How to fix a bad first impression.

SilentLettersSuck · 2011-12-08T03:18:23+00:00

Your mistake was believing that "I don't remember" is even half-true.

chosonhawk · 2011-12-08T04:29:53+00:00

A few things.

You were intimidated by her looks. Dont let yourself be intimidated by a woman's looks ever. Sometimes, the prettier they are, the more self-conscious they are and the more open they are to a dude just talking to them. Honestly, the prettier a girl is - the more likely I am to open a conversation with her. So many men avoid talking to them, they're often starved for attention.
Never...ever...let the first thing you say to a woman / girl be a question. Always make a statement...its more confident and it leaves the ball in your court to say the next thing...leaving the girl at ease. Even if its nothing more than "hey"...dont ask a question first. So, to your story...you could have done this:

You: "Hey. I see you're following me around again today." smirk Her: "What are you talking about?" You: "Everywhere I look, you seem to be right there. So either you're doing it on purpose, or I was clearly destined to talk to you today." smile

Its a little cheesy, but the smirk, smile, and confidence are key.

How to recover from this? Next time you see her...smile at her. Say "Hi, how's it going?" Whatever you do, dont refer to the awkward conversation...women do not like to talk about things that were awkward...it never happened...just be confident and smile.

Best of luck to you!

anatimedream · 2011-12-08T02:55:50+00:00

"Sure you remember... I was just trying to get a drink of water in peace and you came up with your friend and you pretended to grab my ass. Yea, I know it was you... and I'm onto your little game."

geek_in_a_suit · 2011-12-08T02:19:11+00:00

Your mistake was coming off un-confident. If you're going to say something, don't sound unsure - Say it like you mean it. Show that you're interested. Be the charming nice guy that you are. Keep the conversation going. Don't be the first to walk away. Let her be the one to walk away. After that, give her a few opportunities to initiate a chat with you. After a few times she doesn't initiate and/or comes off like a snob - Don't pay any attention to her. "Play the game she plays" Goodluck!

highideas · 2011-12-08T03:36:23+00:00

With her friend there she was big man on campus. Let her know you are going to let her be that in front of your friends...but it is a secret.

Your opener was perfect: "Didn't I see you last class" Hers was defense and she was gauging your confidence. "I don't remember".

"You should have just grabbed my ass then so you would have remembered." wink. "I have to get back to my friends but could I get a little peck on the cheek before I go back so they think I am a huge stud? I will come back and get your number later alone"

If she is feeling it she will say so...confidence not cocky.

baticrease · 2011-12-08T01:05:54+00:00

I need answers for something similar that happened to me.

ecntlr · 2011-12-08T01:41:29+00:00

Go talk to her again without the walking off part

You also shouldn't remotely care about anything that happened in the past. That will only work against you.

ecntlr · 2011-12-08T05:08:57+00:00

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HjoVan · 2011-12-08T05:25:08+00:00

the advice i was given was to keep trying, dont give up. Its better to be looked at funny than not to be seen at all

queenw_hipstur · 2011-12-08T14:35:55+00:00

If I were you, I would turn this into an ongoing game. Every time you see this girl, you should always say, "oh hey didn't I see you last class?" She will begin to play along and will most likely start saying the same thing. Do not introduce yourself. You will be the mystery boy until she introduces herself. Keep the interactions short, light and funny, and then be on your way. She will be thinking to herself, "why does that cute guy keep chatting me up with no follow up?" This will lead to her being putty in your hands. Because if you see her and don't play the "didn't I see you" game, she will wonder if you've lost interest. This. Will. Work.

Good luck and FTA(fuck them all)

m0bmx · 2011-12-08T01:24:44+00:00

In my experience, if a girl gives you an obvious IOI and you don't respond, they'll shut down pretty quickly. It's a self esteem thing. They don't want to appear desperate by throwing themselves at a guy they can't get.

ShamwowTseDung · 2011-12-08T01:30:17+00:00

set your eye on another girl or your priorities, let there be known that

insert notasinglefuckwasgiventhatday.jpg

Seems like you're placing too much importance on this girl. She's this and that, but you haven't talked to her much. I'd say forget about her and go about your business, since she's in class she'll be around. Focus on enjoying yourself, she'll notice and then you decide whether you want to get a crack at it again, or not.

I hate to make this metaphor, but it should be more like a game and less like your destiny.

In other words, relax.

This is all IMO.

ShamwowTseDung · 2011-12-08T01:48:43+00:00

Just wondering: Was my post removed or is this something to do with the things going on in the server today?

turtle_thunder · 2011-12-08T02:13:29+00:00

I'm sorry if this comes out mean, I am only saying this to help you. Talking to girls in high school is so easy!! They don't matter, at all. No girls matter. There is a whole school and they are already in the mood to talk. It's not like a cold approach to someone you've never seen before.

From experience, girls most likely know who you are, they are waiting for you to talk to them. It is the easiest thing to just suck them into your reality and have a strong polarity, and she will willingly follow you.

Don't ask her if you saw her last class, you both know you did, and she just thinks your bad at socializing and not as attractive. I would've said something along the lines of " So I saw you grabbing my ass, want more of that?? ;)" and stick my butt out at her, blocking her way and backing into her. If you say it confidently no girl will act negatively to that.

The fact is you didn't say that, so next time you see her, just say, were you that girl that wants my booty? I thought so. and go from there like your old friends. Tease and touch her and she will be receptive. The key is the second you see an opening to talk to someone else, just leave. Stop talking to her. Then the next time you see her in the hallway, trap her in the corner without saying anything or some teases like this.

Just trying to help you out here, throwing out some ideas. Its all practice so just give it your all, otherwise your cheating yourself. Good luck

dj_bizarro · 2011-12-08T03:46:28+00:00

you said she wasn't that good looking (ok looking) so why all the sudden is she on some pedestal? you didn't make the move, so you missed your shot, so now you should move on. if she flirts with you again, or gives you another opening, then go for it. otherwise stick with the act of her not remembering you thus you don't remember her.

heckz · 2011-12-08T05:18:37+00:00

find other girls to talk to and not worry about one girl

sturmeh · 2011-12-08T07:54:03+00:00

She remembers you, she isn't going to say: "Yes I was making sexually suggestive gestures at you."

Who cares if she doesn't remember you, second chance right there.

m0bmx · 2011-12-08T07:59:30+00:00

Girls will turn 'off' very quick if they've felt like they gave you an obvious IOI and you didn't respond. Its a self esteem thing. If she feels she put herself out there and you didn't do anything she'll pretend to be not interested.

KPB724 · 2011-12-08T12:48:29+00:00

since you already left in a shy way, I think its better off to approach her that way again. Tell her that you think she's cute but felt really shy. Tell her that you were thinking about her (but not in a stalker, crazy about her) Some girls really like shy guys that are sweet. Not guaranteeing anything but I did something similar and it worked.

dj_bizarro · 2011-12-08T01:17:31+00:00

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ecntlr · 2011-12-08T04:15:37+00:00

I think i found a way I'm going to handle this,let me hear your guy's thoughts.

I call her over. Give her a seductive smile and initiate physical contact. Ask her, her name and tell her that i thought she looked cute the other day and request her number. And tell her I'll call her sometime.

Thinking this up and execution are two entirely different things though.

Title	How to fix a bad first impression.
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Upvotes	29
Comments	51
Date	December 8, 2011 12:38 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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