How to make the transition from talking on the couch to kissing

themanbat · 2014-01-19T16:39:55+00:00

First of all you closed the deal, so good job regardless of the semi bumpy road.

The best time to initiate contact is as soon as possible. Even with your roomies in the room you could have sat close enough to touch knees. When you adjourned to the couch in your room you could lead her by the hand. Girls love it when guys they are onto it gently take their hand and lead. You don't have to sit immediately into a cuddle, but at least be close enough to touch knees or have your arm kind-of around her (along the top of the couch). Find excuses to touch her. Look at her jewelry and say nice ring, where did you get it? Say she has pretty or delicate fingers. (Girls remember the details compliments.) Palm reading is silly but works because it's an excuse to hold hands. Compare the size of her hands to yours.

Another strategy is to sit as far away from her as possible, then immediately say, "Why are you sitting so far away?" or "Oh no don't sit on that side of the couch! It's haunted!" Then take her hand and lead her closer. She wants to be close to you. That's why she came over and into your room.

An easy way to get straight to the cuddles is to pop in a scary movie and say, "Allright this is a spooky one so stay close." Or smilingly, "Horror freaks me out so you have to promise to protect me." Go in for a kiss during the first non terrifying few minutes though. You don't want to get sucked into actually watching the film.

If the girl ever calls you out on being slow to initiate, because of lots of talking, just say, "I can't help it. You're so much fun to talk to." Then go in for a kiss.

magicroot75 · 2014-01-19T18:38:21+00:00

I didn't have the balls to just kiss her because I wasn't sure if she wanted me to.

She came to your house and is sitting alone with you. She wants you to kiss her. That's that. There is no further instruction needed on this post. You need to internalize that this girl took the time out of here schedule and all the other dudes looking to hookup with her to come to YOUR place. She wants you.

DrewChambersDC · 2014-01-20T01:30:24+00:00

So here's a pro tip.

A girl that will let you play with her hair, will let you kiss her. 100% of the time, there's a perfect correlation.

So if you want to go in for a kiss, start by putting your hand on her head and running it through her hair. If she's cool with it, you know for sure that you're good on the kiss, so just do it whatever way you want. ( I'll normally just go for the kiss immediately after and it's easy because you already know that she'll kiss you back, and you have your hand on her head and can guide it towards yours ). Now if she stops you when you're playing with her hair and says like "wait" or "im not ready" etc. Then no harm done, you can just play it off and it's not like you actually had the awkwardness of going in for a kiss and getting rejected.

This works really well for me because once she's cool with you playing with her hair you know she's ready to kiss, but she doesn't know that you know. So you can be really confident with the actual kiss, and that's the only thing she'll remember.

Alexfortomorrow · 2014-01-19T12:46:22+00:00

While she's talking about random/boring stuff, start getting closer with strong eye contact, put a finger on her mouth to make her shut up, gently put a hand on the back of her head and kiss her.

OR v2:

At the first moment of "awkward" silence, get close and kiss her passionately. Always works lol

twistednipples · 2014-01-19T19:49:30+00:00

Dude, you are over thinking it. If she wants to kiss you, she will let you at any point. Don't ask to kiss her. The right time was yesterday, the next best time is now.

scottocs · 2014-01-20T01:20:40+00:00

I came up with a modified technique I saw in a video somewhere.

If she's sitting next to you and your arm isn't around her, ask to see her hand for a second. If you're on her left, put her left hand in your left hand. Now take her hand over your head and behind your back like typically most guys do to girls. Right as you lay it down, say something like, "Wow, you're smooth." Makes them laugh every time. After that you can also lift her legs up and put them in your lap.

This isn't how to kiss her, but it gets you closer than just sitting next to each other.

After that, just kiss her.

Nerf_Circus · 2014-01-19T14:27:58+00:00

Hi, I was going to tear apart your post but you are quite self aware of your mistakes. Assume attraction if she has come all this way to she you she must have a reason for that --> attraction. Once you stop watching TV, to turn the interaction to mainly talking. /u/Alexfortomorrow has basically covered it. When you both stop talking and you have you hand(s) on her belly (an area guys normally only touch when they are fucking her), pause the conversation and look into her eyes, mentally express the way you feel, your eyes seem to should it. Move in etc.

When she asked to go for a smoke I finally managed to say "Only if you kiss me first." she responded with something along the lines of "You want me to kiss you? That is the man's job.. bla bla bla..."

I feel like this is due to congruency. That line you used is very 'game' but it feels weird imagining you have just been talking normally for two hours to suddenly throw that at her. I can see how is a night club that would get you a kiss from a girl you just meet.

PS: I hate batman. Super powers? dead rich parents and kung-fu.

bmor999 · 2014-01-20T00:42:54+00:00

You fucking just do it

dillpiccolol · 2014-01-20T01:36:24+00:00

Put your arm around here. When she gives a bit a of a look (unless she's like horrified, usually a woman will just be a bit coy at this point) just say something like "Pretty good move, huh?" A corny laugh helps sell it. Escalate from there (you typically can kiss her then, you're basically breaking the physical ice there).

kingcal · 2014-01-20T03:40:56+00:00

Step 1: Stop talking.

Step 2. Kiss the girl.

soapCLEANS · 2014-01-20T19:30:21+00:00

My advice would have been to kiss her as early as possible, preferably during the cooking part when you were standing and there's some physical contact.

The longer you go in a date without a kiss, the more awkward it is (primarily for her, she will feel awkward).

Remember, if a girl is on a date with you, she is 100% open to the idea of kissing you unless you fuck something up. Thus, try to strike as early as possible before you make any mistakes. It will set a positive tone for the whole date, and you will come off as someone who knows what you want, which they generally appreciate.

rainydayman15 · 2014-01-19T19:51:59+00:00

ask her if she wants a back rub, works all the time :)

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2014-01-20T01:44:41+00:00

Physically escalate/Use compliance tests.

Play with her hair, touch her cheek or her neck. If she's receptive, she'll be receptive to a kiss as well.

phro · 2014-01-20T06:16:19+00:00

Once you feel like kissing her let the conversation die.

JohnCooperWrites · 2014-01-20T12:02:58+00:00

What I do is pretty simple. I slowly move closer to see if she moves back or not. If she doesn't move back I slowly come closer until our lips are almost touching each other. Then I slowly start to kiss her.

If she does move back, wait a few minutes and try again.

Bodegaz · 2014-01-20T04:45:15+00:00

This works for me. (After lots of kino and comfort building)

"I wanna kiss you"

"Haha why?"

"Cuz I want to"

Then I just go do it.

a_nus · 2014-01-21T02:11:21+00:00

What has worked for me without failing once is starting out with a basic back rub. From there bring her closer. From here she generally leans on me or puts her hands on me legs or grabs my free hand (at this point I'm only rubbing her back with one hand).

Next I rub higher up her neck and work my way up. I grab the back of her head to lead her into the kiss (this way she doesn't feel the pressure/anxiety of having to turn and face me herself). After you've got the lead on her head you're 99% there. Just go for the kiss.

AliceA · 2014-01-20T01:17:58+00:00

You could always look at her and tell her you've been thinking about kissing her all night, may I?

Title	How to make the transition from talking on the couch to kissing
Author	soapCLEANS
Upvotes	80
Comments	40
Date	January 19, 2014 12:22 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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