Most guys won't really understand this because it is so basic or elusive obvious

birdwontquit · 2013-04-16T14:45:41+00:00

You just said the word secure a lot. How does a "bad boy" - one who sleeps with a lot of women, won't commit, and will have the mentality that the woman is replaceable - make a woman feel secure? Particularly when it comes to making sure her "gene is passed on"?

ZeMilkman · 2013-04-16T14:48:09+00:00

Obviously women want to feel secure and it makes them want you if you provide a feeling of security.

Source: I'm a big guy and everytime I go out to party and there are potential threats (guys yelling at each other, guys already in a physical fight, drunk guys "flirting" aggressively) you can see all the women in the vicinity take a step closer to the big guy who just went from a smile and "let's have fun" body language to a "better pay attention to those idiots now" face and body language.

SwissPUA · 2013-04-16T13:23:02+00:00

There's a ton of reasons why women like "bad boys" or "players". For example, a woman will fuck a player purely because she knows that he's had plenty of other women (experience), isn't desperate / won't chase her (abundance) and won't judge her (slut-shaming).

The trick is to internalize the appropriate traits of the "bad boy" / "player" and the appropriate traits of the "nice guy" / "best friend". This is what will you get far.

Also, you should be aware of the various different traits between these two personas in order to get better at both types of social conversation (seduction / non-seduction). You should be able to switch your style depending on who you're talking to (and be aware of it).

AFCs don't make that switch, they talk to a girl they have a crush on exactly as they would talk to a friend and then wonder why they don't get laid.

Note that skilled naturals talk to a girl they have a crush on exactly as they would talk to a friend, yet they still get laid. They manage to do this because they are stuck in the "seduction" switch.

OtherOtie · 2013-04-16T14:18:01+00:00

Evolutionary psychology, aka "speculation passed off as science"

sisyphan_sophistry · 2013-04-16T18:15:46+00:00

You don't need to be a bad boy, you just need to be fearless... and demonstrate that fearlessness.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2013-04-16T19:41:35+00:00

I'm betting something probably clicked in your brain, OP, and I'm happy for you, but this explanation makes absolutely no sense.

Keep at it and good luck in your endeavors.

lady_unicorn_horn · 2013-04-16T18:36:44+00:00

im IN my evolutionary psychology class right now. thanks for NOT distracting me.

Bevman00 · 2013-04-17T13:15:52+00:00

Nice guy with an edge.

scumbag4life · 2013-04-16T13:25:08+00:00

I like this video by Kezia Noble on this topic.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hdEXA1ceaA

TrueEpicness · 2013-04-16T17:24:44+00:00

Maybe a little late, but whatever. I may defer with you, mainly because over time I have realized that beyond some sort of evolutionary and survival trait, there is also a highly significant psychologic reason.

Mainly because ladies like to feel special, unique, and a "bad boy" does exactly that, because they are somehow mean to everybody and kinda special to this particular girl.

And in another point, ladies (particularly young women) have this weird and dumb idea that this guy as hard as a rock outside, is warm inside so they think that the can make him more lovely and soft. Tthinking that she is some sort of savior or something like that and they can change everything.

This is just my opinion and feel free to correct it if you think I'm wrong. Sorry any miss spelling I'm on my phone so is kinda hard and to have proper grammar.

fiftykills · 2013-04-28T19:05:08+00:00

As a bad boy, yes, it makes it very easy to get bitches.

bronson_pinchot · 2013-04-16T14:49:02+00:00

Alpha as fuck, bro.

Title	Most guys won't really understand this because it is so basic or elusive obvious
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Date	April 16, 2013 12:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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