Is it good to have no expectations when going out?

mindfully_liberated · 2014-02-28T17:49:39+00:00

Brotha, it's good to have no expecations when living life in general.

Depression comes when you're living in the past

Anxiety comes when you're living in the future.

Peace/Chillen comes when you're living in the now.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-02-28T16:24:12+00:00

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quietpua · 2014-02-28T17:17:00+00:00

I don't want to arrive there and become severely disappointed if I don't see any cute girls at all or if most of the girls there are really clique-ish and are not open to being approached.

This is the wrong mindset. Are you going out to this show because you like the band? or because you're out to pick up girls?

A healthier mindset is to go out and enjoy yourself. Go to the show, enjoy the music, and most importantly HAVE FUN. If you go there with the expectation that you must pickup, then you will be disappointed.

The show is your favorite delicious cake that you enjoy. Oh, what's this? Someone added a heap of your favorite fruit topping (read: girls) on the cake! Oh happy days! You can enjoy the cake and also enjoy the fruit topping, but you'd be completely happy just eating the cake.

seddittips · 2014-03-01T03:27:01+00:00

I always go out with the mindset of meeting people, not to score or find someone. As much as picking up girls is good, befriending people are just as good. Just have fun and be open to meeting anyone. An example is I was out and happen to see my ex going to the same place, am I gonna let her stop me from going there? Not at all, I go where I want when I want. I met 3 great people that night and had a good time just talking, I wouldn't have had that opportunity if I let expectations or obstacles get in the way. So just go out, have fun and things will just fall in place, I'm not telling you to go out and hope that something will happen without doing anything but just don't focus on a goal because now you're reaching for that instead of enjoying your time.

SnPlifeForMe · 2014-02-28T19:19:03+00:00

Think fun, not outcome.

Being outcome oriented is one of the fastest ways to shoot yourself in the knee when you go out.

EndOfTheUniverse · 2014-02-28T20:21:43+00:00

Nah. Go in with the confidence you'll have fun no matter what. Outcome independence isn't just a catch phrase we say around here. We live it.

im_so_ripped · 2014-02-28T21:54:57+00:00

You should expect to have a good time and do it.

TheJuventusFan · 2014-02-28T22:37:54+00:00

Most of the nights that I've had in university this year have been "off duty", where I don't go out to get with anyone, just enjoy myself (the workload up so when I do go out, I owed it to myself to spend it with friends, not chasing women), these nights have been some of the best in my three years at uni

General_Fear · 2014-03-01T02:31:21+00:00

Yep.

Don't focus on outcomes. Just go out and have fun. Women can smell desperation.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-03-01T02:57:46+00:00

Do you just spend all of your time circle jerking about theory? Do you actually interact with women, PUA Baddie? You always post stupid questions.

Venage · 2014-03-01T04:57:05+00:00

The times girls have given me looks have been times I wasn't thinking about them at all. Despite attempted explanations by many, it really seems to be an impossible paradox for me.

lord_of_vader · 2014-03-03T15:29:57+00:00

I always expect to have a fun night with my friends, and so far it's worked out great.

matrixs2 · 2014-03-01T22:37:33+00:00

I think it's a double edged sword. On one hand, having no expectations allows you to be much more in a DGAF mode, which is good. Non-desperate.

However, it also makes you lazy and not willing to put in the effort/take risks you normally would have if you were determined to close that night.

I usually switch it up between the two, depending on my mood/state before going out. If I've had a long week and am feeling tired, I usually don't really care and just enjoy the night. If I have something to celebrate for or just feel amped for no apparent reason, then I'd start going off. The latter also usually results in me drinking more though..

Title	Is it good to have no expectations when going out?
Author	ThePUA_Baddie
Upvotes	37
Comments	37
Date	February 28, 2014 4:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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