Here’s a thought: attraction is triggering primal instincts instead of intellect

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-03-15T12:48:04+00:00

It works but everything about attraction and seduction is shades of grey.

With the past girlfriend that I was the closest to, I did nothing right. Most of our conversations were logical and intellectual from the start. This normally drives women away, but not with her, it don't make sense. Nothing about the game does.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-03-15T13:23:58+00:00

Both. It's not one or the other. It's been shown time and again that women are more attracted to men that are smarter - all other things being equal. Intelligence is valued.

I'd you're super hot and dumb you can still get women. But if you were super hot and smart - you could get even better results.

But if you're talking about if having an intellectual debate or an emotional talk leads to more romantic emotions being generated: it's obvious that the emotional talk / impact will get you there faster than a talk about quantum mechanics. Unless the girl has the hots for nerds.

Willbo · 2024-03-15T19:54:21+00:00

In Thinking, Fast & Slow, the author defines two types of thinking:

System 1 - fast, automatic, a heuristics-based intuitive system that is very error prone. This is what you might consider the primal side.
System 2 - slow, deliberate, logical system of thought used for math, analysis, and decision making. This is the "intellect" side.

Everyone spends varying amounts of time in each system of thought, using these functions to get through everyday life.

Stimulus always has to go through System 1 before it goes to System 2. This means when you become aware of another person (stimulus), the stimuli is processed into System 1 and you make a fast, automatic judgement. This is where the person usually gets qualified as either attractive or non-attractive.

If only it was that simple... From there, the stimulus can get passed into System 2. Here, the attractive person gets further qualified into her complex system of decision making. She is asking questions such as "Does my attraction make sense?" and "What behavior is appropriate?" This is System 2, where you will have to meet the qualifications of her world view (mannerisms, finances, health, whatever it may be) in order to retain her attraction.

The rate at which it goes from System 1 to System 2 varies by person to person and context. For example, cold approaching someone on the street very quickly goes to System 2 because the types of people that approach you on the street is very complex. Also, sometimes System 2 can get hijacked completely by System 1. These are times when your emotions are so flooded that you can't move onto System 2 so you make quick, impulsive decisions that you later process in System 2 once emotions have subsided.

DaygameCode · 2024-03-15T13:25:14+00:00

Yes, that’s the most basic concept of seduction that had already been discovered for more than 30 years in the pick up/seduction community.

ArthurusRexx · 2024-03-15T16:53:51+00:00

Seduction is literally the only activity that require to turn off your logical brain actually.

ROBYoutube · 2024-03-15T15:05:46+00:00

I prefer to just enjoy the conversation. Insane, worthless minutia like this is fucking dudes up. They're thinking about switching on her primal brain instead of just fucking listening and answering with their full attention.

bert_cj · 2024-03-15T16:12:02+00:00

This is what I personally believe. I believe it all boils down to primal things. Women want men who are bigger and can protect them and provide for them. That’s primal. Back before civilizations n shit, a man needed to protect a woman from predators, especially in her most vulnerable state, pregnancy. Translates to today.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-15T16:18:02+00:00

Duh.

Chink_Wigger · 2024-03-15T18:46:48+00:00

This post isn't even a completed thought. Ironic

below298 · 2024-03-16T01:15:26+00:00

.. I thought that is an obvious connection most people make?

What part of love or romance is logical over primal?

puma085 · 2024-03-16T06:55:31+00:00

I was always aware that primal instincts play a role in the game but they might be more important than I have thought. Have a rather libido and since I am single I do lots of handwork but since I am living in the States for work related further education with other guys there is not much space to play with oneself due to the lack of privacy. The lack of using the single-player mode enhanced my vision of women somehow. I see more women as women (potential mates so to speak) and I also feel the presence of women more somehow. But maybe just my imagination. Anyway for a logic driven person like myself, these instincts are not helpful though. Still have lots of stuff to learn to step up my game.

Hot-Produce-7665 · 2024-03-16T05:30:48+00:00

Women will literally tell you they want to have sex with you, straight up, to your face, if you are physically attractive to them.

Title	Here’s a thought: attraction is triggering primal instincts instead of intellect
Author	debu206
Upvotes	88
Comments	33
Date	March 15, 2024 11:56 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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