Getting An Ex Back?

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-12-02T02:59:43+00:00

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Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-12-02T01:26:07+00:00

Jesus this sub has gone downhill

Funky-Fresh · 2025-12-02T01:09:29+00:00

the best option is to move on and not to talk to her ever again

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-02T01:16:11+00:00

You shouldn't, but if you do anyway, then the best way is by showing that your life has improved drastically, that your life has never been better and that in fact it is 10x better than when you were with her.

That triggers the fear of missing out on women and they naturally respond to a guy who is way more happy than he ever was with her.

The worst mistake you can do is to act like you want to convince her to get a second chance, to beg, or to act like you are determined to prove your worth to her or to prove you will be better for her.

Any action that creates an implicit frame of "i'm going to prove something to you so that you choose me" it's counterproductive.

The only thing that works properly is to indirectly show off your life in your Instagram stories or whatever social media you have that your life is thriving without her way more than when you were together. That you've become hotter, stronger, richer, dress better, have a better lifestyle, etc.

That's when women will naturally reach out to you which is your signal to set up a date, but just to have fun and hookup, not to talk about labels or commitments or trying to make it work again.

If she wants serious commitments from you again she will have to bring that up herself first because your only job is to hang out, and hookup without labels, without commitments and without expectations.

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2025-12-02T01:09:57+00:00

This is potentially setting yourself up for heartbreak.

If they’re just out of a relationship, they’re very likely looking for familiarity and to fill the void of no longer being in a relationship. They’re likely reminiscing the good not bad of your relationship.

There is a possibility that there is some genuine part of them that has changed and things could work. The odds generally are against that though.

I’m guilty of dating an ex a few years after a breakup.

Some things changed, other things didn’t. The jealousy she had wasn’t there anymore and she acknowledged it. Some other things like the attention seeking and understanding boundaries wasn’t. I brought it up once, she continued and I ended it once it came up again.

Everyone is different. I know two couples that broke up, got back together later, and are now happily married. There are some people that genuinely do realize that the person they want to be with was the person they broke up with. There’s also people that function off their emotions and just end up hurting themselves and others.

AGENT_OF_THE_FBI · 2025-12-02T02:12:56+00:00

Flirt with her aggressively, use the knowledge you have of her and tailor your game around that.

Make sure you fuck her.

I understand the game you’re trying to run and I’m a fan of it, but don’t catch feelings.

realmer17 · 2025-12-02T01:56:16+00:00

Speaking as someone who went through a horrible breakup, the only option is to move on.

I know how it feels to want her back in your life but even if you get her back, things will not be the same. There are no options except to move on. You can't change their mind.

If it's meant to be, they'll come back but it's in THEIR terms if she wants to come back or not. However DO NOT expect it to happen unlike me, who spent 2 years hoping for a miracle that will never be granted.

poet0588 · 2025-12-02T01:59:34+00:00

As someone who got an ex back years ago… I DO NOT recommend it. Just move on

Warm_Pineapple9440 · 2025-12-02T01:09:45+00:00

Have you considered talking about this to her?

Charge36 · 2025-12-02T01:33:57+00:00

I mean. Sounds like she said she likes you so what's the issue?

Personally I'd avoid getting involved again but it's not very clear what the situation is

saryiahan · 2025-12-02T01:45:47+00:00

You don’t

m4tchb0x · 2025-12-02T01:47:18+00:00

Making a AI of her would be a better option, then trying to get her back.

WhoCaresAnyway83 · 2025-12-02T01:49:48+00:00

No, your job is to let go. Not give a shit. Be awesome. And then, after a month or so, ask her out to coffee. But don't act interested. Then, let the games begin.

ciurana · 2025-12-02T02:14:45+00:00

Please move on. It won't be the same as before.

On her side, she may be confusing loneliness and rejection from the other person with love for you. You'd be a handy shoulder to cry on. Comfortable and familiar.

Stay friends, if you want, for the long run. Let her be for the time being.

Setanta95 · 2025-12-02T01:24:27+00:00

I would also like to know she contacted me again then vanished again. Apparently it's to focus on yourself job and study etc I have done so much this year but at the end of the day I'm alone in a relationship respect and I miss her company. I was really accommodating with her and have said I would do anything to make it work and hear nothing.

I tried going with someone else but it just had no spark and went to far to fast mainly due to me but hey ho it's just not the same I can't find any other girl like her and I can't stop my autistic brain fixating on her.

I know the minute I start getting on with life and not paying attention to it she will pop back up she did that with another ex while we were in a relationship so I have no idea if it was just curiosity or a grass is greener type thing.

I don't want to be the other guy if that was the case. I'm never going to find this kind of passion again and it sucks that it was ended after only 9 months.

mingey555 · 2025-12-02T01:16:36+00:00

There's a reason she's your ex.

It would be like reading a book you have read before, and expecting the ending to change. Fucking don't.

Kylearean · 2025-12-02T01:10:37+00:00

Don't.

pondy12 · 2025-12-02T01:43:42+00:00

How little respect do you have for yourself? You are ok getting the leftovers of another man? She treated him like a King, and now she wants you to treat her like a Queen. She thinks hes better than you, which is why she tried to get back with him, and will still try, but will settle for you. If she loved you like she said, there would be no him, she would still be with you from the beginning. Block her, get a better girl, one that has respect for you. Have respect for yourself man.

Title	Getting An Ex Back?
Author	TeachMePersuasion
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Comments	38
Date	December 2, 2025 12:54 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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