How do you make conversations less ‘platonic’ ?

serdarsam · 2020-09-03T07:17:34+00:00

Be confident. Focus on your own thoughts, not the other person's. Casually flirt but do not over value the result of it. Try to have other options, if you focus on only one person, it's very possible you will get nervous while talking as you think she is the "One". Do not act "needy", it's a sign of weakness. If you are the only one starting the conversations, stop after two and wait for them to start the conversations instead. The ratio should be at least equal. If you start the first two conversations, the should be the one who will start the next two. If they don't, they are not interested in you and it doesn't matter, pass on to next one. Ofc these acts alone don't give you confidence, it comes from inside. Build self esteem, if you don't respect yourself, nobody will. Don't forget, you are more valuable than the people you are flirting with, you should be the priority in your life, not them. If you see the value in yourself, others will too. If you don't invest in yourself, nobody will.

InternationalBorder9 · 2020-09-03T09:15:28+00:00

Don't want to be a friend then don't act like a friend.

Dont hang out like friends, dont text/talk all day like a friend, etc.

Cut to the chase and ask her out (on a proper date not a 'friends' date) early on

BurdenofPain · 2020-09-03T17:17:25+00:00

use examples. talk about other couples. see how she reacts.

myachybreakyheart1 · 2020-09-07T05:05:41+00:00

I’m ok at this. Just keep it simple.

“you’re very pretty” and maintain eye contact. It really is as simple as that. Then just wait for them to respond. Usually, they either a) blush and look away. Or b) maintain eye contact and say thank you with a big smile.

My usual follow up is check on their well-being. This would depend on the context. Eg ask if they want a snack if you’re at the movies or whatever.

It doesn’t have to be rocket science.

axe122 · 2020-09-03T14:30:08+00:00

Another thing is you don’t have to get to know a girls life story to set a date or sleep with her.

If you want to continue seeing her your probably better off getting to know a little about each other so she don’t feel like she made a mistake sleeping with you out of impulse.

I’m just saying you don’t have to know what kind of music she likes or movies she likes right away. When you know your gonna see the girl again you know you’ll get to know her over the course of dating and don’t have to try to cram it all in at the very beginning. Doing that often turns women off easier cuz it’s boring and generic plus she now knows everything about you and you just lost any mysteriousness you may have had going for you.

You only really have to ask 3 questions what was it like where you grew up or lived? What’s something your passionate about? What’s do you actually do at your work or study?

Bonus questions Do you have any hidden talents? Do you have any interesting hobbies? What a guilty pleasure of yours? What makes you cringe What’s something your afraid of from childhoods that you still don’t like now?

Aside from them 3 , maybe some of the others. Any questions I ask are just questions that are complimentary to the conversation and come up naturally through q fun playful banter type conversation.

It’s not that you can’t ask more than 3 questions I’m just saying bf you really don’t have to and asking a lot of questions is not the best approach to an approach or a date.

You don’t really connect or have fun and excite her when your approach to dating is ask her a lot of questions. This is better than being a nervous wreck and awkwardly sitting across from eachother saying nothing for 5 min at a time but unless she thinks your really hot your gonna lose a lot of the girls who were medium interest and you were just making their cut (these are usually the girls you’ll really want too)

You want to have fun, connect with her, excite her and turn her on sexually.
You have to at least remain a potential sexual partner. Women will sleep with men they don’t want to date but will not date men they don’t want to sleep with.

When you hear a girl say no spark, no chemistry, no connection or better as just friends after a date she once viewed you as a potential sexual partner partner before the date but you turned her off and she no longer sees you as potential so she has no reason to go out with you again.

This is why some guys don’t ever even get the first date. She didn’t see him as a potential sexual partner from the start so she wasn’t gonna waste her time goin YB on a date. The guy who heard no spark after the first date is now in the same position as the guy who didn’t get the date. Basically the guy who went on a date with her turned her off or bored her. He made her Initial cut but his looks alone weren’t gonna get him laid and his cliche date he took her on turned her off instead of turning her on.

Even if you don’t fuck her on the first date my point is she has to want to at some point. That’s why acting generic and interviewing her with a million questions doesn’t get you the girl unless she thinks your really hot. If she thinks to ur really hot then she wants to have sex with you based on your looks alone and will make things way easier for you.. they can still get turned off when they think your really hot but you get a lot of cushion.

intelectualycurious · 2020-09-03T12:41:49+00:00

ask and talk about the things You want to talk about.

it sounds like you’re holding back from having the conversations you really want.

how do i know this?

because a confident man isn’t afraid of making the conversation ‘awkward’.

i’m not saying you should ask vulgar things in a distasteful way.

but it’s pretty easy to hint at the possibility of sex with flirtatious comments.

see how she responds... then ping off of Your Emotions.

if you’re not feeling it, the chemistry isn’t there.

if you are, move the interaction forward.

klippklar · 2020-09-04T00:04:24+00:00

Ask her about her first kiss. Thats a good starter.

kalz44 · 2020-09-04T13:17:52+00:00

So this may not answer you’re question but to me there’s nothing wrong with having platonic conversations. As long as you shoot your shot.

Have a conversation about whatever but try to lock eyes, ask her out or go for the kiss.

Visualize_ · 2020-09-03T04:49:00+00:00

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canseiDeSerEnganado · 2020-09-03T12:30:27+00:00

You need to take the risk. Think about the times that you had something more sexual that you could said but just hold back. If you are not assexual, you will probably remember some moments like this. You just need to not hold back.

axe122 · 2020-09-03T14:15:17+00:00

any small talk is gonna come off as plutonic unless she thinks your really hot (then she might start laughing at things that aren’t even attempted Jokes)

If your asking questions as your strategy to talk with a girl.

Let say you reach the comfort stage wi tv a woman don’t just keep asking. Her question after question cuz it sounds like an interview and bores them to death.

Maybe ask some questions and some statements about her so your switching things up. Also 1/3 questions you ask her maybe you tease her qualify or disqualify her on her answer. 1/3 questions she asks you maybe give her a funny answer as a joke, detailed story as to why you chose that answer that’s either interesting or funny. Don’t do cli chi e small talk and if your doib. Online dating every conversation should be somewhat like this and you leave on high note.

Don’t text her all day everyday and don’t initiate with her everyday. You really want her doing like 60-75% of the initiating for texts.

Women’s attraction grows more when they wonder what your doing g and have time to think about you. If your texting her everyday and your initiating everytime you don’t give her the chance to miss you cuZ your always there.

As long as she’s showing up for dates and doing what she says she’s gonna you want to respond to her texts she sends but you only Initiate if your making plans or have an actual good reason.

Either way you a lot of it is in your tone and delivery and you making the overall interaction man to woman.

If someone read your text conversations or a transcript of two people would they be able to tell this was a man talking to a wonab with romantic/sexual intentions.

You want to come from a place of High value man with options and his indifferently interested in her. Indifferently interested is like obviously your interested in her so what or you wouldn’t be talking to her but your not sold on her yet. At the same time you say things and act like your 100% certain you know she wants you. You could even say this outright to her after she laughs at a dumb joke and just sorta tease her about how you know she likes you but she Chevy girl over Ford (example) so she’s lucky she’s been cool to this point cuZ you can’t date a Chevy. Maybe you heard one two many things about Chevy girls growing up (playful flirtatious delivery vibe and tone.

A lot of it is in the delivery. As a general broad idea I prefer cocky funny. I find it works great with women as long as you progress things and sexually escalate sooner than later.

The key in my opinion to cocky funny is you don’t want to take yo ur self to seriously. So you maybe said some seriously cocky thing to her about how great you are and how she can’t wait to go out with such a sexy funny cool guy or whatever.

That with a serious tone is gonna come across as arrogant or insecure because it’s like your trying to convince her of something.

However said in a playful joking flirty tone with a smile especially at the end or sorta lightly laugh to yourself like a he he he.....

Basically your saying all this shit and you stand by it but at the end of the day you don’t take yourself to to seriously but you still said it.

Main thing and best it to have fun and enjoy the experiences good or bad. If it’s work and without a specific outcome you don’t like it you won’t want to keep doing it.

Last thing in text use emojis to set tone not just put a bunch after every sentence for no reason

You shouldn’t be doing all that much texting anyway to be honest but in today’s world girls love to text and a lot of times require a lot more attention to to stay focused especially in the beginning before they’re attatched. If you meet a girl online your probably gonna have to talk to her for a few days for her to feel safe meeting a stranger off the internet but you should be setting the date up the first night you begin contact with eachother.

To the texting if she sends a hot picture don’t compliment it directly, instead say “Eh ,you look decent..........”. Or “Eh, you look decent..........😉😊😊😝😚😊☺️😉😅😁👨🌙🍿😅💯🤣😅”

The first one sets no tone at all and you can’t just assume women are gonna get that your joking. The second one just says nothing at the end it’s like some middle school bullshit. However sending one or two emojis sets a tone and makes it easier for her to receive your texts the way you intend. “Eh, you look decent..........😜😂” or 😂😂 or 😂 of 😝😂 would all be good to let her know your teasing her and giving. Her shit in a fun way.

I really only use 😂😉😝😜 the emojis for texting. I only use them what necessary so they actually have value, impact and mean something to the conversation. Don’t send random smiley faces after messages for no reason and don’t send anything with hearts even if she’s sending that to you.

You can’t let her know how much you like her until she’s invested enough that she’s attatched which can take a few months sometimes.

I say indifferently interested because you don’t want to be completely cold and show zero interest or effort. You just don’t wanna be all over her and let her come to you at her own pace once you’ve got her out in person or on a date somewhere a different night from when you met. Obviously your interested cuz your setting dates, responding to her texts, flirting with her, escalating things physically and spending time with her but your just not 100% sold on her yet and are warming up to her. So whatever she’s doing is working but she has to keep it up and we’ll see how things play out.

You want to speak in ifs and maybes so if we decide to go out again maybe we can go to the bar she mentioned.

Good luck

idontmeananyofthis · 2020-09-03T13:06:25+00:00

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Title	How do you make conversations less ‘platonic’ ?
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Date	September 3, 2020 12:59 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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