Should I work on my looks more before cold approaching? Anytime I get a weird reaction from a girl I just think I’m ugly, wtf.

Ok_Quantity_278 · 2024-11-07T03:07:08+00:00

Not at all i think you look good! Dont doubt yourself maybe its your body language or you dont smile while start the conversation or something! You can always work more on your looks but personally i think maybe you should approach more and maybe you lack confidence! Appraoch in a gentle manner and smile when you talk.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-11-07T03:18:11+00:00

Why not both?

You just think you’re ugly. Quit overthink it. Wait until girls actually call you ugly and start laughing with her bestie. Yup it’s happened to me. It just motivated me more.

The impressions I got from your pics: 1. You lack motivation 2. You’re a loner

Yes you could be far from that, but first impression is almost everything. As someone says ”you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.”

I suggest:

Smile more on camera
Yes work on your looks (wardrobe, hair)
Be ideal if you can take pics together with other people (preferably women) so when they see your pics they can feel you’re safe to be around with. Bonus point if they can get the vibe that you’re preselected by women in your pics.

Bright_Type_7756 · 2024-11-07T03:11:32+00:00

Yeah you're not ugly bro , I mean you can always work on your looks but don't think that's the thing holding you back when in all reality it's probably social skills

vladiVP · 2024-11-07T08:46:40+00:00

Cold approaching is weird. Maybe your vibe is too

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-11-07T15:04:55+00:00

Focus on your game. There are a few things you should do.

Try to set a waypoint you want to get to where you don't care about the outcomes. Yes, you want to learn and improve. But, your mood is exactly the same regardless of the reaction you get. Focus on the process, not the outcome.
Stop approaching so logical. Think "Fun" instead. Don't be serious and steer away from logical conversations. Make it fun, playful, and non serious.

RSD coaches used to say they would watch students reactions in between interactions since this is a typical sticking point. You want your mood to be unaffected, having fun, and not caring that much about the outcomes. Don't just do these direct approaches like you see on YouTube. You can open with many different ways. Try fun.

What you will realize is the conversations will open based on your vibe and body language. Be in a good mood, you don't take anything too serious, your working on yourself and aren't overly reactive to what people think about you, your having fun, etc... Your not there now, but work on your game to get there.

Keep in mind that game is meant to get you results despite your shortcomings. So wherever you land in terms of looks, your game will make up the rest. Focus on that.

Comprehensive-Ad3016 · 2024-11-07T18:53:55+00:00

Hey dude, I can see why you think you might be ugly, but I'll tell you right now that you look 'normal'. As somebody who's somewhat 'ugly' myself (I have a somewhat asymmetrical nose due to a birth defect, but I have been told I have pretty eyes though), I've had a pretty miserable experience back in 2015-2021 where I didn't really try to approach girls at all and just assumed that I was 'creepy'.

The main thing is that your expression and behaviour in the pictures comes across as somewhat 'hopeless' and 'defeatist' for lack of a better word. You don't convey much in terms of confidence. Honestly, changing my mindset and also working on myself has helped me a lot with regards to flirting with girls.

However, if you do want some actionable advice on how to improve your looks, here is my suggestion.

* First of all, if you aren't doing so yet start mewing and chewing (mastic) gum to define your jawline a bit more. Even though yours looks mostly solid, you can still improve.

* In addition, start hitting the gym if you aren't already. Not only will your body look better, but it will also give your face some more definition and improve your mentality

* Groom your eyebrows and eyelashes (you can use makeup for this, yes I know it seems weird but it helps you look more attractive).

* Maybe try to look into a different hairstyle? I'm not saying your's is bad, but it's somewhat 'generic'. Find something that fits into a certain niche.

* Related to that, try to change your wardrobe/fashion to fit a specific niche.

And here are some quick general tips, which you most likely are already doing anyways:
* Get 8 hours of sleep
* Moisterize/Exfoilerate your skin at least 3 times per week
* Drink at least 2 liters of water per day
* Start flossing at least 4 times per week

ZeusxIsxGodly · 2024-11-07T03:43:12+00:00

Hit the gym, get big, grow a beard

One_D_Fredy · 2024-11-07T03:52:30+00:00

Nah. Not your looks. Work on building confidence however still approach. You’re going to get rejected no matter what but don’t let that bring you down. Work on being confident and when you do get rejected just brush it off. Rejection happens and has happened to everyone. Anyone that says it hasn’t is lying.

Contrarian408 · 2024-11-07T04:11:15+00:00

I think you look fine dude. Maybe get a trendy haircut if anything? but even if you dont, as long as you're confident when approaching you should be fine.

ImpeccablyIconic · 2024-11-07T04:23:43+00:00

You look fine...but it's probably due to your cold/loner vibe

pgrocard · 2024-11-07T04:24:02+00:00

Kinda got resting sad face. you look like you're either depressed or annoyed. not ugly per se.

LucaCoco_ · 2024-11-07T04:43:04+00:00

Your face is good. With facial expression, smiling would be really good.

Just go approach and work on your game.

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-07T09:54:56+00:00

Obiously you should take care about your physical fitness and keep developing your style, but there are also plenty of things that you can improve on the spot. Maintain eye contact, keep proper posture, smile, wear good and clean clothes, always take a shower and trim, use perfume. And remember to relax your body, take deep breaths, so you can easier express yourself like you want.

No-Heat-591 · 2024-11-07T13:20:29+00:00

Stop finding excuses for yourself for not getting girls. Looks is not something you need to work on, confident is something you're lacking, you need some game. if you are ready to learn the game and be the man you suppose to be then hit me up.

if you willing to put in the work i can guarantee results but is gonna take time, you need to drop your loser mindset.

Slow-Trainer9390 · 2024-11-07T15:59:40+00:00

yeah I mean the other people spoke about how you come off , smile and etc, It also depends on who you are hitting on and where, I mean looks wise like I always recommend getting in the gym if you are not and some girls like long hair some dont so figure out which groups do and which dont (take this part with a grain of salt girls all have different types) more so just being confident in yourself and build yourself up , you have to make yourself different from others and stand out , examples : Making lots of money, being really strong, having good taste in clothes, being witty and funny and can react on moment to whatever it is, make yourself really attractive or make yourself very educated, you can spend all your time on one thing and get really good at it or try to work on it all be a jack of all traits , girls will always think they are the prize unless your like brad Pitt so all I guess im trying to say is standout in whatever way

VrilHunter · 2024-11-07T18:40:46+00:00

Having game is important but looks will always make it easier no matter what.

For looks, you could start gym to gaind some muscle and lose some bf% to draw out the cheekbones and jawline.

And for game, you'll get plenty of it in this sub.

californiablues99 · 2024-11-07T19:29:07+00:00

Lift, clothes and grooming

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-07T21:34:24+00:00

Just go to a barber regularly and look into what kind of woman you actually wanna keep in your life and dress accordingly. Dm for more info if you have more questions.

MindsetsForDating · 2024-11-07T22:52:56+00:00

Definitely not. You can always move the goalpost and say, "I'll work on cold approaching when I have X, Y, and Z!" and keep adding to that list.

Work on your approaching skills now while you're also working on improving yourself.

Feel free to reach out if you need help or want to chat. You got this!

HunterZolomon2 · 2024-11-09T00:17:26+00:00

You look normal, I'd say grow a beard if you can, and keep a trimmed stubble, that will remove the baby face. I've been doing that for a few years and I got much more attention from women since then and it's so easy, all you need is a Philips all in one beard and body hair trimmer. I've been using mine since 2021-2022, and I haven't changed the blade yet, and it works for pubes too, which is pretty useful.

Truth is it's a numbers game. There are girls who will be disgusted by your looks, girls who will despise your personality, girls who will find you hot, girls who will find you funny or interesting, and so on, there are all types of girls.

Just do yourself a favor and don't go online looking for looksmaxxing advice, that can only end badly for you. Hey, I've had people on the looksmax website calling me an ugly troglodyte even though I've had plenty of women showing interest in me over the years, and to this day, I get checked out when I go to concerts. There really such a thing as male vs female gaze, and don't trust the male gaze.

Onzalimey · 2024-11-09T17:55:07+00:00

I’m 6’4 and conventionally good looking. Looks don’t help nearly as much as you think. It’s way more about the vibe you have. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to look better. Dress better and be fit it’ll help for sure. But it doesn’t help as much as you think

KoleSekor · 2024-11-07T03:11:43+00:00

Assuming good grooming... The way women actually perceive men is heavily dictated by their nonverbal communication and bodily feelings. Their energy. Physiological state. Vibes. This is the 80% of the 80/20. The less important 20% is stuff like fitness or word choice.

No-Preference8767 · 2024-11-07T05:43:28+00:00

Mid tier to high tier normie . Your definitely not at your peak . But also you could have really bad autism face or shake uncontollably with nerves when talking to women so I can't say for sure.

Id make a plan to improve your looks , work on your body language asap and then reassess

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