I’m more split than I’ve ever been before

bonvoysal · 2022-06-22T22:36:08+00:00

many of my college friends who decided to have long term relationships when they were 19-22, regretted the fact that they didn't play the field in that time frame because that's when they had the most access to girls who wanted to have sex---at least in college; you got girls in classes, parties, clubs, etc; once they left college, meeting women wasn't as easy, and they would say, 'shit man, i should have just gotten laid a lot in college, and gotten a serious gf now '(when they were in their late 20's.) Given your age, maybe have fun and if you find the right girl, get into a serious relationship. But don't be the dude who gets a serious gf, things don't work out, and then thinks, shit, i should have just done flings at my age.

Nikita-Savtchenko · 2022-06-22T23:40:03+00:00

I was in a relationship with a Chinese woman from when I was 20-22. The main reason things didn’t work is because she wanted a committed relationship that was steering in the direction of marriage while I wasn’t sure. I liked her a lot and really enjoyed being with her. But there was always this nagging feeling in me that said I should play around with other women. We broke up because she didn’t want to waste anymore time with me not wanting to commit completely to her. She went back to China and I was able to have a few more sexual experiences. After that I felt empty inside. My sexual conquests didn’t fulfill me or make me feel like a better man. I started to deeply regret not taking her seriously enough and now I’m much more interested in a committed relationship. Thankfully, she’s also regretful about leaving and we’re going to try giving it another shot.

TLDR; being a whore is fun in the moment, but won’t fulfill you long term. If you find a girl who you’re very interested in and can see a future with, go all in on it.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-22T22:34:23+00:00

You’re too young to commit to one person.

KingOfTheNorthern · 2022-06-22T23:45:06+00:00

I couldn’t get any in college. I’m 36 now, and still can’t get any. Maybe hedge your bets, and if you find a girl, just go for it.

helpme512 · 2022-06-22T22:16:34+00:00

find a hot girlfriend with high libido, or a gf who wants to have an open relationship/threesomes. i think you should do what your gut tells you, but personally, i prefer being in a relationship. it just makes me feel the most happy!

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-06-22T21:41:15+00:00

Doing both. Makes you confident. Independent. Emotionally healthier. And you'll never have to wonder "what ifs." Or ever find the need to cheat

Beginning-Concept-43 · 2022-06-22T22:46:48+00:00

Maybe figure out if you’re poly or just a pos first haha 😅

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-06-23T00:15:41+00:00

Don’t commit early you only live your 20s once.

amazingbrotherpopoff · 2022-06-23T01:50:14+00:00

it’s gonna be a split for a while if you’re anything like me, id tell you to live your life, hookup with people for a while until you’re not happy with that lifestyle anymore, or until you meat someone you really like and want to be with, making a conscious choice doesn’t really take away that desire for either imo, just live your life until a choice comes up naturally

bandsupjay · 2022-06-23T03:28:23+00:00

I feel like i was in that same boat not too long ago. Im 20. Right now idgaf. Honestly i cant be available 24/7 for a girlfriend since I prefer to work on myself so ill just take whatever comes on the way. Im more important and so is my career. I feel like just focus on you, have fun and see what happens, i definitely feel you though

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-06-23T05:02:09+00:00

Go fucking wild (safely)

Fuck a stripper

Slap donkey ass

Have an orgy

Let a Domme shackle you up and have her way with you

Make a sex tape

Have your fun while it's easier and you have the energy lol. Some of my friends who got married in their early twenties regret not being able to have a hoe phase. I loved having a hoe phase and I think everybody should at least try it once. Just make sure you have good friends guiding you to make sure you're being safe with everything

conorhuh · 2022-06-23T09:34:34+00:00

Bang a load of chicks now whilst your young to get it out of your system and then settle down. Best of both worlds. When you settle down you don’t want to have any regrets and if you are fulfilled in every area of your life you’ll be far more happier once you find the one. I know so many people my age who settled down quickly without living the young life and they’re so bitter

Signal_Procedure4607 · 2022-06-24T00:37:00+00:00

I think it’s important that you know your attachment style first. This way you know what will happen if you fall in love.

https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz/

If you’re more of an anxious attachment I would urge you to take more time to know a girl and see if you’re compatible. Sex is just release, when you get back home it’s the same loneliness. When you’re sick or need a shoulder to cry on, you have someone. It’s a part of the human experience.

Things are weird now. I feel worried for the future generations.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-06-22T22:11:56+00:00

The more options you have, the less likely you are to want a relationship. If you knew that you could guarantee get two to four new hot girls a month, you wouldn't want to be in a relationship because you would miss out on those opportunities. The goal is to get to the point where you have that many options.

Now I will say, as a 34-year-old man, as you get older your priorities will change somewhat. But in your twenties? Yeah just f*** a whole bunch of girls. You'll probably get into a couple relationships along the way, but I personally think that relationships, especially good ones, are necessary to give guys a better perspective on themselves and the dating world in general. But yeah, just f*** a whole bunch of girls for right now.

fist28349 · 2022-06-23T00:04:11+00:00

what i plan on doing is sleeping around, then settling down

6ixlos · 2022-06-23T00:30:11+00:00

Do number 1 until you find a girl worth settling down for

SpeedracerZ · 2022-06-23T00:52:23+00:00

My most successful friend slept around a ton until he hooked with the one he couldn't let go. They're happily married with kids. I tried to find love and am alone turning 40. You figure it out.

kuavi · 2022-06-23T01:16:31+00:00

Go out and have fun till you know enough about yourself and what you want out of a partner besides that's she's hot, is nice to you and puts out.

nopenotmedude · 2022-06-23T02:52:56+00:00

Get it out of your system now. Wrap it up.

Title	I’m more split than I’ve ever been before
Author	Ill-Philosophy3835
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	June 22, 2022 9:35 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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