How do you remain 'alpha' while in a relationship?

time_and_again · 2013-02-07T07:00:44+00:00

I think so many guys have the wrong idea of what 'Alpha' means.

Just be a man. Start by defining yourself. Figure out what you will and will not tolerate in life and why, and stick to it. Be consistent. Don't be afraid to tell people, girlfriends, etc., when they're stepping over your boundaries. Put yourself first, but do your best to meet your partners needs without compromising yourself. If you reach a place where you need to compromise, make sure you're both compromising and it's not just you. Do not be afraid to walk away from a relationship if it's not working for you. Carry yourself with dignity and respect, but don't be an entitled asshole. Resolve problems immediately. Do not ever lose your cool. Do not pout. Be creative. Be somewhat unpredictable. Maintain your own life, friends, activities, etc. - do not become a single unit driven by her whims. Keep studying and practicing PU principles (minus the actual picking up part). Don't even get complacent.

rebuildingMyself · 2013-02-07T06:21:42+00:00

Maintain your inner game. You are NOT defined by the relationship. The relationship enhances your already awesome life. Sure you can't be flirting and fucking around with other girls, but that doesn't mean you have to lose all your social life. Remember to take time for yourself (hobbies, friends, etc) that doesn't involve your SO. This has a benefit of keeping yourself "high value" so that you remain attractive to your SO.

Lead the relationship. Always come up with fun and exciting things to do together. Develop cool experiences you can enjoy together. Don't always rely on her to come up with things to do. She'll get bored quickly.

Never stop seducing her. You're in a relationship so sex isn't 100%. But you have to keep that sexual vibe strong or else (like how my previous relationships ended). Set up a date night where she goes to the bar and you "pick her up." Fun times will be had.

vuxanov · 2013-02-07T09:50:56+00:00

Piss on her side of bed to mark your territory and establish dominance.

Kren625 · 2013-02-07T05:57:15+00:00

If you feel the need to always be alpha in a relationship it's not a "real" one. Not saying it's bad to go for what you want, but part of being alpha is not allowing a vulnerability, in which case you're not having real intimacy. Alpha is about control, relationships are about mutual power.

thendrill · 2013-02-07T12:28:10+00:00

Reality check here guys !

Before an answer can u tell me what being an alpha means. Why does it matter in a relationship, and if you are already what is the problem if "remaining". I mean when I get into a relationship, I dont think " OMG, How do i remain an engineer" ....

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2013-02-07T16:19:47+00:00

Rule #1: Don't Be Needy!

Be a rock she can rely on. Don't allow yourself to lose your composure. You can be upset, you can be worried, you can have bad days, but you always have that inner confidence needed to make objective decisions under tough circumstances. Don't be afraid to stand up for what you believe in and tell her no. Also don't be afraid to give in and give her what she wants sometimes. Always believe in yourself, and she'll believe in you too.

2013-02-07T05:34:05+00:00

Being in a relationship is basically picking up the same girl over and over again.

tothefux · 2013-02-07T14:42:47+00:00

Call her a faggot when she fucks up.

2013-02-07T12:02:51+00:00

Show her that if she loses you she will regret it but you on the other hand won't have any problems finding another girlfriend.

Salted_Appliances · 2013-02-07T18:50:11+00:00

Domestic violence will keep you at the top of the food chain.

dukefalcata · 2013-02-08T06:12:32+00:00

Chateau Heartiste has a great article on this: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/04/14/relationship-game-tender-lovemaking-edition/

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-07T10:18:39+00:00

Alpha-male.org You don't always gotta follow the stereotypes of being an alpha male

GSpotAssassin · 2013-02-07T13:16:01+00:00

Do not get complacent.

LnRon · 2013-02-07T15:29:42+00:00

No how, there is no trick anymore. Thats what seduction is all about, not about being super human, its about making a good first impression, its about investing to superficial things. In relationship you dont really have to be super impressive, because no one is, thats real life.

JayZizek · 2013-02-07T18:36:39+00:00

This is the finest manifesto on game and relationships I've ever read.

RcskaSedd · 2013-02-08T04:14:22+00:00

Have a mix of being alpha and beta!

2013-02-07T14:45:23+00:00

I don't know what your definition of being alpha is but I remain myself. Don't fucking change. If you changed in a relationship, you fucked up. Get out. Stop being so desperate to get your dick wet.

If your definition of being alpha is being an overtly aggressive mother fucker, stop. You're not alpha. You're a pathetic beta who likes to play at being alpha. Whose going to piss off a real alpha and get the neck of your pansy ass bear shoved down your ass when you start something your excited little ass can't handle.

TL;DR We're all special little snowflakes, be yourself.

shitsfuckedupalot · 2013-02-07T06:00:11+00:00

the back of your hand. hahaha no actually, just assert yourself. It's the same as before. it just gets harder cause you have to think of more creative places to go eat.

rankao · 2013-02-07T06:07:34+00:00

alpha

Title	How do you remain 'alpha' while in a relationship?
Author	relaynoob
Upvotes	112
Comments	48
Date	February 7, 2013 5:08 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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