My biggest problem: eye contact

lil_trappy_boi · 2025-01-07T01:36:54+00:00

Start by staring at your own eyes in the mirror

everydayguy_ · 2025-01-07T01:47:45+00:00

I struggled with it at first. There is nothing to really explain. You just have to keep doing it and work on your self esteem.

PimPedOutGeese · 2025-01-07T05:54:47+00:00

So how i overcame it was I made the decision to do it. I made it a thing to not stare away from someone who made eye contact first. So if we have a staring contest so be it lol.

At first I had to mentally force myself. It was uncomfortable. 100%.

Now it’s not even an issue. Not even a second thought.

Practice.

Just_Ad5344 · 2025-01-07T02:15:27+00:00

This was actually easy for me the only issue is how long do I make eye contact sometimes I’ll be talking with people and they don’t look away and just stare at me as they talk and it makes me feel awkward so I look away

The1WhoDares · 2025-01-07T02:51:20+00:00

I love eye contact. It makes me feel like I’m in control. Don’t run from it, stare it right in the F’n face 🫡

There’s no other way around it 😳🤣

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-01-07T01:39:01+00:00

Start looking at peoples faces in general and practice smiling. Decipher whats going on with their face, after that you can naturally progress to make eye contact.

TruthTaco · 2025-01-07T02:40:52+00:00

Look at the spot between their eyes. They can't tell the difference

citytopretty · 2025-01-07T05:18:00+00:00

start with people who you are not particularly attracted to to start. Family, friends, coworkers, people in public you talk to. Try to make it a point to hold eye contact for a least 5 seconds, then look away, work to 10 then slowly get there. Once you master that your self confidence will improve to talk to those you are attracted to

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2025-01-07T03:41:25+00:00

I noticed my mental block was that I felt like if I stare at people I'm invading their privacy in some way. Then I remember some, many people start conversations with complete strangers at the bar or at sporting events, etc

Novel_Demand · 2025-01-07T01:28:26+00:00

Maybe not look at their eyes but focus on the glabella region?

farreeddd · 2025-01-07T03:05:24+00:00

Try looking into one eye and not both.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-07T03:12:21+00:00

Play “if you blink you lose” staring contest with your male friends. Then do the same with your female friends. See what makes it different between both.

Delicious-Savings586 · 2025-01-07T07:31:50+00:00

Don't ejaculate

Toni_Boloni · 2025-01-07T15:59:19+00:00

Eye contact. I found myself super anxious to hold it because I thought I would creep people out.

Now that I think about it, eye-contact has been teaching me that by accepting all my insecurities and learning to enjoy them, I can accept other people’s insecurities and enjoy them

I get excited now because, well, no matter what, it’s going to be fun

I made a challenge for myself that I would not look away until the other person did so first.

It’s going to be hard, you’ll think you’ll look like a creep, you’ll think they will judge you, you’ll be so focused on eye contact that you won’t know what to say… hold it.

If you stick through this, a new world will open up on the other side.

iXerK · 2025-01-07T04:30:33+00:00

I am just not able to look at peoples eyes. I just involuntarily look away as if my body does it automatically.

There are a lot of tricks to make eye contact easier or its lack less apparent, such as those already mentioned in the comments. However, I also recommend checking out CAT-Q questionnaire. It might be insightful regardless of the result.

Oil_Quick · 2025-01-07T05:49:24+00:00

only way to fix it is by working on ur self-esteem lol

Oil_Quick · 2025-01-07T05:50:19+00:00

idk personally i love eye contact. Its very intimate and i kind of feel comforted. Its like a hug, when i look someone in the eye

Dandys3107 · 2025-01-07T07:27:17+00:00

It’s our natural genetical conditioning, locking eyes often indicated will for a confrontation. If you are aware of that, you should calibrate it in a way to not be perceived as threatening. Holding eye contact also introduce mild intimate connection, stay aware not to overdo it in the beginning. Start from scratch, maintain eye contact just for at least one second, remember about corresponding body language, give a bit of a smile. If you feel odds are better, there is high energy and girl seems to be receptive to you, you can try looking in the eyes little longer. Practice makes perfect.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-01-07T08:18:24+00:00

I tried self hypnosis and suggested that I am comfortable with eye contact. I fixed it in about a day.

notmuchtoit7 · 2025-01-07T13:48:36+00:00

Don't look directly into their eyes, just look at their forehead.

dirtsail0r · 2025-01-07T21:21:26+00:00

Stop watching porn

Connacht_89 · 2025-01-12T07:02:01+00:00

Is it possible that you could be neurodivergent? For example, people in the autistic spectrum usually struggle a lot to keep eye-contact, it's almost automatic.

epimpstyle · 2025-01-07T10:41:26+00:00

Don't bother, you have no idea how bad it looks when you consciously tell yourself "I have to make eye contact" and you do! It only takes one second of prolonged eye contact and the girl will put you in the weirdo/psyco category. Being too much is wrong AF, it is like a guy looking at you insistently - do you feel good?

When you talk to your friends, do you still have this problem? If you do, it's something else, no one on this sub can help you, but if you don't have this problem with your friends, then don't bother, as soon as you have an interesting story to tell the other person, you will look them in the eye, because that's how people talk.

Title	My biggest problem: eye contact
Author	Internal_Stuff777
Upvotes	39
Comments	34
Date	January 7, 2025 1:12 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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