Getting sucked into a relationship when only wanting FWB

general-cadet · 2024-12-19T06:36:41+00:00

Its called communication.

Dwerg1 · 2024-12-19T10:02:31+00:00

Just the perspective of "getting sucked into a relationship" rubs me the wrong way. You're responsible for going along with something you don't want, so there is no getting sucked into it, only the choice of going along with it.

If you want one thing and she wants another then there is only one way, to communicate what you want and go your separate ways if an agreement can't be reached about it.

Party-Ganache9553 · 2024-12-19T06:37:50+00:00

Slow down, they’ll start an argument, there’s your solution

Kindly_Challenge7639 · 2024-12-19T09:10:02+00:00

Dealt with a crazy ahh girl. Got sucked into a relationship that lasted like 5 days but she treated it like we were together the day we met. Because she was literally crazy I had to wait for her to do something bad to end it

saptahant · 2024-12-19T06:52:13+00:00

Communicate earlier. If you still face this issue, take an exit after a fight. Even a petty fight, make it seem that it hurt you a lot and you can’t continue the relationship. Toxic but this is the only way left for you, if you are stuck in this quicksand.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-12-19T09:40:34+00:00

In my experience it's been pretty easy to string women along, typically because women tend to initiate relationship talk first.

Honestly, that's how it should be. And you are weaker in the relationship if you bring it up first.

So really, what's the problem? She brings it up, you blow it off. She'll probably get turned on a little. Life continues.

Plane_Benefit7868 · 2024-12-20T07:28:27+00:00

just say youre not looking for a relationship, just fwb

PeterLamb87 · 2024-12-19T08:47:45+00:00

Its impossible, banging a women will make them bond to you. Telling them you dont want nothing serious from the get go offers you an exit, but you cant get the sex and avoid hurting the ladies.

antonthecad · 2024-12-19T08:30:36+00:00

You need to have a strong frame with these things. It's her job to be pushing for commitment, you don't have to do anything. She can leave at any time, if she wants to stick around, it's by your rules.

PM_Teeny_Titties · 2024-12-19T13:38:26+00:00

If everyone has clear boundaries, then it should be fine. When you suddenly find yourself apple picking and celebrating a 10 year anniversary, you got a relationship.

Plshelpme3000 · 2024-12-19T23:21:19+00:00

Just tell them you’re only interested in sex and not wanting commitment???? Don’t string them along.

gaifogel · 2024-12-20T07:53:45+00:00

The less often you see them, the less likely it is to happen. If you are seeing her "casually" 3 times a week, you'll both get attached pretty soon. And like others said, communication

likeshismetal · 2024-12-20T02:36:43+00:00

I am dealing with this rn. I don't know what to do, I am still processing things. She's catching feelings after we discussed what this was

Alternative_Meat_716 · 2024-12-20T05:50:19+00:00

Never do something you don't want to do. Never let yourself get "sucked into" an LTR. If you only want casual things, say so and stick with your boundaries. Had it way to many times that girls would develop feelings for me and give me ultimatums. Long story short it always ended up in heartbreak for both because I couldn't open my heart and knew it but got talked into shit. And at the end of all you are the bad guy. Just as always ☺️👌.

juubipp · 2024-12-20T19:10:13+00:00

just cheat on her

Loco4Tacos143 · 2024-12-20T19:26:05+00:00

yep it started like this. we only saw each other once a week for the deed. we then caught feelings but i wanted to keep my options open bc i wanted to hang out w multiple women. after 8 months, she got a boyfriend and told me she only got one bc i never asked her to be my gf. i miss her

tagliatellelovers · 2024-12-20T23:35:42+00:00

Um ya wouldn’t say sucked in… but i liked the person to keep hanging out with them and there was strong sexual chemistry (obv) next thing i know Im going to their family parties and his parents are buying me Christmas gifts.

There was communication, told him I didn’t want to be in a relationship rn, he said that was okay, there doesn’t have to be any labels, but now I’m in it too deep i think

Oh, also we work together

justbrowsing7 · 2024-12-21T03:29:49+00:00

If that's not what you're looking for, I would suggest just saying no man. Unless you're excited to be in the serious relationship, it probably won't work out

Training_Ad3600 · 2024-12-21T23:31:45+00:00

You don’t get “sucked” into a relationship. There has to be a mutual agreement. Sounds like you need to use your communication skills and stop blaming the other person.

Suspicious_Paint · 2024-12-22T00:37:56+00:00

Many times! Never turns out good tbh

Gaydame · 2024-12-22T08:48:35+00:00

You don't get to say "sucked in" because that implies you were the victim of the sucking when you were actually a participant

No-Definition-2886 · 2024-12-19T07:28:51+00:00

Tell them that you want to take it slower

Title	Getting sucked into a relationship when only wanting FWB
Author	Nick46562
Upvotes	17
Comments	30
Date	December 19, 2024 6:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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