How to break through playing hard to get.

heytherefreeman · 2024-08-11T06:18:35+00:00

Bruh, they won’t chase, they have 100 other guys doing the same thing like you daily

-Negatively_Positive · 2024-08-11T04:06:17+00:00

Brother, at this point you’ve got to pay for premium content 😪

immaSandNi-woops · 2024-08-11T10:12:56+00:00

Good looks bring options for men and women. The difference is what they want with the options. Men seek more women to have sex with. Women seek more attention to validate themselves.

Because of this, your game needs to not feed into what they’re expecting, where you’re just validating them. With more beautiful women, you have to treat them like they’re just a bro and the only reason you would hang out with them is if they are cool enough for you. Think of it like this, you don’t hang out with guys who you don’t have a good time with, has nothing to do with their looks. This is similar because now, psychologically, you’re making the beautiful women jump through hoops as if your standards to hangout with a person is equal to if not more selective than the expectations they have of the man who gets their attention.

It’s a tug-o-war of selectivity, and just as any tug-o-war takes time to determine a winner, so does this, where maintaining your selectivity in your actions and words will enable her to concede. Why? Because you’ve established you’re high-value by not budging from your own expectations.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2024-08-11T15:42:04+00:00

IF they are ACTUALLY playing hard to get with you.....I don't give a fuck how beautiful she is, why would you be into that?

Naturally there's a back and forth in initiating things or progressing things regardless, but for me.....if she's playing hard to get I already lost interest.

Why would I ever wanna chase a chick that's showing me she's unsure about me or interested?

I'll contact her when I can/have a moment but I have NO desire to put my energy into women that won't show interest or act like they care all that much.

Cool, you want me to chase after you? Nah....I'd rather chase after becoming my best self and putting all my energy into that. Its something I'll never waste my energy doing and makes me attractive to ALL women and NOT just one of em.

You don't break through playing hard to get. You make your intentions up front from the jump, present yourself well and let them make that choice. If I'm not up to their standards or they don't want it, cool! I can move onto better things.

You have things going on in your life, you're making moves and you let that attract them. Your moves are your number one priority, NOT them.

Screw going after a chick playing hard to get, I can find a better chick that won't do that immature shit (again, IF she's actually playing hard to get and artificially creating that and not just genuinely busy/has 1000 other things to worry about like us and you don't register as one of those concerns).

SalesAficionado · 2024-08-11T05:40:46+00:00

I move on to the next one. I don't chase, I replace. No one is special and hot women are dime a dozen. The fuck I'm going to chase for?

Immediate_Lion8516 · 2024-08-11T22:07:41+00:00

I’d be wary how much time you invest in a person playing hard to get.

The happy path is they think playing hard to get makes you desire them more.

The unhappy path is they want/ like the attention.

In my opinion if someone is playing hard to get I’d set a boundary communicating your interest, and if they want to meet up again ok. If not that’s ok to.

The point is make them make a decision and saves you both a lot of time

zebekias · 2024-08-11T08:39:54+00:00

That’s the opposite to what I experienced when I started to date hot women. No games no bs. But, I was upfront with my intentions to taking her out.

riccardo2002ric · 2024-08-11T10:51:30+00:00

Pass shit test, double down on sarcasm make them feel inferior and want to chase you.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-08-11T08:28:08+00:00

Become more attractive yourself. You're playing on that edge where some of these women are above your league. They know they can do better than you. Be better than the other guys she could choose. Get better in all the ways you can be better.

xxxTRTGymBroxxx · 2024-08-11T11:00:39+00:00

They are playing hard to get because you are trying to “get” them.

DaygameCode · 2024-08-11T12:47:46+00:00

Hard to get just means you are trying to escalate and they have objections. So what you need to analyse is what might be missing in your interaction.

Maybe they feel you try too hard, maybe you feel your interest is only superficial, maybe they feel you are not high value enough, maybe they feel there is no clear direction in the interaction, maybe they thing you are too friendly and supportive, maybe you make them feel like they are easy with your propositions and that you are making them responsible for sexual escalation, maybe they feel they can’t trust you or that you are gonna pressure them o do something they may not want to do, maybe they are on logical mode and you are trying to rational or too much or escalate when she isn’t in the mood,… etc

Sure_Elevator · 2024-08-11T15:21:09+00:00

I've been in similar situations before. It's like they're testing you, you know? I think it's a combo of them being more cautious and also wanting to see how interested you really are. Don't try to bypass it, just roll with it. Keep being yourself, show genuine interest, and don't overthink it. The pulling away thing might not work with these girls, maybe they're just not that into chasing. Just keep it chill and see where it goes. And yeah, experience plays a big role, but it's not the only factor. Beautiful women get hit on a lot, they can afford to be picky.

McPigg · 2024-08-12T00:17:39+00:00

Yup they are easier and more fun to talk to then normal girls onxe thdy open up, but a little harder to get a grasp on, because they have tons of other social and romamtic offers. You need to really stand out to get trough here. What makes yourself so special that they should go for you instead of all the other things? Find or develop that, and fi d a way to demonstrate that zo her in a non tryhard fashion.

HeightTimely · 2024-08-12T03:00:30+00:00

1) lack of game 2) you're not being the prize 3) too much attention on her 4) lack of negging, pass of shit-test.

If you're trying to escalate and she ressist:

1) Neg him

2) Cut the attention to zero, let her chase you

jjboy91 · 2024-08-11T12:12:07+00:00

Lmao you let them go

musicisarealtreat · 2024-08-11T06:26:01+00:00

Stop playing hard to get. Just be yourself and you will likely show the right amount of interest to attract these “gorgeous” women.

Title	How to break through playing hard to get.
Author	Honest-Ad2811
Upvotes	18
Comments	35
Date	August 11, 2024 4:03 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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