Sorry for the long rant, feel free to skip to the last few paragraphs.

I met this girl at a bar a couple weekends ago and last weekend we saw each other. One thing led to another and she wanted me to sneak her into my place. We tried to have sex the first night but I was too tired. But she had very high interest, saying she really liked me.

I told her how I didn’t perform as well as I had wanted. So the next night she invited me to meet her at the bar. She had very high interest and we talked to each other at a table for most of the night. I snuck her in again and we were able to have sex that night.

But after that night she seemed to be a bit distant. After I dropped her off she didn’t text me all day. So I tried to have conversations over text throughout the week, but a lot of her responses were dry. She seemed interested again talking about careers.

But I messed things up because I got insecure . I started asking questions regarding another guy she hooked up with at the bar. Because she told me she doesn’t hookup very often. But she didn’t really answer, just asking why does it matter.

So i tried to change topics but she stopped responding eventually. I went to the bar on the next Friday but she wasn’t there. I saw her friends and they were nice, they told me she would be there tomorrow. So I started getting excited to see her again.

Next night she still hadn’t responded so I reached out again, apologizing and asking if she was going out. She told me she was at this bar so we met up with them since we were already on our way. She was with one of my friends so I figured I should go.

We got there and she was at a table with her friends and my friend. A couple of other guys were there too. I started chatting up the girl again and forgot about her not responding. We were kind of flirting and talking a lot.

But then she wanted me to get her a drink. I said only if you come with me as a joke. But she’s just like no I’d rather sit here. She even offered to pay me to get her one. But I said only if you go with me. She declined so I asked if it was because she wanted to talk to these other guys.

Her and her friend were both like omg what did you say. Then the girl jokingly says that she thinks I’m crazy. I figure it wasn’t a joke and she was referring to my insecure behavior. I felt bad when I looked back, like I should’ve just got it. She ended up asking my friend to get it.

Otherwise the night went good. Except when we were leaving she seemed like she just wanted to go home. She didn’t want to hangout again like last time. When I asked why she didn’t text me back she said she will when she wants to. I just hugged her and said good night.

I texted her a bit that night, saying I was sorry for how I acted and I wasn’t crazy. She’s just replied that it was fine lol so I thought all was good. The next day she initiated a convo asking what my last name was. I was happy that she was initiating contact again and thought I fixed things. I responded and asked why she asks.

That was Sunday night and now it’s Friday night. I felt kind of bad that I expected her to respond at least once. We went from dry texting, which was fine, to now she’s not even responding at all. I feel like that’s a awful sign and basically means she completely lost interest in me.

I don’t know what to do going to the bars. I will probably see her again but it might awkward, especially since I’m annoyed with her. What if she sees me and doesn’t even say hi? How am I supposed to raise her interest if she just ignores me?

Hopefully that doesn’t happen. I figure texting her again will only make me look desperate. I’ve ran out of options, so my only hope is that I can raise her interest if she sees me. I gave off a bad impression and i feel like I need to fix that. So I’m hoping to be my best self tonight, by trying to look confident and talk to other girls.

Hopefully this works and she will raise interest for me again. I’m just worried that she’ll be talking to a new guy and completely ignore me. If I see her with another guy I don’t think I should approach. But maybe if she’s alone or with her friends then I’ll say hi to her.

What do you guys think? Is saying hi to someone who ignores your texts needy? I don’t think I should go out of my way to sit by her again, so maybe I can say hi then leave so I don’t look so desperate. Or should I wait for her to approach/initiate contact? I feel like it’s unlikely she initiates anytime soon.