I (25M) was scared to death to approach girls on the street.

Whenever I saw an attractive girl, I would always get that crippling feeling, I wouldn't approach and beat myself up because I didn't have the balls just to say hi.

Does it sound familiar?

But now, I can say confidently that I got over of my approach anxiety, simply it's not there. I can approach women that I find attractive without this burning sensation in my stomach.

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And I didn't need 100 approaches, actually, I didn't even do 10. I'm going to explain how I did it, and of course guys, if you have any additional question, just ask.

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The way I overcame approach anxiety was by doing 2 things.

  1. I got a wingman

Listen, going out alone and approach girls just by yourself is extremely hard, specially when you're starting out, and this is the mistake I made.

I'm not saying that you can't overcome approach anxiety just by yourself, but it's going to be 10 times harder, if you've been there, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

I found a wingman, we went out, he approached, he motivated me and I approached for the first time, and I really, REALLY realized that there's noting to be afraid of.

And I was able to do it because I found people able to motivate me, if you go out alone, you will probably feel like a creep, but if you find someone who tells you it's fine and actually fun, that'll establish.

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The way I found a wingman was by searching facebook/whatsapp groups, internet forums and in general, every place on the Internet that I could think of.

Just put the effort, meet up with somebody and go out with him.

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2. Meditation

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One of the reasons why you get approach anxiety is because you get lost in the "what ifs" that only exist in your head.

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What if is she has a boyfriend?

What if is she rejects me?

What if is she thinks I'm a creep?

What if someone sees me a think I'm a weirdo.

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When you practice meditation, you'll learn to relax, to be in your body, you'll get less stress and anxiety.

But more importantly, you'll get out of your head. There will be no "what ifs", just the moment, your desire to meet that beautiful girl and the physical sensation of your body.

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I practice meditation every day and it made the difference.

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And that's how I did it.

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TL;DR: Practice meditation consistently and get a wingman!

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Any questions?

P.S: In the comment, you can find my answers to others users about how I meditate, among other things.

P.P.S: Don't expect fast results, it takes at least 2-3 weeks of daily practice. Be patient!