Is the game destroying anyone else?

FucksWithHiveMind · 2011-06-19T18:14:26+00:00

I went out with my best friend's HB9 girlfriend and her mates while he was away. We get wasted and she starts bombarding me with complements so I'm playing along without giving it much thought. We get back to hers for more drinks, she casually grabs my head and gives me a quick kiss in the lips. I was a bit WTF but whatever, we were drunk. I go to sleep in the separate bedroom and a few minutes later she walks in topless, tells me she is cold and climbs into my bed. She then asks me if it's OK if we cuddle up and starts grinding my cock while bouncing her tits on my chest. Do you know what I did? Walked out and called a taxi home. My will power is none existent too and I still managed to resist the urge to stick it in while being very drunk. The moral of the story is... No matter how drunk you get you can still stop yourself from doing something stupid. This is why no matter how drunk you get you don't go around raping, stealing, fighting, offending people unless you are a jerk. So stop blaming it on game or alcohol. The only difference is that now you can actually sleep with people who would have previously blown you off.

GorillaJ · 2011-06-19T13:48:30+00:00

It doesn't seem like it's Game that fucked you over, you seem like an asshole. I didn't even mean to, bullshit. Nothing just happens, that's an excuse we tell ourselves so we don't feel ashamed. You go out and seduce women, especially women you shouldn't, and now you feel all bad about yourself.

Boohoo.

Azzmo · 2011-06-19T11:52:09+00:00

Most attractive women aren't capable of responding to you sexually if you're an average internet browsing college kid. Being kind and trying to show genuine interest isn't going to get you anything sexual. So in that regard, don't lament the loss.

You've gone past a threshold and changed your personality. Having the ability to manipulate people is not something easily given up. Your best bet is to look to your past (or family members) and find a female who you were able to respect as a human being. Be around her and watch her reactions to your new persona. Hopefully when you do this you'll get awkward signals from her. When you do or say something out of character take note. Also note what you do that pleases her in that platonic sense. Regain some of the pillars of normal, fun male.

nomdeanon · 2011-06-19T13:40:13+00:00

I've been through the phase that you're describing. I think all PUA's at some point go through that phase. The key point of getting out of it was, for me, to un-game myself. I intentionally dressed shoddily / nerd-like, wouldn't put myself in locations where it was easy to meet women, I even deleted all of the phone numbers in my phone, deleted all of my female e-mail contacts -- when they'd call, I'd say I have a girlfriend now (didn't). Basically turned into a forever alone for about 3 months.

After doing some serious PC gaming, soul-searching, and focusing on work -- I realized that the Game is not about getting girls, it's about getting yourself. By this I mean finding the optimal version of you, the you that fits into society best, is the most productive and motivated version of you. When you think about it this way, the Game applies to everything you do in life. Do it with passion, with intensity, with a little flair. That, motherfuckers, will take you a long way and keep you sane in the process.

am_i_punk_yet · 2011-06-19T11:20:43+00:00

If you are a dick, women will only use you as one. Learn how to be more than that.

Or simply be an amazing fuck and have it evolve from there.

makrate · 2011-06-19T09:41:26+00:00

You came here to mock me didn't you?

blackdevildisco · 2011-06-19T16:45:03+00:00

I can appreciate how it's hard not to "game" women once you know how – but it shouldn't be hard to not sleep with them, and it sounds like you may be a bit needy on that front if you can't help but sleep with every girl who throws herself at you.

2011-06-19T13:55:00+00:00

The game is like a weapon. It can be used for bad or for good.

Urik88 · 2011-06-19T14:49:49+00:00

You don't shit where you eat. Never forget that sentence.

If you can't help but attract them, then refuse their advances when they respond to your unconscious game. Be a cold asshole.

dope_monkey · 2011-06-19T16:01:30+00:00

You sound like someone who would say, "Don't hate the player, hate the game." The process of learning seduction cultivates self-awareness, yet you suddenly reached a point where it was all-natural, and the self-awareness goes right out the window? I can't help it! I'm just so damn seductive!

Control is the biggest lesson, IMO.

2011-06-19T18:47:48+00:00

It's about your own personal morals and values. If you have none,.. well, good luck.

canadian_stig · 2011-06-19T19:12:13+00:00

I think you missed the point of seddit. It's to be a better man, not a better player.

thesacred · 2011-06-19T12:05:02+00:00

I do have a similar problem. I sleep with all of my attractive female friends, which sort of makes things difficult in the long term. There's a phrase in Japanese to the effect that you should use a shrimp to catch a bass. It's a mistake to eat every shrimp you get your hands on. But I tend to do it anyway, alas.

40_year_old_playa · 2011-06-19T15:34:47+00:00

Absolutely. It's as if I have no other way to relate to women.

I created this account to ask the same question as you, after reaching 40.

My friends had started calling me "Barney".

All of this PUA stuff teaches you how to play people, but in the end you only see them as playthings.

frogma · 2011-06-19T15:49:26+00:00

Like these guys said man, you're kinda doin it to yourself. If you've naturally become a more flirty guy, it is what it is. It's still your choice if you want to flirt with a girl and fuck her. It's still up to you whether you just become the "guy to randomly fuck" or to actually have some relationship potential. It's all in how you play it, and if you don't like it right now, then change it. I have no clue why you'd think you can't change it at this point. It's on you.

Sed5 · 2011-06-19T16:51:08+00:00

I think you think you're "all that" now...that's all.

Seriously what happened was probably because of luck and now you think you're "amazingly good" at women. Tone down the ego. Seduction is just a numbers game and you were lucky, that's all.

In fact, you could go to the club tomorrow and do terribly

Seduction is not linear

Is anyone else tired of these whiny posts about how "the game" is ruining your life?

Oh god seddit, i got laid everyday its terrible. ;_; i think about stuff and analyze everything.

I can't believe people are taking the "I can't help but attract women, I'm just so good" line seriously.

http://www.reddit.com/user/MightsHoodlum

I'm not even sure if he's a troll, it seems like a throwaway

seventhirteen · 2011-06-19T17:16:36+00:00

Ah, now you crave something real, something as vulnerable as emotion, probably the same vulnerability that brought you here in the first place. *Be careful what you wish for they say. *

Advice? Game is the archetype of confident men. Most people approach it as it is instead of blending the archetype to their own needs, their own self. It is dynamic, you should never turn into the archetype itself, confidence should be gained from introspection, not faked from results.

What is it that you want now? that is not what you're getting, that's why game only for sex is dangerous, you've practiced so much and turned into instinct. I think your next step should be inner game.

And stop being an asshole please.

HipsterFuckingStar · 2011-06-19T15:37:40+00:00

I went out of my way, and picked up this book. I'm reading it, and wow. I've been doing this for years. It's just a conclusion I came to myself, actually. Basic psychology can tell you that's how to sink one, but I tend to agree with you. It works for a quick lay, but in the end you really are alone.

Title	Is the game destroying anyone else?
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Upvotes	34
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Date	June 19, 2011 9:14 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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