How do you make your intentions clear?

recyclablebanthas · 2021-04-30T03:37:34+00:00

I'm going to build on what everyone is saying here.

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So whenever I go out with some girls, I talk to them like we're only friends. We just have platonic conversation topics like hobbies, school, traveling and so on.

Let's be absolutely clear here. The precise topics being discussed is not what makes it seductive or platonic.

Physical escalation is where the line is.

Someone could be discussing the most innocent and ordinary thing in the world but if they are touching each other intimately, that's suddenly not platonic anymore.

I've both witnessed and experienced interactions like this. One time, the conversation was very ordinary and nonsexual, but there was physical escalation happening with leg to leg contact while we were sitting next to each other. No one else noticed but us.

There was a whole nonverbal conversation going on which led to us deciding that she was going to leave with me.

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Being able to talk with girls as personally as you describe, is a foundational skill of "seduction."

So let's dispel the notion that it's kind of productive to have such conversation topics. There's nothing inherent to those topics which keeps the interaction platonic.

In fact, the ability to hold these kinds of conversations is a skill that many guys here don't have and honestly need to learn in order to move to the next level.

3

I could spend hours talking with them but that always leads to nothing.

What leads to nothing is not so much the specific topic, as the lack of physical escalation.

4: Physical Escalation Mini-Guide

What are some tips to make your intentions clear? I can't just say "oh i like you, we should have sex together"

Under normal circumstances, there is a natural flow of things which involves nonverbal communication. Touch is what makes it clear.

Of course there is a process to this. And it starts with light, nonsexual, safe touch. Stuff you could do with the dudes and not be accused of being gay. Like high fives, fist bumps, handshakes, or sidearm jabs.

You engage in these sorts of safe touches and pay attention to her response. It isn't complicated.

If she likes the touch, she will lean into it or start touching you in response.
If she doesn't, she will flinch away.
And if she's not sure then she will be neutral. This is actually more tricky because you can't really move forward too much unless she has matched you. Usually what you have to do in this case is constantly pull away to see if she responds by pulling away too. If she pulls away as you do then it means she didn't want it and if she stays where she is then it's probably fine to carefully up at a notch.

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To contrast, if you spend the entire time talking to her for hours as a friend without any physical escalation, the lack of physical contact is what unintentionally makes it clear that you're not interested.

And if you just blurt out, "Oh I like you, we should have sex together," you are unintentionally admitting that you have no idea how to comfortably engage in non-verbal physical escalation.

If a guy is solid enough in their game that they can reliably get laid then they can usually afford to mess around with verbalizing something sexual in a more blatant way.

Otherwise it's best to get the foundational skills down first.

cyrusol · 2021-04-30T00:02:31+00:00

Actually you can say about anything as long as it doesn't make her feel creeped out. Just requires some empathy, i.e. the ability to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Context matters, the way you say something matters a lot. The content itself not so much.

It's just touch that can quickly cross a boundary that you shouldn't have crossed.

Captain_w00t · 2021-04-29T23:20:00+00:00

Between being platonic and saying you want to have sex, there’s a “I like you” which is better than the other twos.

There are also flirting and kino escalation.

And of course, there’s calibration which should guide you during the entire process.

Groundbreaking-Link3 · 2021-04-30T03:54:29+00:00

Remember you are trying to make things romantic..not taking an interview session. Guys fall in live with their eyes...while girls through their ears. So remember to do your homework before your date. Find about things she may prefer. Show her that you are full of adventure and daring like Errol Flynn.😊 Try reading romantic novels over watching p0*n. It will help you understand how seduction of girls actually works...😊

KitaiTravels · 2021-04-30T08:21:12+00:00

Actually you can be very direct. But it has to be done in the right way.

How to leave the safe topics? By just introducing them. Instead of asking her about her hobbies, ask her about her passions. Instead of talking about someone else, ask her what she is looking for in a man. Instead of talking about work, talk about male female dynamics. Choose the right topics and just introduce them.
Go step by step. If you set the right tone from the beginning, you can slowly maneuver to alle the topics you really want to explore.
And yeah at some point be direct! If you look into her eyes and you feel a response in your f*cking balls, well don't tell her that but tell her what you like about her! ;)

CreepyHermit489 · 2021-04-30T03:39:56+00:00

It's called flirting my guy hahahaha.

Slab2001 · 2021-04-30T00:50:18+00:00

yeah bro something that’s worked for me is sending the girls I’m keen on a mirror pic of my abs (usually around 9/10pm on a weekday).. I think this is good because they know it’s a mass-snap & they can tell I’m tryna fvck them.

Another thing that my friend taught me (who’s smashed the most good looking girls I know) is to send them a “snap no chat”. This is for late at night on the weekend, around 12/1am just send them a selfie or shoe pic— once again these are things that have worked for me (and him) but if she responds, she’s prolly down to hang and/or fvck.

BensonInFL · 2021-04-30T04:22:02+00:00

I talk to them like we're only friends. We just have platonic conversation topics like hobbies, school, traveling and so on.

I think you answered your own question. 'We just have platonic conversation' ... and why not flirt? Why not have conversations about what turns her on? Why not have conversations about her fetishes? Why not have conversations about what sexual things she has tried?

-B

bandsupjay · 2021-04-30T09:49:05+00:00

You sexually escalate to make both of you guys aware that you’re into each other sexually and go from there

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2021-04-30T15:16:04+00:00

My success has come without physical escalation. I can’t fully explain it.

At some point she’ll come to my place or I’ll go to her place. It will always be any reason except sex. Maybe to look at a book. Maybe to continue the drinks. Maybe I got to her place after we went to a park. If she makes any comment about being tired, I suggest lying down or snuggling up together. Lay down, lift up your arm with the universal invite to snuggle. She’ll snuggle up. Wait a bit and let it happen.

Obv this is in the context of a date or her already giving lots of interest.

Boring and not exciting I get it. But it’s what works for me.

Tobeddetermined · 2021-04-30T16:15:41+00:00

As Tom Torerro would say "don't hide your cock"

You need to follow Mystery's M3 model . You are just building comfort and rapport but you're not building attraction. If you haven't already read it , read the Game by Neil Strauss, and then read the Mystery Method (as well as the pickup artist and Revelationsl and the Rules of The Game. If you want to go beyond and become better and truly live find Neil Strauss's book list and buy and read every single title.

https://www.neilstrauss.com/neil/top-six-game-books/

RSD Max is great and RSD Tyler is incredible. You can find their stuff hidden away on the web and on reddit since the left has purged a lot of it.

I'll link you to my post responding to it in more depth.

Better yet, click on my user name and look at my comment history.

Part 1:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mz2j0u/how_do_i_bounce_women_within_first_45_minutes_to/gwfuvd0?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3

Part 2:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mz2j0u/how_do_i_bounce_women_within_first_45_minutes_to/gwfuwa1?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3

JWilleAndrew · 2021-04-30T16:24:54+00:00

Just ask if she want to date you

kittennnuh · 2021-05-01T03:28:16+00:00

is this like on a date? because that's kind of what you talk about on dates haha. it's a pretty casual, get to know the other person sort of thing. you show someone you're interested in them by flirting, like the topic can literally be whatever but the difference is in your tone, body language, expressions, playfulness, etc. haha

sleonpx · 2021-05-02T11:16:59+00:00

When you get laid. That is a hell of a sign of intention 🔥😂

Title	How do you make your intentions clear?
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Date	April 29, 2021 10:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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