Let me preface my saying this may sound very odd and unlikely, but I swear it works for me.

Basically if there is a girl or group I want to open up I will think this: "I want that girl to rub my crotch. I want to make her WANT to rub it so badly." And then for WHATEVER reason I instantly get in the zone. I know what to say, I know when to say it, I know when to touch, and I know where to touch it. And it really works, girls literally are all over me (touching my legs, chest, stomach, etc). And it is all because I thought this: "I will make her want to touch my dick." And then it escelates.

It works for guys, too. If I think to myself I want a girl to rub me, I get in state and can talk it up with guys too. I'm not saying I want the guy to rub me...but for some reason it helps me talk to guys, too.

I think it is an ego thing. I just think "I know I can make her want to touch me" and I get some confidence boost right on the spot. I only discovered this recently and it works amazingly. I feel like a tiger out there.

Anybody else..can you relate?