. I stuck with it and succeeded and suddenly I was confident AF. Basically I felt content and confident in general and this bled over into my approach with women. Strange how that works.

Women can sense when you are cool and confident vs insecure and needy.

Now at 38 I'd say I have 50/50 shot at bringing a girl home everytime I go out

Fate-in-haze · 2022-06-28T03:34:32+00:00

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caIImebigpoppa · 2022-06-28T03:58:42+00:00

Yeah, I just keep myself inviteable. If the night is nearing an end and I’m around a girl I’m into and is into me, like 80% of the time they’ll ask me what I’m doing after. My response is always, I’m not sure but I’m open to anything, what are you doing?

100% of that 80% u get invited wherever they are going and from then on as far as I’m concerned it’s closed

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-06-28T16:53:03+00:00

as a good-looking guy, dont get me wrong I'm about a 6 or 7 slightly below average but got a lot of stares in public. So it helps a lot oftentimes when I don't have to do anything special just go and start to talk to a random girl, and she's already hooked and giggling and start to engage in a conversation, it happens pretty often if you're good-looking and you got the balls to approach girls also if you're confident and smooth about it but sometimes it's not enough like if I go to 9 or 10 types of girl who is above of me in terms of looks so then here's when the game comes in and some tease, don't give a fuck attitude, flirting, some push pulls and its pretty easy too so probably the best combination if you got both if you cant rely on your looks

Calamity__Bane · 2022-06-28T04:46:10+00:00

The solution is to escalate more and keep an eye on your logistics. I’ve been in your situation before, and the reason it doesn’t lead to a close is probably because you’re too focused on not screwing up the attraction you seem to be building and waiting for the perfect moment to capitalize, rather than converting the attraction into something and creating the opportunity to capitalize.

Leave that behind. The mentality you should adopt instead is that the only way you close is by escalating, and in order to escalate, you need to be willing to take risks and act on ambiguity. Don’t wait for perfect certainty to escalate, ambiguity should be enough for you to test the waters and see what’s on the other person’s mind; obviously, you want to be careful not to go overboard while doing this, but err on the side of doing something, even if it’s not much. Make sure you’re always reading her feedback, too, so you have a good sense of what’s on her mind as you move forward.

I would also recommend focusing on your logistics, because another possible problem is that a girl might be feeling you, but for one reason or the other, has a ton of logistical barriers that’ll get in the way of a same night lay. If you keep logistics in the back of your mind, you’ll know enough to either a) disarm and eliminate these hurdles, or b) stop wasting time when the hurdles are insurmountable, and go for someone else.

As far as whether daygame or nightgame works better… honestly, if you can just pick out a common interest and go off from there, 99% of your daytime conversations will go well, even if they don’t turn into anything romantic. The stakes are a lot lower, and it’s a lot easier to have a chill conversation during the day, as long as you’re calibrated and understand how to put people at ease while talking to them. Nightgame is a different beast, but you’re more likely to pull a one night stand at night than during the day as the logistics are typically more in your favor and natural opportunities for intense physical escalation are easier to come by. I would highly recommend getting good at both and figuring out which works best for you.

that_italianoguy · 2022-06-28T04:19:49+00:00

Theres two main reasons why men arent able to close: 1. youre simply not approaching enough girls all the time, it needs to be a lifestyle not, ok I'm going to get dressed and go game this saturday. Majority of men don't talk to enough girls then complain theyre not getting laid. It is a numbers game, period. The more girls you talk to the more your chances go up. REALISTICALLY you approach 10 girls you'll have sex with 1-2. 2. Youre not taking enough risks with the girl: pulling, physically taking a risk. Majority of men are just scared to move it forward. If you simply improve on these two things itll dramatically help your close rate go up. Your attractive, stop talking yourself out of pussy. Don't talk so much, approach a lot, and move it forward. Coming from an attractive guy. Happy hunting

driller20 · 2022-06-28T03:22:06+00:00

I think you have to assume more attraction and the buyer role from more early, but is just a theory.

The thing is it can look weird if you are good looking and trying to hard or overgaming.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-06-28T16:49:09+00:00

Truth is not much is different. All the same principals apply for game. The biggest difference is that your looks should give you confidence if your mood isn't off. That will help your non-verbals be on point.

Attraction is mostly the good emotions women feel when they are around you. That's what attraction is for women, mostly. And that has nothing to do with looks. So, use your looks to give you a good vibe and confidence. After that all the same principals apply.

AngeloMacon · 2022-06-29T02:44:18+00:00

The issue is you. What's the block? Religious? Ugly duckling? Childhood trauma?

Title	Gaming as a good-looking man
Author	magpie_journey
Upvotes	15
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Date	June 28, 2022 2:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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