How to improve conversations?

Colossal_Caribou · 2014-06-21T18:07:36+00:00

Nick Sparks' How o hold conversation like a man speech is great.

It has a lot to do with the first conversation and how to hit it off, but key points can be used in any conversation.

TalkToPlants · 2014-06-21T16:35:41+00:00

Try to be less factual, and more feeling based in conversation. Don't just answer and/or ask questions with direct answers. Your questions/answers should be colourful, but not necessarily detailed.

Something that works for me is making constant assumptions; which I leave her to correct should I be wrong.

Colossal_Caribou · 2014-06-21T18:09:54+00:00

A lot of deeper connections are established around how you feel about things. Ask her why she's been up to whatever she's been doing. Why is she feeling great? Talk about hopes/dreams.

Something you need to be careful of: guys report-talk — lots of facts. Girls rapport-talk, about their feelings. It might feel a little weird at first to be talking about your feelings, but that's how you establish rapport with a girl.

pasinduthegreat · 2014-06-21T17:37:46+00:00

A lot of guys have that problem. They don't have a problem with approaching women if they knew they could sustain a good conversation. The only tips I can give would be to be in the moment. Pre-plan a good opening and one other conversation starter and then just converse. And hey, a solid "Hey, how are you" with a shitload of a pure confidence in it is fucking powerful...

Tarmoney · 2014-06-21T16:30:50+00:00

Ask about her day and after that give her your views and comments about it.

I think asking about her day can learn a lot from her since you will be able to know what does she do and stuff.

Kaze_Senshi · 2014-06-21T18:26:46+00:00

Try to ask open questions, avoid to use questions that can be answered using "yes" or "no";
Learn how to hear too, show signs of interest in what she is saying like nodding your head or repeating what she is saying. Ask to her to say more details if you find something interesting;
You can talk about the same topic in different ways with the same person, even if you are chatting about mundane things you can have fun if you associate it with good feelings or emotions;
Smile and try to make her smile too;
Don't be afraid to change the chat's topic if you feel that the conversation is dying.

inspireddev · 2014-06-21T17:41:19+00:00

Role play. Tease. Exaggerate. If you aren't laughing or at least smiling when you're talking to a girl, you're doing it wrong.

jzell3 · 2014-06-21T17:50:31+00:00

Just say whats on your mind. You can literally say that you dont know what to say. Being authentic is what is most important

Diece · 2014-06-21T21:27:21+00:00

I'm glad you asked this questions, it's been something that has been a problem with me for the longest time. Now I am not the greatest convertsationalist in all of man kind but I belive I can do pretty well.

First of all a lot of people say to others that want to learn good conversational skills and I won't say I disagree but to me conversation is more then just facts it's more sharing feelings and emotions. A recent example that sticks out in my head is when I went to go get my hair cut yesterday, the hair stylist was this new super hot italian girl wayy out of my league (I don't belive in leagues but this puts it into persepctive)

I started talking, the basica shit. How long have you worked here, go to school just the generic shit. This little bit was factual but while talking about the basic stuff we connected on something. I am moving to Montreal, she wanted to know all about why I was moving. I started telling her slowly revaling who I am, then she revealed her self as well. Now though we were strictly sharing emotions, when she revealed she only needs a few core friends and then later in the conversation she told me how she loves cats and speaks their language. I said "ahh now I see why you don't need a lot of friends, you have cats. You must be crazy" then she bantered back at me. Converstion is more about emotions and connecting through them then strictly revealing facts and asking questions. At least thats how I do it.

MikeEatsTheSun · 2014-06-21T19:59:30+00:00

Some pointers on assumption stacking here: http://daygame.com/cafe/index.php?topic=1460.0 http://daygame.com/cafe/index.php?topic=2266.0

yuyo874 · 2014-06-22T05:11:59+00:00

open ended questions rather than simple yes or no questions.

trustmeiminnocent · 2014-06-22T06:28:45+00:00

Everyone loves to talk about themselves, make that the topic of the conversation and bounce off that. Works for me.

okayawesome91 · 2014-06-22T07:13:22+00:00

Search for conversation threading ;)

okayawesome91 · 2014-06-22T07:45:38+00:00

The Simple Art of Conversation

itseemstoberaining · 2014-06-22T06:12:53+00:00

You could try Mark Manson's Connection course.

http://markmanson.net/courses/connection-course

Heyoka7 · 2014-06-21T19:52:56+00:00

Women are typically suckered by astrology, so I make strong, but open ended statements about their personality and they think I'm magic. Especially after a drink or so. After that whatever I tell them they want, they tend to agree with it. I start simple with obvious things and once they get saying "yes" I curve it off into other areas...like sucking me off in the bathroom. Basically I use jedi mind tricks on weak minded women.

Title	How to improve conversations?
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Date	June 21, 2014 4:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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