How much has your dating life improved since finding this subreddit?

great_account · 2022-08-02T20:56:10+00:00

Night and day difference. I read "the game" in college and then started following this sub around 2011-2012. In the subsequent 10 years, I have become everything I ever wanted to be. I don't give this sub that much credit. I have had ONS, FWB, long term girlfriends. I have pulled model level girls from clubs.

I was like everyone in the beginning. Trying to read my way into someones pants. I think things kinda started to go my way about 6-7 year ago. It took about 3-4 years to really see any results. But I knew in the beginning I didn't want to be like most of the guys on here, but every time I got to a sticking point I would come here for inspiration which was helpful from time to time. But really imo the biggest thing was going out there and looking stupid for years. And I still look dumb from time to time.

My biggest advice to anyone who wants to really make this happen is to forget about anything written on this sub. Go outside. Go to clubs. Have a vision of what kind of life you want to live and what kind of man you want to be. And don't be afraid to look dumb and embarrass yourself in pursuit of it. True growth happens when you are ok with being bad at something but try to keep doing it anyway.

Bicycle-Warm · 2022-08-02T23:35:24+00:00

I read models by mark manson and changed how I view myself and women. I improved my life by finding hobbies and working out. I went from being a virgin to having sex in 24 days

penguinmandude · 2022-08-02T20:08:31+00:00

It has decreased. Tbh people that come here struggle with women. In real life, if you’re struggling with something, would you hang around people that also suck at it, or would you seek out those that you can learn from?

Most of the advice here is just bad and will cause you to over analyze and overthink your interactions which will destroy them. It’s way more productive to get off this subreddit, into real life and make friends, meet different people and you will see you don’t need any fancy tricks and that so many different types of people are in relationships.

The vast majority of guys here have significant trauma that they don’t recognize or refuse to recognize that is holding them back. Get to therapy, figure out what’s holding you back mentally, what’s causing social anxiety, what’s subconsciously pushing others away, etc. Cheap tricks merely try and cover up deep set issues and girls will see through it immediately.

tay11fish · 2022-08-03T01:33:50+00:00

I’d like to share a different perspective. When I was lost and afraid a lot of these strategies gave me a feeling of understanding which was great then when I needed it.

But what has given me true power was a deeper connection and appreciate to myself. That has provided me true peace, and power.

But as for a lot of things here they are great tools for the tool box, but nothing beats an authentic relationship with yourself and the world around you. That is sexy and people find it more sexy than anything else, best of all it’s 100% real and natural.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-08-02T20:43:17+00:00

None I’m just here for entertainment.

So much bad advice here:

-quit online dating and social media -every rejection is a “shit test” -if you do online dating you are “avoiding rejection” what? -“approach girls anywhere bro!”

There is also so much basic advice that isn’t useful for the avg guy here.

Like hygiene, confidence, get a job. Fact is most people have those things.

Main reason you struggle: you are avg in the social media and dating app era.

With social media and dating apps you are competing with 1000s of other dudes.

Before that hot girl was maybe interacting with a few dudes from work, school, mall, etc.

Now she’s interacting with unlimited high value dudes. It is the way it is.

Thankfully i do well on tinder and social media so I always preach that.

kingpersnickety · 2022-08-02T21:34:37+00:00

None I don’t go out though and my online dating game has always been trash. I’ve done pick up boot camps before too so I’m a lost cause because I’m lazy at the end of the day. The laziness stems from insecurity because I’m out of shape due to a tumultuous 2 years during the pandemic .

Ducharbaine · 2022-08-03T04:57:26+00:00

sidbunch6 · 2022-08-03T07:22:18+00:00

I'll talk about the community as a whole rather than this sub specifically

My sex life improved a lot since discovering the community. I've slept with a good number of girls now - some of them being girls who are the sort of girls i'd use to fantasize about.

HOWEVER, i'll also admit that this has all been a byprodiuct of simply approaching loads of girls and thus putting the odds in my favour! The odds of 'finding' the girls who are into me (through lots of approaches) as opposed to making them into me

What i'm saying is that it's the approaching rather than any 'tips' i've read about. In fact, all of the tips are irrelevant. It's marketing. Once you are able to come across as a somewhat normal person, the only thing that matters is whether she thinks you are fairly attractive to look at basically! the bar for 'game' at that point is low (it really isn't hard to do some very basic flirting, and suggest going back to your place for example)

I've tested everything and none of it can 'seduce' a girl. the cold reads, the compliance ladders the negs the confident body language, the self amusement balblablala - Mark manson was right when he said you can't negotiate attraction

If you open a girl and she decides you're not her type before you even complete your opener, it's done. It doesn't matter how many PUA books you've read or how many armchair psychology techniques you know. She doesn't care. And it won't help. I really feel bad for the many people are being scammed and sold dreams by the 'coaches' who are no more successful than you and who would have identical results to you if they happened to be your exact double to look at. Cold approach is just tinder, but in person

So my sex life improved lots since discovering 'game', but not really for the reasons people assume

FranciscotheBull · 2022-08-03T01:10:21+00:00

No difference. For me, I learned from trial and error, experience from other makes and females, and just life as a whole.

Upset-Temperature · 2022-08-03T02:50:44+00:00

The actual posts are great to relate with others who are going thru some form of struggle, but the only really helpful part of this subreddit is the wiki. The compilation of stuff there is enough to get a good start in seduction. That being said, no amount of reading will help you. You need to fail in order to succeed, and this page preaches that a lot. It’s up to the followers to decide whether they take that advice or not

entitledwank · 2022-08-03T04:58:52+00:00

Night and day.

I’m a fairly attractive dude but had no game in high school and first two years of college. Then when I joined this sub I realized I was failing every shit test. Girls were teasing me and I wouldn’t tease back, I missed obvious hints, didn’t know how flirt.

It wasn’t so much learning seduction as much as it was learning basic social cues

mllewisyolo · 2022-08-02T21:17:47+00:00

My dating life was and is still non-existent. I essentially read this site for the pure enjoyment and to live vicariously through others.

Like how women read books with lots of sex(50 shades, coldest winter ever, etc), this is the male version.

Slicyaa · 2022-08-02T20:09:00+00:00

I’ll answer the question with both the answer that you asked for and my opinion

This subreddit has a lot of useful informations and it’s pretty good (if you actually put into use the tips that you’re given). Now for me it didn’t help much due to the fact that I have always done it my way since I was way younger, a lot of things are just common sense such as not to double text, not chase etc.

About the motivating new members part I think there is no point in trying to motivate people in this context due to the fact that most don’t even apply the things written on this subreddit. The main problem that beginners have is not their lack of motivation but their approach anxiety mixed with their social awkwardness. This are things that most people have to overcome by themselves and therefore hearing motivational things isn’t likely to help because in order for you to stop having approach anxiety you have to actually start approaching in real life.

I’m aware that you didn’t ask what problems beginners have but I just wanted to express the way that I see it

False_Bear_8645 · 2022-08-02T21:33:27+00:00

Not at all, since most people goal here is having sex when I want relationship. Seducing woman don't make me interested in them.

Dragonsin329 · 2022-08-03T01:56:49+00:00

Went from 1 gf to 4 in nearby cites 1 is actually cool ab it the others aren’t aware. I give 1/4 of my attention to equally

atomant88 · 2022-08-02T23:11:23+00:00

been doing pickup since way before this sub. but its good to have somewhere to brush up on the basics every once in a while. every once in a while there is some good original advice too

TaKaZT · 2022-08-03T02:43:00+00:00

OreOscar1232 · 2022-08-03T04:48:22+00:00

Negative 😂

leelbeach · 2022-08-03T08:43:58+00:00

Not at all to be honest.

MrBlack__ · 2022-08-03T08:56:37+00:00

10 fold

Went from 1 girl a year to 8 this year

But not for the reason you might think lol

SuspiciousEarth9962 · 2022-08-03T11:06:40+00:00

Zero

Grackboundcheck · 2022-08-03T11:34:54+00:00

Mid of last year was still trying to land a date, come this year at the same time, I'm having to cancel dates because i have to many. Thanks to lots of advice on here but be conservative with what is being said here though and be reasonable.

xAbuBakrAlBaghdadi · 2022-08-03T15:39:49+00:00

Nowadays you need to be above average looking in face in order to stand a chance. I don't, and I've accepted as how it is.

MembershipJaded5215 · 2022-08-03T18:07:13+00:00

I give unqualified advise.

Warm-Yogurtcloset-96 · 2022-08-03T18:19:03+00:00

None, I've always been fine with dating. It's fun giving people advice though, idk if it's all too useful

Title	How much has your dating life improved since finding this subreddit?
Author	magpie_journey
Upvotes	17
Comments	55
Date	August 2, 2022 7:25 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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