Never know how to text for hookups or respond usually

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-03-11T00:53:45+00:00

Being clear with your intent is terrible advice. Not because you should lie and state you want a relationship because that is clearly immoral. The reason why its bad is because explicitly stating you are looking for hookups makes girls feel judged/shamed for agreeing to the hookup.

If youre very attractive you can just invite girls to a date at your place. Wine, cooking, smoking, etc.

Otherwise just invite them to drinks and keep the frame casual. Keep the conversation focused on qualifying the girl for spontaneity, being adventurous, getting into trouble etc. Flirt/escalate during the date. Don't talk about your future or your family values or your career unless those topics give you an image of casual "bad boy".

EveningBeginning3922 · 2026-03-11T13:29:48+00:00

If you are real handsome and that attractive you wouldnt asking it and just telling come to my house would work lmao

ifyoulikepinacolad4s · 2026-03-11T21:57:02+00:00

You’ll start to realise this whole thing is a performance on a stage 🎭

Being honest , all though the most virtuous path to take, only backfired in this certain realm of life.

Women want to be railed without feeling like sluts (even though that’s exactly what many of them are).

The whole thing is fucked , but makes a lot of sense from an evolutionary, biological and historical perspective.

But, at the end of the day, women want to be lied to.

There’s a reason why Shakira’s song “Beautiful liar” was #1 for so long.

Women would rather have their guts re-arranged by a seductive morally ambiguous man high in the see triad traits than they would a virtuous , noble character that is kind and gentle.

Trust me on this.

It’s all a facade.

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-03-10T22:44:32+00:00

Be honest in person and online. “Im not looking for anything serious. How about lets get together and hook up”

If shes into you, shes gonna say yes and appreciate the honesty.

If shes not, shes gonna say no and hate your honesty.

Doesn’t matter about her response. Be honest and the right girl will follow along

Nikalinov · 2026-03-11T09:16:36+00:00

cooked gng

Back2theCouture · 2026-03-11T11:27:15+00:00

If you’re still young and inexperienced, just say something along the line “hey, come over here”. Some women who are experienced usually know what you talking about. Others who aren’t experienced, but have interests in you, will probably ask you why then you just say whatever it is you can come up with (play this vid game with me, watch this movie, etc). Not saying you should lie, but those are the activities you can do with her before you escalate.

Yes there are guys who are clear with their intent, including me. But even me personally, I don’t do that with any girls. It’s like I gotta thread it carefully and make sure she’s on the same page. Quite a few times I can just tell by the way she looks at me.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-03-10T22:49:27+00:00

Be clear with your intent

Say "just looking for something casual/a hookup

Title	Never know how to text for hookups or respond usually
Author	Vivid_Discussion2562
Upvotes	47
Comments	30
Date	March 10, 2026 10:42 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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