How do you guys Kiss Close on dates?

theelfofdarkness · 2014-11-22T20:23:17+00:00

Sometimes just a "wait.." then kissing her works. She'll be looking at you and listening to you as well.

TrentVanJames · 2014-11-22T22:20:16+00:00

I had a similar problem back in the day, and this is what I'd do to mitigate it.

If you are going out for drinks, go to a place that has a seating arrangement where you're sitting next to each other, not across. For example, sit at a booth with a rounded back seat, or sit a small circular bar table where you're at one end and she's to your left or right (not across).

Find something to show her on your phone. I have a dog (a pretty fucking adorable pug), so that's what I'll use personally. I'll say, "here, let me show you a couple pictures" and take out my phone and show them.

99.9% of the time, the girl will lean over to look, coo at the pictures and and go "aww." I show her the last picture, wait for her to look up from the phone and at me, wait another beat, and then kiss her.

If you can't work up the courage to do that during the date, or you don't have good seating logistics, then you can try this instead. At the end of the date, when you leave the bar/restaurant/etc, grab and hold her hand. If she's not into you, she'll pull away, or her hand will just kind of rest like a dead fish in yours. If she is into you, you should literally feel that attraction in your physical contact. From there it's a much smaller step to kissing her.

Basically -- find some way to have some sort of prolonged contact for a few moments. That contact should give you a very strong IOI, and it "warms her up" for you to follow up with a kiss. Should be all downhill after that point.

tjbdef · 2014-11-23T06:18:22+00:00

situational. if can't think of anything that coincides with situation, just say "come here" or I've got something to tell you, pull her towards you and go for it.

Thatonebrownguy · 2014-11-23T00:17:03+00:00

Go the 90 % hold, and wait until she goes the 10%. Don't go full hundred. Just wait because she'll eventually go. - Paraphrasing off of Hitch, just saw it a few hours ago.. Good movie.

dmb7060 · 2014-11-23T05:27:33+00:00

Care to share what you said to the receptionist? I'm curious

thejake222 · 2014-11-23T04:16:21+00:00

The Game, by Neil Strauss :

Wait for the break in conversation, gain a few seconds of eye contact, and without breaking eye contact causally say, "would you like to kiss me? "

If she says no, simply smile and tease,

"well I didn't say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind."

If she says maybe, kiss her.

If she says yes, kiss her.

This sort of close depends on your banter and interaction of course, but I've used it before and it's a great close.

snowman4839 · 2014-11-23T18:03:54+00:00

Something that has worked for me in the past is if she's looking away but you know you've been doing well, just say "look at me" and go for it when she turns. It usually works well if you're sitting or lying down next together.

weedmylips1 · 2014-11-24T16:09:11+00:00

It's not about what move you make, just make a move...

ThatSpecialPlace · 2014-11-22T22:59:50+00:00

Since you're into Style's methods, give the Soul-Gazing routine a try. That's where you tell her to stare into your right eye and you stare in to hers, then go in for the kiss when the moment's right.

MeanwhileInAmerica · 2014-11-23T04:43:47+00:00

Just do it. If need, be put a finger under her chin and make her look at you

InscrutablePUA · 2014-11-23T05:42:36+00:00

Some tips:

Planning:

Schedule the date somewhere close to your pad so you can pull for the f close easily.
If not close to your pad, have in mind some secluded, semi-private area nearby you can bounce to.
Best to schedule the date in the evening though I've k closed during the day at a secluded park before.

The date:

All the standard first date stuff.
You HAVE to kino during the date. Have her touch you ("Check out my biceps"), sit next to her, show her stuff on your phone, examine her earrings, bracelets, necklaces, rings, etc. Use any excuse to touch her. Do some obviously fake but playful palm reading... works great to get kino started.
Move her around - that is, test compliance by moving her within the venue, and also bounce to a different location on YOUR timing.
Bounce to pre-planned secluded location and then your pad (lame excuses are fine, something as simple as "there's a great view of some smokestacks from my window" or "i have an awesome collection of steven seagal DVDs you should see").
While walking get your damn arm around her or your hand on her lower back while talking about something (semi misdirection).
Once you're at the semi-private location, go silent for a few moments and turn your head towards her. She should feel the 'moment' that now you're going to kiss her and turn as well... then just go for it. If she doesn't go for it, talk a bit more, then say you need to sleep or something. Before or after you walk her to her car/train stop/etc., go for the kiss again. She will probably go for it this time. If not, no big deal - go for other girls and downgrade her priority if you sense she's not interested.

Remember, if she's on a date with you she's already interested. Don't fall for that crap about becoming friends first - show her you're a confident, sexual being right from the get-go. Hold your frame and escalate! And also, don't laugh too much - it makes you look childish. A sly smile and/or witty retort is much better. Laugh if she says something genuinely funny... don't do it just because you feel social pressure to.

PS: True master seducers put LOGISTICS first.

CapoDV · 2014-11-22T20:49:51+00:00

That's interesting that you mention AA because the 2 have to same solution. Do you feel you want to do it? Go. Stop thinking, it will be okay.

Jurkey · 2014-11-23T12:55:12+00:00

Don't think too much about it. If you are in a setting with a girl where kissing is appropriate, and you have established the right amount of rapport, eventually it will just sort of come by itself.

Personally I think that environments can be used for your advantage. If you are in a club, it's easy to dance with a girl and build kino (god I hate using these PUA terms), and kiss basically without saying a word.

If you are in a gym, it's alot harder to kiss her, since it's not a very usual place for courtship.

Get good at picking up IoIs - don't overdo it though, if they want to be kissed they will make it obvious. Remember, you are the man, you control the interaction.

If you make it seem like a big deal, she will think it's a big deal - if you are very light-hearted about it, she will also be. Know those guys who seem to have kissed with every single girl, and when you talk to them (the guy or the girl) about it, they will usually say something like "Haha, it's just izzyjake, it's no big deal" - be that guy.

k1mj0ngfun · 2014-11-27T19:21:48+00:00

I recently got out of a 3 year LTR and I've been dating again for a month. I go on a date every night and 2-3 on saturdays and sundays (going through a bit of a tear right now).

Here's what's been working for me for the kclose.

As many other posters have said, logistics and seating is super key. I arrive 15-30 minutes early for every date just so I can get a side-by-side seat (sometimes you have to wait for one to open up).
Obviously you want to start with a hug or high five as soon as she arrives to set her expectation that you like to touch.
If I establish rapport, the next step is to touch her hand. At first it can just be a quick touch to emphasize a point you're making, but eventually you want to bite the bullet and hold her hand. I do it brazenly, without hesitation. Even though I get nervous, I just go for it. I hold it for maybe 2-3 minutes then let go to grab my drink.
If she's down with hand holding, the next step for me is to touch her leg. Again, the first time it's almost a tap used to emphasize a point. If she's ok with that, I'll put my hand on her leg for a few minutes. Again, I just try to be confident about it and keep the conversation going the whole time like it's no big deal.
At this point, you're ready for the k-close. My personal move is that I ask her an engaging question and let her start talking. When she's right in the middle of a sentence, I interrupt her and say something like, "Wait hold on." At this point I move in and kiss her.

If I can't get a side-by-side table, my fallback is to wait till we're leaving and hold her hand as we walk away. Again, I'll wait for her to start talking, at which point I'll stop, pull her towards me, and go for it.

This might seem too complicated or too formulaic for some of you bad-asses out there. Thoughts and feedback are welcome.

TL;DR

If you can hold her hand, you're good for the k-close. All you have to do is interrupt her and use that moment of surprise to make it happen

Good luck homies!

SiXXEros · 2014-11-23T01:20:20+00:00

Create a fun vibe build attraction and then... Stop. Look her in the eyes and at her lips and tell her you "got lost in her beauty." Then you say... "Come here" and kiss. Voila

sheriffsally · 2014-11-23T04:13:57+00:00

"Come here"

"Why?"

"Just come here" ....

edbenz · 2014-11-23T06:53:53+00:00

Try kissing a less dangerous zone than her lips first. Kiss her forehead and see if she looks up, if she does that is your cue to kiss her.

Title	How do you guys Kiss Close on dates?
Author	izzyjake
Upvotes	64
Comments	34
Date	November 22, 2014 7:10 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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