How do you flirt?

seduction-ModTeam · 2022-10-13T18:27:14+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-13T07:22:29+00:00

flirting is like kissing or dancing. no technique or idea is going to be suitable for all occasions. it's dependent on your partner.

flirting is supposed to be natural. something that just happens when you're really vibing with someone.

2022-10-13T12:35:43+00:00

If she's in the bathroom just casually say "you come here often" she'll probably be wondering what you're doing in the women's bathroom so just be honest and tell her how you feel.

Southofsouth · 2022-10-13T11:05:11+00:00

How you doin’

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-10-13T14:43:33+00:00

Most of it is non verbal like the prolonged deep eye contact with the little smirk and talking in a seductive tone etc. its not about being funny or smooth more like non verbally displaying your interest and desire. A goodway to do it is to hold eye contact and think of the things you’d like to do to that person

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-10-13T16:19:55+00:00

Clearly no one has a freaking clue here what flirting is.

Everyone just giving vague advice like “say what you want” “be genuine” be yourself” “make them laugh”

that is not flirting, that is not a practical tip that people can use, making someone laugh does not necessarily mean you are flirting,

saying what you want like “i just farted” for example, isn’t flirting,

if that’s not what you mean by saying what you want, be specific with examples.

Saying that “Flirting is something natural that happens when you vibe with someone” is meaningless words that do not really explain anything.

It’s like saying “living is about being alive, in the moment that you are living, in the present day that you are experiencing”

Blah blah blah

dzoya1266 · 2022-10-13T14:52:45+00:00

Control panel > settings > social interaction > flirt and then switch it on. It worked for me

Store-Queasy · 2022-10-13T12:26:16+00:00

Ahhh, Where my hug at girl?

Fate-in-haze · 2022-10-13T07:53:37+00:00

Flirting is playful teasing.

incognito3107 · 2022-10-13T08:41:00+00:00

Look at her as a female. Play with words and mood to provide her with exciting experience. Keep that subtle sexual context in your conversations, mention sexual stuff casually or make up some ambiguous responses. Keep her close to yourself, implement some "innocent" touching. Play with push and pull escalation: sometimes behave like she is already your girl, sometimes focus totally on yourself, sometimes be very kind to her, sometimes relentlessly take her down (in a funny way though). You need to keep and increase that high energy and sexual tension between you.

pingywon · 2022-10-13T13:07:20+00:00

easy. make them laugh make them laugh make them laugh.

Thats how I found my wife.

Skizznitt · 2022-10-13T17:13:36+00:00

So here's some examples of how I verbally and physically flirted last date I went on (took her to the zoo):

I held extended eye contact and several times during that eye contact I did the little flirty 2 quick eyebrow raise thing (lol I don't know how else to explain this) or winked at her before ending the eye contact.

I teased my date about being short, she said she was afraid of heights, I said oh that's just because you're used to being so close to the ground, she said shut up and playfully punched my arm, but then told her "but don't worry, I find petite women like you extremely attractive."

At one point she had said something about her boobs trying to escape her bra and I made a comment along the lines of and what glorious boobs they are, and made sure she caught me looking at them.

I also tested the waters for physical contact, when we sat down a couple times together I put my arm around her shoulder and pulled her closer to me, the first time I said it was for a selfie.

Later on when she was unknowingly in the way of some people trying to get by, I put my hands on her hips to guide her to the right, but before I took my hands off, I gave both sides a firm squeeze.

After I knew physical contact was okay, I had her lock arms or hold hands with me as we walked around.

The date went well, we ended up having a lot of sex over the course of the next couple weeks and are still dating.

There were more examples I could list, but I think this makes my point pretty well. Basically you just want to be playful, and want to make sure she knows that you're into her, but in a light hearted casual kind of way. It's extremely important to be confident when you do this stuff though, if you aren't 100% confident in your actions when trying to flirt, it will just come across as creepy, so just stay relaxed, and get in a mindset like she's just a friend you've known forever, that you're super comfortable around her.

Brutal-Black · 2022-10-13T08:16:11+00:00

You say what you want, when you want to say it

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-10-13T14:06:43+00:00

In person: try to scan if she’s into or partially into/interested, don’t look desperate or needy, walk in and be smart /sharp, show interest and have a nice conversation with confidence.

Online: follow, wait her to follow back and post a thirsty trap.

Residee1995 · 2022-10-13T17:56:26+00:00

It can come natural to some people. It used to come natural to me but I'm very out of practice. I used to do it a lot because well. I liked flirting. A lot. Still do to some degree. It feels like a dance with words. Each move more exhilarating than the last.

But it also takes the right person to flirt with on top of it so in some ways the other has to already enjoy your presence to some degree. Usually if they are not enjoying it, its pretty easy to read. Lack of enthusiasm towards it alone will give that away.

Most importantly if you flirt with a mindset of: "I have to flirt to get them to like me" then you're doing it wrong. I do it to because I like it so its natural. You gotta enjoy yourself with flirting. Compliment them and let it snowball into more.

Foldingskrimp18 · 2022-10-13T15:27:33+00:00

I don’t. I have a girlfriend and I was never taught how to flirt. Do I care? Not particularly, but because I don’t know how too it just means that when people do it to me I can’t tell if it’s a genuine compliment or flirting.

Medioman_ · 2022-10-13T11:36:52+00:00

How would you flirt with yourself? How would you approach to yourself? Behave like the person in front of you is yourself and try to hook you up. Flirting comes natural when you find someone who is on your sane wavelenght

Usual-Cat-5855 · 2022-10-13T10:52:58+00:00

Stick your penis in her 😂😂

pistachio02 · 2022-10-13T13:01:54+00:00

Wing it, also be funny i sometimes get too serious and forget about the playfulness that needs to be in a Relationship

BigVisual5833 · 2022-10-13T13:02:15+00:00

I have a better question, what the fuck is flirting.

vegancrossfiter · 2022-10-13T13:35:45+00:00

Its random

asquatingmexican · 2022-10-13T13:53:38+00:00

If I’m alone I approach and just say hi I like you what’s your name. If I’m helping a friend I just go with “hi let me introduce you to my friend” and it usually always work

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-10-13T13:59:11+00:00

It’s an extension of your skills to deal with conflict. So master that first.

hakasharob · 2022-10-13T15:21:15+00:00

Lie down flirt😅

mishaxz · 2022-10-13T15:36:18+00:00

Make her laugh constantly

Archyblackcat · 2022-10-13T15:55:06+00:00

Like this: let’s say you haven’t seen her since Friday and it’s Monday “I hate mondays but the only good thing about it is that I get to see you again so I’m actually starting to love Mondays” if a girl thinks you’re cute or likes you she will love to hear that from you.. if she didn’t already like you or thinks you’re cute, no amount of flirting will make her change her mind …. Also like “I love your outfit , and your hair looks amazing today” .. like I said, If they find you attractive this little comments should be enough because simple comments make you feel good when they come from the person you want ..

DatingCoachSebastian · 2022-10-13T16:40:12+00:00

Check out Leading Man Attraction on you tube bro. I’m a dating coach and I’ve helped dozens of men all over the world improve their dating life.

YGK321 · 2022-10-13T17:26:26+00:00

Make fun of them

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-10-13T18:24:21+00:00

Follow the 3 rules lol

Title	How do you flirt?
Author	OptimisticClover17
Upvotes	82
Comments	57
Date	October 13, 2022 7:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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