How do I get “Hot” female friends

OrzhovPalatine · 2020-04-14T14:03:38+00:00

You dont have real estate in the friendzone? That's where alot of my hot female friends came from and I had alot of real estate in the friendzone back in goofy days.

As to building your social circle:

Figure out who you're looking for
Figure out where this person hangs out
Go to that place and mingle

It's not that complicated

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T14:51:41+00:00

I retain pretty much everything except you don't pull the trigger. You just sit back, relax and don't escalate. That's essentially how you get female friends. And this is harder than you think because a good amount of these women are naturally flirtatious. This becomes useful when you are dealing with married women at work because it helps you build business connection and you build clout.

Imagine you are both alone at a VIP booth after a work party and she is drunk. She's sitting close, extremely touchy, has a sultry look in her eyes and you guys are talking about some nasty sex topic (which female friends love to talk about). You will have to have the self control to not pull the trigger. You will need to tell yourself that, "having her is a friend will help me get more women, more money, more friends and a better life. If we end up getting involved she will just disappear from my life."

Friends are a lot of the times better than just sleeping with someone. You keep them forever if you know how to maintain friendships, they will want you to succeed, and they will tend to hook you up.

Think about it this way. Sleeping with a girl gets you one girl in a lifetime. Befriending a girl gets you 2-10 girls introduced to you and these are often the high quality socially adapted ones not the weird r/femaledatingstrategy types that stay at home with their cat and complain online.

theselfreliantman · 2020-04-14T14:05:18+00:00

In my experience the reason why most guys (assuming you are social adjusted, and a cool dude already) aren't friends with a lot of attractive girls is either 1. they aren't comfortable around really hot girls or 2. they simply aren't meeting enough of them.

Problem one can be solved over time by focusing on problem number two. So depending on your city you need to figure out how to get out and socialize with girls that meet your 'hot' criteria. The how will vary drastically depending on your personality, interests and the city you live in.

Bryce

FappingAwesome · 2020-04-14T15:46:46+00:00

So much bad fucking advice in this thread.

The way you make friends with girls and hot girls in general is the same way you make friends with guys.

Be interesting, have something in common, improve the quality of their lives in some meaningful way, have some sort of connection.

Can you just walk up to some NFL football player and say "Hey bro, lets be best friends?" No. Can someone just walk up to you and say "Hey random stranger, lets be best friends?"

The only difference between having a hot girl as a friend and having a guy as a friend is that you have to CLEARLY communicate through your actions that you just want to be friends and only friends. You have to sincerely only want to be friends. And that is the hard thing. Guys think they can fool hot girls into thinking they just want to be friends when in reality you are just waiting for a chance to fuck her and pounce like a tiger... And the girls are not stupid, they can sense it because your body and actions betray you...

You have to earn their trust, you have to be fun to be around, you have to have a connection with them, you have to be a "genuine" and "sincere" friend...

WIA20XX · 2020-04-14T15:06:54+00:00

However how do you accomplish this?

Concept.

The concept is called preselection. If a girl that you're interested in sees good looking girls with you, you are made more socially attractive by their presence.

Context.

Context is important.

This works much better in person, in a night club or social environment.

Online, guys get mixed results.

Execution.

In terms of execution, you stand with them, make them laugh, look like you're having a good conversation and having fun.

Then you approach.

What is supposed to happen?.

Assuming she has seen you with those girls, some of her defense comes down.

If you introduce the girl of interest to your female friends, more of her defenses come down as she sees your cool guy, and your coolness is reflected in the conversation and body language of the women.

Whenever other people see you as cool, a girl of interest sees that as an honest signal. Guys will lie about anything to fuck a chick. They are dishonest.

But other people do not have the guy's agenda. Their nonverbal communication says much more about him than he does himself.

How hot do the girls need to be?.

The hotter the better, assuming that your girl friends are presentable hot, not trashy hot.

Strippers are hot, but girls with stripper bodies don't necessarily want to dress like strippers.

Just having normal females puts you way ahead of the guys in all guy groups and the guys holding the wall with a beer at their chest.

How do you get hot single female friends?

If you don't have them, you will make them over time.

In my case, these are chicks I met in the night life/club scene. Maybe break bread after a club night. Some former hook ups.

Unless your social circle is full of chicks, this is probably the route that you will take.

Chicks that you had good dates with, but no Sparks, also good for this.

Keep in mind, these "hot" girl friends aren't necessarily homies. If you hit Chipotle up, she is buying her own shit. If she tells you about fucking some random guy, you don't get jealous. And vice versa.

Girls from work and school are great for this, because you can keep the relationship at that level.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2020-04-14T15:58:54+00:00

I've always felt that this is a very odd question. The way I see it, if you have the ability to make friends with women then how can you not find a woman to date/have sex with? This really blows my mind.

See in my case, I'm invisible to women. I am not worthy enough for their time and effort so why would they want anything to do with me? If this wasn't the case and I could actually make acquaintances with women who actually liked me, in any way, I'd be 99% of the way there as I'd be gaining experience of interacting with them so it would only be a matter of time before I'd get a bit closer with one.

And I'm talking about any women, not just 'hot' ones. I'm off the radar of women of all shapes, sizes and levels of attractiveness - unless I inadvertently get into their line of vision where they would just look at me with an utter look of disdain.

Hell, just being someone who could be friends with a woman would be a whole different world.

EternalJourney · 2020-04-14T17:21:26+00:00

It's not the strategy you're looking for - sure some girls will receive you as more attractive or at least more popular when you hang out with hot girls on a regular basis but for that to happen you would have to meet you target girl with your hot girls around. It doesnt sound practical to me. It is a minor factor, that might improve your game by 3,5% but other things are way more important (e.g. regular cold approaches, confidence, self-amusement, looks).

preppyesque · 2020-04-14T19:33:30+00:00

This is a SURE FIRE way to get girls to like you........PRETEND THAT YOU'RE GAY.

I realize that for a straight guy, this might be a bit hard, but GET OVER IT......girls LOVE gay guys (believe me.....I have LOTS of evidence about this)

Even if you have to go to gay bars to meet girls, etc., IT WILL WORK

And ESPECIALLY, hot girls LOVE GAY GUYS

TalionTheRanger93 · 2020-04-14T20:55:11+00:00

How do you get friend's

earsurgery9 · 2020-04-14T20:55:14+00:00

go where the hot girls are (take up dance class or something)

123heatherfeather · 2020-04-15T00:23:52+00:00

If you want hot female friends you need to:

1) Become a hot straight man- ie work out five days a week, put effort into your style, conduct thorough and rigorous grooming, maintain outstanding personal hygiene or,

2) Become gay, accept homosexuality and allow yourself to get sucked in;)

greenwaffulz · 2020-04-15T04:21:46+00:00

Yeah it's a good idea for sure! In college I had also heard about more of a social circle approach. I made sure to sit next to a super hot girl in my class (she was blonde, had fake boobs, had the model look going on). At first I'll be honest I was super nervous first few times hanging out with her and every time we hung out I had an urge to hit on her but didn't. Eventually I started to see her as "just another girl" since she was my friend and we became closer. She started introducing me to her friends (who were also super hot, and I hooked up w a few of them - girls tend to hang around other girls of the same hotness in school atleast). But more than that I was exposed to more possibilites - different classier events with higher ratio of hot girls, and the hot girls would see that I had my friend with me so they understood that I was "on the in" if that makes sense. Surprisingly with the super hot girls they were easier to talk to since no one *actually* approached them normally (I know I sure wouldnt be able to before meeting my friend).

As for actually making friends with them, honestly just talk to them like they are an average looking girl or a guy friend. Find commonalities and make sure you joke and say "aw we're best friends already" or something to include that you are friend zoning her. This reduces the threat that you might have romantic intentions and she'd be more receptive to hanging out. School and work are the easiest places to meet these super hot girls but if that's not an option try going to more upscale/classy places. You may not like it but super hot girls tend to hang there as opposed to the local dive bar (which is what I personally love)

2020-04-15T17:38:19+00:00

if you don't fuck them , why would you want to associate with them?

glutenfree_soup · 2020-04-15T18:24:13+00:00

İ mean nearly all of my female friends are attractive and, that’s because in time I probably liked them but after a while I just became their instead of potential partner I recommend if you want hot friends act more as a friends rather than that you’re trying proof something

bigredten · 2020-04-17T05:06:18+00:00

I used this heavily the past two years. I'll tell you how I built it, and then pro's/con's.

if you're friends, it's either mutual or you Friendzone her first. Also helps to have something in common
All it takes is one or two, find one or two hot friends. They'll introduce you to more.
Live your life, don't make her a priority at all, but occasionally call to make plans. Don't be afraid to tease her, like you would an actual friend.
I met all of them either reconnecting after college, through an activity, or by "referral".

Pro's: Getting into clubs are alot easier when you walk in with 4 hot chicks. People to dance with at said club. Usually hot women tend to have a few high value men around them, so you can meet some cool dudes. You put in a good word your guy friends, and as long as they don't fuck up they're golden. Biggest one, it keeps women you're interested in a bit more "excited". Meaning instead of having to "spin" 4 or 5 plates, you can kind of get away with talking to only 1 or 2 women at a time. Because the women you're interested in don't know those are just friends, their interest will go up.

Con's: With some (not all)of them, you're only temporary until they get a BF. When you go out, you're now "responsible" for them. Meaning when one of them decides to do shots like crazy, as the strong friend you might have to do damage control. Having the hot friends didn't help me get girls, but it helped me retain the ones I met. Meaning, it wasn't a silver bullet, but it makes maintaining alot easier.

MrMemper · 2020-04-14T15:47:45+00:00

No. No. No. No. No.

Having hot female friends in no way makes you more attractive.

Fucking a few hot females where they all know about one another is one of many ways to make yourself attractive.

Yoav2506 · 2022-02-13T16:53:03+00:00

Man there isn’t a formula for getting hot female friends…. And it wont make you more attractive to hang out with some of them… if you want a friend just because their hot then you shouldn’t.

Title	How do I get “Hot” female friends
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