How do you get into state?

Articthunder · 2011-01-27T01:34:02+00:00

Sometimes I do this: Take one step back while exhaling, then take two steps forward while inhaling. While you do this picture yourself leaving your old AA frame of mind and entering a new refreshed mind set.

Allogenes · 2011-01-27T01:38:49+00:00

Being in "state" during pick-up is like being in "the zone" while playing sports. It improves your performance, imbues you with confidence, and makes the most difficult tasks seem effortless.

However, you can't count on it. Sometimes you have to play the game irrespective of how you're feeling. High level pick-up artistry equips you with the beliefs and skills necessary to engage in seduction even when you're feeling timid, lethargic, or anxious.

Like coach used to say: "sometimes you got to play through the pain." Happy hunting.

Enthusizer · 2011-01-27T03:34:37+00:00

Open high energy and easy sets to warm up. Those successes will give you the confidence and social proof you need to be in state.

TofuTofu · 2011-01-27T04:51:31+00:00

I'm so used to going out that I don't really need many tricks lately, although of course I take a warm up period to get unstifled.

But I used to keep a copy of "The Blueprint Decoded" by RSD on my mp3 player and listen to random excerpts from it on the way to the bar/club. That always did a great job of putting me in the right state of mind. Then just open a few sets and you're golden.

warpcowboy · 2011-01-27T05:02:22+00:00

For me, social risk-taking is all about momentum. I make small chat with everyone. All the little interactions give me a running repository of conversation material for when it counts. What can I say? I'm big on recycling. Go green.

StarkNYC · 2011-01-27T02:26:26+00:00

Interesting question!

I have noticed that my biggest indicator of success is mood. While not always the case, if I look at my best successes, generally I was in a very social/confident/happy mood.

I'm trying to pay close attention and figure out what causes it... So far I've noticed having a great interaction with a friend that makes me feel cool/great, having a positive interaction with a cute girl ("warming up"), or having fun with a cool person in general warms me up.

A trick I've used is to call female friends of mine around whom I am always flirty (and who have seen some of my best game/results, so my frame around them is always super-confident).

I agree with the general sentiment that it is not necessary, but it sure helps!

2011-01-27T06:30:09+00:00

State is simply happiness. Just go around having a good time until you achieve total happiness with the moment and setting.

2011-01-27T18:53:03+00:00

I drink. Helps alot

chebb · 2011-01-28T00:58:10+00:00

I used to find this was a big problem, I'd be in state and doing everything right, but I knew in the back of my mind that I couldn't keep it up because it always seems to go (probably because I'm thinking this) and I'm going to run out of energy eventually. Because of this fear I used to eject from sets early so I could (in retrospect) have a good feeling that I successfully opened a set and did great, when really staying in the set and closing wouldn't been the real success.

So anyway I've managed to find a balance where I'm at what feels like 80% of my state, but I stay this way very consistently throughout the day whatever I'm doing. I know this is going to sound cliche but what I do is always try and be happy, at all times, no matter what. Now hear me out, because this isn't another case of fake it till you make it. When something bad happens, I don't force myself to smile to try and get happy again (you don't need to smile to be happy), I just don't let it affect me. No matter what happens, I really don't care. I'm always relieved, never tense, and go about my day relatively carefree up for doing whatever I want. Whenever I approach people, or talk to anyone, things go so much better because they feel comfortable around the type of guy who is positive no matter what (it also goes with one of the golden rules, always enter a set smiling, which I always assumed I did but didn't until recently realise I had neglected to do it). The best thing is this then echoes my positive mood as everything seems to be going better, and in the events when things genuinely go bad or I feel like doing nothing, I just relax my face and go back to my that positive feeling in an instant (this isn't hypnotherapy nlp crap, this is just something that works for me, when you remember that things don't really matter, it's easier to revert back to a carefree mode).

Surprisingly I can attribute this attitude change to a specific night a while back. I was listening to love systems interview series how to be an alpha male, while reading this post by tyler durden, and things just became alot clearer. I went out that night constantly reminding myself of tylers post and it's been a feeling of no pressure and control ever since.

tl;dr be more carefree and positive, and read this

side2 · 2011-01-27T04:02:39+00:00

I think it is similar to being "on". You can't and won't always be on and if you did you may be drained. This may be wrong but I know I would be drained to be on all the time.

I would like to get hypnotised so that I could just think... on.... then be in a high level state. I think that is why some enjoy alcohol is that it puts them into state. I know I don't because then I am just retarded.

I dance a lot and it usually puts me into state to just do my thing full blast and then chicks get pulled into my vortex of awesome. I can't do this all the time because that would just be wierd to dance in the middle of a bookstore.

2011-01-27T08:49:54+00:00

Music helps me a lot.

When I play football, I listen to heavy stuff to get me ready for the game.

So in a similar vein, when I want to talk to people, I listen to light, energetic stuff to get me more outgoing and energetic. Find something that makes you want to move around, and just talk to someone.

RedErin · 2011-01-27T14:35:01+00:00

Here's how Clay Guida gets into state. Maybe that will work for you too.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-01-27T17:31:43+00:00

When I meet friends at a bar, I often arrive 30-60 minutes early, hang out at the bar, and talk to the bartenders and other customers to warm up. Also helps get the bartenders on my side which helps with social proof later on.

doomgoblin · 2011-01-28T08:34:46+00:00

5 beers or so and pandora on Far East Movement radio through my surround sound while i'm getting ready to go to bars.

2011-01-27T01:27:15+00:00

I man the fuck up.

Title	How do you get into state?
Author	jeckylshyde
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Date	January 27, 2011 1:03 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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